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Saying 'no' to customer's phone numbers
I need your guy's help to get ideas to politely decline getting a customer's phone number or giving out mine. Up until two weeks ago I told many guys that I have a boyfriend. One of the bouncer's said that I would make more money if I told them I was single. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he was cool with it so I've been trying it out. Unfortuneatly I now don't know what to say when guy's ask for my phone number. I often say that I'll get fired, but it seems obvious to them that this is just a cop-out. I really don't want to lose their money. Often when I say no to giving my number out they want to give me their's. I don't really want to take it because I'm not going to call, and I don't want to lead them on (and I think I could get in trouble for taking it). Should I take it and just throw it away?? How do you guys deal with this??
Thanks for any imput in advance...
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When asked for my #, I would always tell them I didn't feel safe giving it out (with the *69 and call trace and all that junk that's out now).
Since almost everyone these days has access to the net, I made up a hotmail email account with a false name and false info in my profile page and wrote it on my cards with my schedule and I give that out and tell them to email me.
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reg thats a great idea, i would have never thought of it but sounds like a smart thing to do
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First check to see if it even legal to take or give out phone numbers at the club. It is illegal in some areas and you can be arrested for it . Silly I know, but it's true.
If it is legal- get a pre paid cell phone just for customers and always try to get their number instead whenever possible so you can limit problems.
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I have a very sarcastic joking friendly attitude at work, and whenever a customer asks for my number I just giggle/laugh and say "aw you know I can't do that." They either drop it or want to give me their number. They will usually say something like "well you probably won't call but here's my card anyway, just in case." Depending on how pushy he is, I may even say I'm not gonna call, but they STILL give me the card. I just take it and throw it away as soon as I walk away. Gawd if the guys only knew how many of their cards wind up on the floor by the end of the night - when the lights come on the floor is littered with cards! I usually chuck it in the trash but some girls don't even bother with that, they literally just drop it as they're moving on to the next guy LOL
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Originally Posted by Bridgette link=board=25;threadid=10113;start=msg122248#msg12 2248 date=1087239348
I have a very sarcastic joking friendly attitude at work, and whenever a customer asks for my number I just giggle/laugh and say "aw you know I can't do that." They either drop it or want to give me their number. They will usually say something like "well you probably won't call but here's my card anyway, just in case." Depending on how pushy he is, I may even say I'm not gonna call, but they STILL give me the card. I just take it and throw it away as soon as I walk away. Gawd if the guys only knew how many of their cards wind up on the floor by the end of the night - when the lights come on the floor is littered with cards! I usually chuck it in the trash but some girls don't even bother with that, they literally just drop it as they're moving on to the next guy LOL
that's just what i say usually...and it's true. i could get arrested. i'd also get arrested if i took a card. i think the "you know" part is the key. "you know" is what usually works if a guy tries to do other things too. "you know i can't touch you there" "you know you can't do that".
mmhmm
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VooDoo, I think we all struggle with this. :) I have a boyfriend but say I'm single because, unfortunately, some men do spend more on you if they think they have a chance. I HATE the phone number question. I made up an email address, but that's never good enough for them. So I'd been doing the same thing... just taking the number and throwing it away. Or, if they're really rude about it, I just giggle and say, "Phone numbers don't pay my rent." I know it's not nice to throw numbers away, and I know one of these days some angry kid is going to come in and yell at me. Maybe I'll say I'm a lesbian. ;)
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Well, in Illinois...it's ILLEGAL to obtain or give out information in the club. They consider it "intent to prostitute" and you WILL get arrested if they catch you. So, I just sweetly smile and say, "Well, sweetie, unless you want to pay my bail and all other related court costs for doing so...I really cannot give you my phone number or accept yours." Then we'll laugh and tell each other how mundane the laws are...and dance and I'll keep making money. :)
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I just dont give out my number. I say no...you give me yours. I may call them, usually not. But if I do its because I actually didnt mind the person.
