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My confusion...
Ok, so I've typed this out so many times & have deleted it so many times. It's probably just going to sound all slobby & just a giant mess.... but, any help/advice will do. :)
It's about my loverly. My x-fiance, now he's kinda like my BF... just not officially. Our emotions are so charged & sometimes we go through a lot of unnecassary drama about where we both stand in terms & etc. We hang out, talk, & do all the things we did while we were together... but he won't let me put a label on us. He gets all teary eyed & I see just pain. By the way, we broke up cos of two of his friends. Mainly one though. But, now two dislike me. Basically it's cos they wanted him all to themselves... and I had all his attention & whatnot. Plus, I hooked up with one a g'bit back before me and my love were together. Lately, we haven't had the drama or anything...and both his friends that he hangs around are getting too busy for him (which I'm hoping to use to my advantage) with their relationships. Anywho ~ I don't know what to do. Cos I love him soooooooo much. I know he loves me just the same right back. I just don't know how to talk to him about us getting back together. I don't want to be engaged or anything. I just want him as my official BF. I think tonight I'm going to try & sit him down and explain that if we don't date... that I just can't have him in my life...cos I can't look at him any other way (which we've tried the just friends route). Anywho - I dunno - I spose that's all. :-[
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Re:My confusion...
Hey sweets,
Okay first thing first, you should of known better lovers can't be friends once you break up especailly if you two were going to get married!
I am not perfect nor act like I am! I am just going off my experiences!
You should sit him down and have a heartfelt talk with him ask him his thoughts on you two getting back together and being boyfriend and girlfriend again. Tell him you love him very much and want something more stable nothing to over the top like getting married but a solid fountation.
Now, here is the hard part you have to mentally and emotianlly be ready for whatever answers he gives you because it may not be the one you want or wish.
And you are going to have to put your foot down and make a difficult desicion only you know what you want and know what is best for you.
I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you get that girlfriend title!
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Re:My confusion...
i agree with the above post, guys have a hard time being friends with you or even getting close to you again after a serious relationship, I think its a pride thing because they dont want be hurt again, so he wont let you put a label on the relationship this time because hes afraid of losing again. Guys show their feelings in wierd ways, I think you should let this one go and find a new guy. I think it will just be starnge between the two of you.
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Re:My confusion...
:'( We let go of each other. He said that he couldn't be with me again... cos of his friends, mainly one... Kevin. The one who I hung out with n yeah for 2 weeks before my xfiance and I got back together. I told him I will never talk to him over the phone or in person. I also told him to never call or visit me. I just can't look at him in any other way than as my lover. Which very much sucks. It's ok though, I'm ready for the whole not having him. :-[ I burned all of his/our pictures & memoires. I just don't want the reminders. Ho hum. He told me he was changing his # on Friday. I hope he does. I don't know why he would though, cos I won't be calling him. Eh ~ Maybe I should change mine?? Cos he'll always give in & call me... No,I just won't pick up from him. Anywho ~ yeah ~ I'm fine. I'm honestly not too upset, probably cos I knew Kevin would through his fit & tell him he wouldn't be ok with me & him & blah blah blah. I think I'm just relieved to get rid of all my DRAMA! :) Well, thanks Honey & Ocean for the comments!~ xo
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Re:My confusion...
Oh sweetie!
Again I am very sorry for all this I know its not fun and it does hurt.
You will get over this. I would suggest changing your number just due to your statement he will call you and give in and there you go back on that same roller coaster! You need to put your foot down and tell him sorry but you won't be second best for anyone!
You are to perious as a person to ever have to put up with that! You have alot to offer someone to have a stupid guy like him who can't fight for you and give up this friend but hey you knew this going into it!
You are the type of women I admire to just walk away from him and let things go and stand up for yourself! You did what is best for you and give your heart some time to heal you will be okay sweetie I promise!
Keep your head up remember after every rain storm the sun and rainbow will come out for you okay!
Honey