Do you ever get jelouse of a girl at work?
Ok I know I am setting myself up to get laughed at but there is this particular girl at work I really admire. I don't think she knows I look up to her but I have said really nice things about her to dancers and I am sure some of it could have gotten back to her( or is that only the rule with mean things said, he heh) anyways sometimes I really wish I was her. She came to our club not to long ago. God sometimes I really wish I WAS her. That is how cool and pretty I think she is. Sometimes if I see her do a dance for another customer I want to dance for that customer and if her turns me down for a dance I wonder what is wrong with me and I secretly get hurt because we look alot alike. When I shop for dresses for work sometimes I think if she would pick it out and if it would look good on her first. Lol! Omg I sound psycho reading this over LOL! Oh well sometimes at work I really wish I could be her for a day. I hope you guys in a way can understand this. She is just like a movie star to me! :D Sometimes though I am just deep down jelouse of her though! :(
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There is a difference between admiration and jelousy. I think that what you feel is very healthy. You don't sound like you know the girl really closely, so it is similar to all the thousands of people who worship celebrities. I personally love Pam Anderson.
It's hard not to feel something when men turn you down, but I bet there are guys turning her down and dancing with you and you don't even realize it.
Keep on appriciating the girl. Hell even tell her how awesome she is. Everyone could use the confidence boost.
You don't really mean it when you say you want to be her. Really her life has its ups and downs just like yours and she has insecurities to. As long as you are mentally healthy and happy I see no problem here!
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Its nice to admire and be admired, i bet you have your own secret admirers and you dont even know it!
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There's always that one girl you totally admire but on the same hand your like "that bitch" lolz... well atleast for me, I don't think ur crazy at all.. and besides having someone you idolize is never a bad thing as long as it's not taken too far lolz..
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lilac....i think u are gorgeous and my husband saw your pic too and now he wants a divorce!!! ok just kidding, but seriously we think u r soooooo hot , so i guess u could say that u had 2 secret admirers (sp??) that u didnt know about. see, you look alot like sunny and she was a personal friend of ours and he TOTALLY WORSHIPED HER ...so as u can see u r stunning just like her! :) yay! yay!
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Lilac, honey, the admiration for other women seems to be a tadbit obsessive from this angle. You have posted ALOT on these topics. I have found the threads interesting. I just see a trend here of slightly obsessive behavior. I guess you could say the same about tons of people though. Just about all of us are fans of someone... my fanaticism being directed straight at Bon Jovi. Just make sure you don't stare at her too much. Alot of people may think you are that hot, so try not to think she is above you. She is only human.
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I didn't so much get jealous of another dancer but admire another dancer for being successful at what she does... and then wondering what she is doing that might work for me (help me be successful).
One dancer comes to mind that works (or worked.. I dunno) at my previous 'home' club. She was/is a hard worker... and hence made good $$. I always wondered what she said or did so that she could turn a 20 min. lap dance into a 2 hour one... or always seem to make heaps of money on 'dead/slow' nights.
I admired her for those qualities and always hope that I will be like that someday. It's a work in progress with me.
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Lilac, I agree with erotic here. :( I think you focus too much on others and not enough on yourself. Girl you are gorgeous and I am not just saying that. Seriously, I bet there are a ton of girls who look at YOU and wish they were you. :)
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Lilac, I've seen your pictures and believe me, you're BEAUTIFUL! :10: Hell, I envy YOUR boyfriend j/k ;D and I second Lexi's statement about other girls looking at you and wishing they were you :eye-popping:
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Lilac, it's totally normal. :) There's a girl at my work like that. She dances SO well onstage, she totally banks, she's always laughing, and we have the same build, so it's natural that I aspire to be like her. I hope I don't creep her out, as I've only been there a week and I already tell customers and dancers how awesome I think she is. Ah well.
Don't worry. Plenty of girls wish they were YOU. Trust me. :)
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Lilac, I have to agree with erotic on this one. There seems to be a common theme in a lot of your posts. I'm not sure if you need to hear people tell you how pretty you are, or if you're just extremely insecure. Don't focus too much on this other girl, instead focus on her successful skills and "mirror" them. Just don't let her know you feel quite this strongly about her.
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Agreeing with erotic again on this one. It's just a bit weird and obsessive. Buy clothes that make you feel good, not what she would buy!!!
