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feeling guilty
Hi guys, this is the first time I've posted anything but I have gotten so much great info from this site. Thankyou so much. I'm a 31 year old married mother of one. I danced my first night a couple of nights ago, it was slow and I only made $80.00 from 3-11, but I thought it went well altogether. I know this will sound weird at my age, but I haven't told my parents what I'm doing because I know they won't like it. To me it's no worse than an actress in an R rated movie taking her clothes off for a part she's playing, because essentially that is what it is--acting, playing out a fantasy. My husband has no problem with it, he knows it is just work, although it did feel kinda weird flirting with other men, my husband and I have been together since I was 24. I have a sister who is married and currently moved back in with my parents because she is on her 8th "fling" this year, and my parents seem more accepting of her. Do you think I should tell them or just keep it a secret? To me what she's doing is far worse than dancing. well thanks for listening to such a long post, god bless you all.
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Re:feeling guilty
Don't tell them, and if you do, don't bring your sister into it. That's not fair to her either!
I jsut don't think they need to know and the knowledge will cause you and them more harm than good.
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Re:feeling guilty
Gina, many people view what goes on in clubs much worse than what it is. Its ironic that youre attempting to be all moral yet your sis is banging everything in site and yet is accepted by your parents. I agree with Emily dont tell em shit.
FBR
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Re:feeling guilty
yup...don't tell them. this is the kind of job that it's best to only tell who you absolutely must. there's no reason to let them know.
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Re:feeling guilty
Don't tell them. You're married with your own family -- the decisions you make are between you are your husband. And what if your parents try to make your husband feel bad about it....?
Good luck and make lots of $$$!
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Re:feeling guilty
thankyou all for your advice, last night was my 2nd night dancing and after I had been there about 4 hours MY COUSIN CAME IN I was freaked, the manager let me leave early out the back door. He was pretty drunk, and I'm not sure if he saw me , now I'm paranoid that he might say something. oh well, what can I do but wait and see if anyone finds out. see ya later and thanks again for your advice girls.
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Re:feeling guilty
they probably will find out, but the reaction might surprise you. My dad found out but he took me to lunch to tell me he knew, and was very supportive. He said he was surprised, what with my strong feminist beliefs, that I would choose this work, but if I need the money then this is a quick way to get it. He asked why I didn't tell him and I said "Come on. Do you really think I could just walk up and be like, "Hey Dad, I'm a stripper!" He is really good about letting me live my adult life without butting in yet giving all his love and support when I need it, no matter what.
Hopefully your parents, when they find out, will be similarly respectful. If they try to throw you something about setting a bad example for your baby, show them all the nice food and clothing and savings accounts your kid now has, and the latest picture he or she drew for you! :)