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How do you feel about taking money from a "baby"?
How do you girls feel about this? First off, I'm 28 and haven't been dancing long. I've done extremely well, and something that happened this past weekend kind of bothered me. There was a kid in the club (18) and he kept tipping me on stage. After I was on the floor he asked for a dance, so I gave him one. I have to admit it was a little awkward! So then he asked for another and I started to feel really bad because he said he had just gotten out of high school (never mentioned the dances being expensive, etc.) He and his buddies decided to leave and he was waving as he went out the door. About 2 minutes later he came back in, said his friends were in the car waiting on him and he just "had" to come back and get one more dance. This time he had a VIP pass and wanted a dance in there. My husband says he has to learn sometime but I felt SOOO bad, like I had just taken advantage of a kid who really didn't have the money to spend on that. Am I over reacting?
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Honesty, yes...You're overreacting. Don't feel bad about it. I'm sure he had some idea it wouldn't be cheap. Young or old, their money is still green! ;)
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I woukd think about it for half a nanosecond. He clearly had the money and had no problems spending it. You didn't break into his piggy bank.
For all you know he is a rich kid. When I was 18 I carried $5 and a gasoline credit card--if I was lucky,
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Ok well that makes me feel better. Maybe he'll be back ;)
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I just look at it from the perspective that this is our job, they come and spend money and I'm grateful. If an 18 y.o. goes to an expensive restaurant and spends money, would you feel bad? It's his money, how he chooses to spend it is his choice.
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As long as they know what everything costs, then why not? There are plenty of guys in their 30's and 40's with low-wage jobs, but would you refuse a dance from them?
I did a $600/hr VIP with a 21 year old last week. He knew exactly what it cost before and had no problem spending the money. As long as they have it, it shouldn't be a problem.
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I sure as hell wouldn't feel bad about it. Most of the guys who are that young and have a lot of money to spend didn't make it working at McDonald's, if you know what I mean. At least this has been true in my experience with young big spenders.
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Don't feel bad at all! I had a kid the other day who tipped me insanely well just for talking, and did mention that his dad owned one really really popular bar around here. So, sometimes, these kids have money to burn, and why not on us? If it breeds a new class of high spenders, awesome!
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Don't feel bad! Hes a guy - TAKE HIS MONEY hahaha. Sorry I'm in an "i hate men mode".
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Dont feel bad...it wasnt as though you are stealing from him or ripping him off..He knew what he wanted and knew what he was paying for...so dont worry about it.
If comes back in ...dont feel weird or worry...just dance cutie!!!
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I agree with the Ladies here.A young,nice guy like that is much better than an old grabby pervert.I've had really nice young guys spend money like that on me before.It's quite a refreshing change.Don't ever feel bad about that.It's also nice to be the one to pop their strip club cherries,so that they know proper club ettiquette from now on.
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Such sweet sentiments, Lorin! It does truly distinguish yourself as someone very deserving of what you receive.
Two important things about this I'd like to mention:
1) Don't look at it as "taking his money"- you were providing fantastic entertainment, put a smile on his face and probably made his night... there are some things you really can't put a price on. This particular guy was so entertained that he just couldn't get enough.
When a customer is buying multiple dances, this is a clear indicator that he feels the cost vs. value ratio is fair. Put even simpler, this particular customer was highly satisfied and absolutely no guilt should be the result of providing something to him that he was enjoying and found value in. If anything, it should present a feeling of personal reward since it comfirms what you are doing is desireable, thoroughly enjoyed and valuable to someone.
2) The younger guys are almost always the more "guilt free" customers. Most have no expenses- still live at home, no house payment to make, no families to support, no car payments, etc.etc. Of younger people, most still live at home and the earnings they make, 80-90% of it goes towards pure entertainment spending. There really should never be any guilt from taking money from customers- nobody is holding a gun to their head to be in a stripclub, and they are exercising their own freewill as a form of entertainment spending. Of the younger guys though, they most often have the lowest amount of financial responsibilities in their lives and therefore make them as good a customer as any.
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Everyone here is right...you're not "taking money from him".
Trust me, when we go to SC's we know exactly how much money we have and how much we can spend.
I was in strip clubs when I was 15 or 16 and I didnt have much money. But I never regretted spending any of it at the SC. Better then just wasting it on cheap beer sitting in a basement with guys.
Dont even think about it. At 18 we should be old enough to know what we are doing.
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If the customer is soo drunk he cant stand and you have to hold the pen straight as he signs the credit card slip,Then you should feel guilty.
If he is sober and signs his house or car over to you for a lapdance,you should NOT feel guilty.
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Besides 18 years of age is considered an adult.
Pamela
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he was obviously enjoying himself and probably thought the money was well spent, wherever it came from. especially if he tried to leave, but HAD to come back for you....that's awesome. you just found yourself a new "regular.." LOL. :wink:
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Thanks for the replies, everyone. I guess I do need to get rid of this guilt! I'm sure it'll happen ;)
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I think you're overreacting too. He knew the price, he asked for the dance. An 18yo is just as capable of making the decision as a 50yo. And I have seen plenty of 50yos make stupid decisions, and plenty of 18yos make wise ones. Dance for the kid and smile!
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I have this attitude: If someone steps inside the doors of a strip club, they are prepared to part with their money either thru me or the bar or both. Preferrably me ;D
The only time I feel guilty is if I have taken the last dollar from the guy and he now has to walk home instead of catching a taxi like he originally planned. This happened with one regular of mine except I didn't know until I had taken his money.... and well... at the time the club kept it (and paid at the end of each shift) so I didn't have any $$ on me to lend him or anything.
He was a good regular too.. young without asking for my number.. sensual.. etc.
Oh well. I don't mind the young ones sometimes as they can be quite fun. ;D
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You did not take advantage of him......... He wanted you!!! You provided him with dances and your company and were compensated for your time!!! I'm sure the "kid" had a great time and will return to see you again!!!
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There was a kid in the club (18) and he kept tipping me on stage. After I was on the floor he asked for a dance, so I gave him one. I have to admit it was a little awkward! So then he asked for another and I started to feel really bad because he said he had just gotten out of high school (never mentioned the dances being expensive, etc.) He and his buddies decided to leave and he was waving as he went out the door. About 2 minutes later he came back in, said his friends were in the car waiting on him and he just "had" to come back and get one more dance. This time he had a VIP pass and wanted a dance in there. My husband says he has to learn sometime but I felt SOOO bad, like I had just taken advantage of a kid who really didn't have the money to spend on that. Am I over reacting?
This same exact situation happened to me once, except for it was worse because he ran out of money and had to borrow from his friends to keep going, AND he was underage and still in high school,bragging about his fake ID!
I didn't feel bad because it was his choice, he had fun, and it only amounted to $60 or so in the end- at least his first strip club exerience (I'm assuming!) was good, and he's now been conditioned from the get-go to be polite and sit on his hands [;D]
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I feel the same way, Lorin. Just make sure he's not deluding himself into thinking you'll go out with him. I always tell my little brothers if they want to go out with a dancer, they have to spend some money on her and treat her like a lady. Just make sure he understands he's buying entertainment from you, not a way into your life.
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Money is Money, He's an adult......
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Lorin you should be ashamed :P ::) LOL
FBR
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Just thinkin', I started going to strip clubs at age 37 :laughing: Seriously, this kid's attitude does not differ from some of the older guys, really.