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there was a girl i looked up to when i started dancing we became friends and i still loooked up to her a year later.. she helpd me out alot.. but i never get jealous.. of anyone at work
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Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=27;threadid=9292;start=msg111167#msg111 167 date=1084930731
Lilac, honey, the admiration for other women seems to be a tadbit obsessive from this angle. You have posted ALOT on these topics. I have found the threads interesting. I just see a trend here of slightly obsessive behavior. I guess you could say the same about tons of people though. Just about all of us are fans of someone... my fanaticism being directed straight at Bon Jovi. Just make sure you don't stare at her too much. Alot of people may think you are that hot, so try not to think she is above you. She is only human.
Agreed. I really wanted to say this but I had trouble trying to word it incase it came across in a bad way.
Sweetie, it's ok to admire people, but it seems like something that's becoming an issue that's overshadowing any admiration of yourself. God blessed you with a beautiful face and body so why don't you enjoy it for you?
You know, I can feel like that too, but it's never a feeling that stays with me. The world is full of variety, and I know out of all of it, there are people who'll dig my looks/body type above any other so I take pride in myself to a certain degree!!! Just flaunt it baby and don't lose sight of yourself! :-*
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I admire lots of people. I have never been jealouse of others at work. I guess i could of been at a few who banked on a night i woked my ass off and made less. I just looked at it this way, if i became jealouse of others in the work place, i am only going to hurt my earnings. I have to "act" like i am number one in the clubs, or i fall short.
But to admire others is great! Just don't let it get you. Then you may feel "small" compared to her, and that you are not, or never will be.
Pamela
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Of course everyone admires someone else in one way or another. But envy is just ridiculous. I've always been quite pleased with myself, so I haven't felt what it's like to be trapped in that rut. As long as I continue with my education and paying my bills ligitimately, I'll stay this way. :)
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I think it's great to admire other girls.....but don't let it get too far to where it's unhealthy. I've taken pride in the fact that if I see or am around a girl that I think is gorgeous, then I don't get jealous, I just admire her for her attributes and move on. Jealousy can be a waste of emotion cuz it can upset you and sometimes for no reason, ya know? definitely tell the girl she's hot, then move on. b/c it irks me to be constantly stared at, even if it IS in a good way. how am to know that unless the person tells me? those kind of looks can be miscontrued and that could cause drama.....
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I realise what you guys are saying. Now I feel kind of embarrassed posting this. I have always been a very jelouse ever since I was a little girl. I guess that is that Latin blood in me. We are passionate and jelouse alot!! :)
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Lilac,
I had a similar experience to yours, but it was another bellydancer, not another stripper....
I was envious because she had what I did not. She was very reserved, restrained, courteous, always a lady, very soft, and feminine. She is also part Egyptian, so everyone especially loves that in a bellydancer.
This guy I liked always raved about her too, even though they were just friends. When I slept w him once and he dropped me, but still came to our club and spoke with her for hours, it turned into the worst of jealousy....
One night I had too many mexican martinis and told her how much I envied her. Well, it was uncomfortable for a moment, but it turns out she admires me just as much because I was so vivacious, gregarious, and really connected with the audience during me dance shows.....
Our friendship didn't suffer and we remain close to this day.....
So should you tell her? Sure, but don't do it when drunk, hehehe!
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Originally Posted by lilac666 link=board=27;threadid=9292;start=msg111905#msg111 905 date=1085031359
I realise what you guys are saying. Now I feel kind of embarrassed posting this. I have always been a very jelouse ever since I was a little girl. I guess that is that Latin blood in me. We are passionate and jelouse alot!! :)
LOL I feel ya on this. I used to be the same way. I used to be very insecure, very jealous, and just negative all the time.
I dont know if dancing made me feel better about myself (I meant physically because I am in better shape now, than even in my avatar LOL, I have more confidence, and I am not shy) Not only that, I think age has changed me a lot too. (im only in my 20's) but I am not envious anymore, I believe in karma, and I am generally a nice girl. Dont let it get to ya and dont be embarassed. My friend, who is hispanic too, always says that phrase "Latin blood" because when she finds a fault in her, she blames that!
Lilac, you have nothing to be jealous of, you are gorgeous!
:)
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Originally Posted by lilac666 link=board=27;threadid=9292;start=msg111905#msg111 905 date=1085031359
I realise what you guys are saying. Now I feel kind of embarrassed posting this. I have always been a very jelouse ever since I was a little girl. I guess that is that Latin blood in me. We are passionate and jelouse alot!! :)
Yeah, just make sure the jealousy does not affect you but rather make you want to do it better! ;D