Asshole advice (oops did i say asshole i meant boyfriend lol)
yeah so me and mr. perfect (note the sarcasm) have been on the rocks alot of problems latley but i dont want to get into all that right now lol anyways he got offered a really good job making really good money but it would also require him to be gone alot, he keeps asking me what i want him to do if its really good money and hes determined fuck man i dont wanna stand in the way but i dont think the relationship will last as strained as we are and hes really special to me, so my question do i let the cock suck go lol how do i seem encouraging when it not what i want and do you think this will make or break our relationship sorry for the rant lol just so baffled lol
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Destiny you probably should have posted this in Ladies Only so guys couldnt respond. Your man should have enough gonads about him to know the right thing to do instead of whining to you. If you are going to be together long term then you collectively should make the sacrifice and have him go make money for your future. If its a short term thing, then kick hiss ass to the curb. Frankly, I wonder about him.
FBR
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You didn't say what kind of job this was. If it's involved in anything illegal or with people you think will have a bad influence on him, forget it. Then I'd give him an ultimatum.
However, if it's a good job and he later feels that you have 'held him back' then he'll have reason to resent you. Your best bet is to be supportive. Help him weigh the pros and cons -- does this well paying job involve much longer hours, etc? Is it something he will enjoy long term? Ask if he'd regret not taking the job. If he says yes, you've got to encourage him to go for it! Change is scary, but it can also be good.
From there it's up to YOU decide if he's the guy for you. Your happiness does not hang in the balance of whether he takes this job or not. :)
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lol fbr your probobly right about me should have been posting in the ladies only section, but seriously it bugged me that he was whining to me about it to, i'd like it to be long term but sometimes he just bugs me lol i like to go out and party have fun hes like" lets sit home and watch a movie" everynight and it drives me nuts but i deeply care for him i just dont want to be waiting around for him and being oh so loyal if this isnt going anywhere ya know? lol thanks for your input though much appreciated! lol
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another thanks to sara no it isnt illegal lol im trying to be supportive i just hate making his damn desicions lol
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It IS wimpy of him to want you to make his decisions....then it makes you responsible for what doesn't turn out right. I guess you could respond with, "Only you know what's right for you. I'll be supportive of whatever decision you make." How can he argue with that?
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It depends where you two see eachother in a few years. Is this someone you really can really picture yourself with in the future? I think he should probably go try the job to see if he even likes it, but also let him know what your feelings are for him... but make him make the ultimate decision.
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Any guy that whines and asks his girl for advice isn't worth having.
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I agree wth whoever posted and said that if you tell him not to take the job, he may end up resenting you in the long run.
I think making him make his own descision would be best so he does not have the opportunity blame you if something goes wrong.
If you 2 are having problems, maybe some time apart would help instead of hurt.
Just my opinion :)
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lmao blade and thanks for your input to everyone Reg maybe itll help if we have a little "break" i just hope i get no whining tonight when I ask him what he's doing he starts this thursday on the road, but im not gonna make up his mind for him lol thanks to everyone who replied once again
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Originally Posted by Sara... link=board=1;threadid=9701;start=msg116115#msg1161 15 date=1086039340
It IS wimpy of him to want you to make his decisions....then it makes you responsible for what doesn't turn out right. I guess you could respond with, "Only you know what's right for you. I'll be supportive of whatever decision you make." How can he argue with that?
See even the dancers here agree with me me once in a while ;D Thats an epiphany
FBR
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Originally Posted by DestinyDevine link=board=1;threadid=9701;start=msg116132#msg1161 32 date=1086044116
lmao blade and thanks for your input to everyone Reg maybe itll help if we have a little "break" i just hope i get no whining tonight when I ask him what he's doing he starts this thursday on the road, but im not gonna make up his mind for him lol thanks to everyone who replied once again
Im old fashioned but if a man is doing what he is supposed to do, a woman doesnt need to complain...financially, sexually or otherwise.
FBR
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He can't take responsibility so he tries to put the decision on you, so if it doesn't work out he can say it was your fault. He's a baby and not worth the bother. It also sounds like you two don't fit because you seem to want one thing out of the relationship and he seems to want another. Dump him.
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Originally Posted by Blade is a D.j. link=board=1;threadid=9701;start=msg116126#msg1161 26 date=1086043315
Any guy that whines and asks his girl for advice isn't worth having.
So this guy should not be asking her for any advice and go ahead and make all the decisions? Sheesh....and you people tell me i'm traditional???
You just sound like you're not ready for a serious committment Destiny...just take a step back and keep it casual is my advice....how old are you anyway? Young girls should not have serious boyfriends..
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LOL EXCATELY KATINE!
What you fail to realize is him not whineing to you about his problems but just 'INCLUDING" YOU IN HIS FUTURE!
I MEAN HELLO! I don't mean to be so rude or a bitch here but come on. You seem to not really be feeling this relationship anyhow and nit pick on the poor guy.
So I say yes let him go and you can do whatever it is that you like and see what a good guy you really do have and instead of picking on him you will see how even though he comes to you for just about everything it is just him getting your advice and including you and bringing you closer to him. As for him just wanting to sit at home. Well that is on you men will only treat and do to you what you let them.
What you should do is speak up. Tell him let's go out tonight? I want to feel special take me somewhere!
Calling him names and what not is really immature and shouldn't be coming out of your mouth if you really care for you guy. I mean my man cheated on me and I just left him instead of getting all chidish and bad mouthing him and his chacrater!
I don't mean to be mean but I mean come on! You think you have such a bad man read in other threads about how women have men who don't show them attention who go out to the bars, cheat, lie, steal from them. Your guy just asks you for advice and bam he is a cock sucker i believe you called him? That he bugs you due to him not making his own descison? WOW DUMP HIM PLEASE LOL!
Hope he does go and take this job!
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make his decisions = wimpy, discuss career choice with "the one" he loves = committed and I'm surprised this group doesn't see that.
My ex was a very career oriented woman...so much so she took a job in another state and never asked...simply assumed I'd follow. She acted hurt when I didn't
Reverse that, my wife and I discuss job options openly as "us" decisions...the way it should be if you're more than just playing around.
You gotta choose...do u want to be 2 ppl that happen to hang out and party together, or are you TOGETHER. If TOGETHER, then isn't it nice he discusses these things with you? Or is the challenge that you don't want to have to return the favor?
My vote is you look at the job closely...discuss what it will mean to the couple you are....maybe you don't think your'e gonna make it anyway and this is a good time to mention that.
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Allow this man to make his own choice on to take the job or not. If he really seems to want the job than support him in his choice. I don't think thatt he is being whiny, maybe he just unsure about the choices he makes. There are times that my husband will ask me for advice when he is not sure on what to do. He than takes my advice and makes his own choice.
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Why do some insist on others making decisions for them?
I understand that he is perhaps committed.. but, one must make themselves happy,and if he can't make a decision on his own, what does that say?
That's all I am going to say on this.