If I think they are a TOOL..then I just throw the number away.
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I just tell them I don't give out my phone number, but they can have my email address if they want. I have a Yahoo email address set up under my stage name, and I used a fake name and fake information when I set up my account so that they can't get my real name.
If they say that they don't have email, I'll tell them that I'll take their number. I never said I would call it, I just said I would take it, so technically, I'm not lying. ;) LOL Like Bridgette, I accumulate a bunch of business cards that I throw away at the end of the night. I used to call the guys who were big spenders and press *67 on my phone so that they couldn't get my number, but they would bug me to have dinner with them or meet them outside the club, so I stopped calling all customers, even the big spenders. I figure if they really want to see me, they can come into the club.
I once made the mistake of giving a customer my number. He was a bouncer at another strip club, so I figured that he knew that us girls are at the club to make money, not meet guys. I knew that he wasn't lying about being a bouncer because I knew other employees at the club he worked at and they confirmed that he worked there. Well, he became stalker-ish and started calling me all the time, and I really wished that I hadn't given him my number. So now I don't give my number to any customers, even if they are hot or if they seem really nice and down-to-earth. ;D
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Good idea to just say it's illegal. I know it is in most states so I'll just assume it is in Ohio and tell people that. Better safe than sorry! I'll use the "you know" thing, too. Thanks for all your help. :D
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Business cards go in the database. I figure if a guy is comfortable giving out his business card, he's comfortable with the idea of me calling him at work to tell him what my work schedule is. That is how I developed my regulars. If a guy wants my cell phone number, that's fine. I had a pre-paid just for that purpose. I also have an email account just for the purpose of stripping. Stripping is a business, businesses have telephones, email and business cards. I had and used all three. You would be amazed at how eager managers are to hire you if they know you have a good rolodex. You'd also be amazed at how low your tipouts are.
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I think it is up to the dancer (within the rules of her club) to determine whether to give a customer her number/email or not, or accept a customer's number/email or not, and establish parameters as to its proper use. If I've found a dancer with whom I've spent a good amount of time and $$$ with, I will ask for a contact method so I can let her know when I will be back to see her in the club (and no expectations of beyond-the-club activities). I wouldn't suggest doing this for any ol' guy though (you all already know this.)
Saying that, if you make it acceptable for the guy to call you for idle chit-chat or to set up anything other than an in-club visit, be prepared to receive a call or two. Also, be ready to let him know if he's abusing the privilege, and be blunt and obvious about it. (Regretfully, I've only now discovered this with someone I had a good repore with.)
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I always say it nicely... "Ohhh, I dont know about the number thing but I can give you my email...I'm online all the time" All the while smiling and being kinda shocked...
I do this because its true. I dont like people calling me all the time, unless its important or someone I know....
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I'm a big believer that you shouldn't lie about your relationship status. Just be polite about it and move on in conversation and don't dwell on it. There are many ways to manuver around the issue.
As for the phone number, here's one suggestion. Go out and get a pager. Nowadays you can probably find one for about ten bucks and probably $5 a month for the service. On the pager just keep a voice mail message saying a nice message, your stage name, and where you are dancing and your schedule. If someone leaves a message, either just ignore it or if it is relevant to making money, call him back. Like if he said he is bringing a bachelor party in to the club or something. As someone said earlier though, make sure you are careful with how you give out that number. In many places, that can be considered solicitation of prostitution.
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I actually have a free voicemail account that I give my customers the number to. I can call and check it whenever from wherever, I just have to listen to about 30 seconds of ads.
Then, if a customer calls, then I can call him back from a blocked number, or my clubs phone and he's happy and keeps coming back.
I dont advertise the fact that I have a boyfriend, because I've lost customers in the past that way, but never will I lie about it.
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I joke around and say my number costs a hundred dollars in dances ;D The riff raff give up at that and those that don't and buy $100 in dances I give them a number. It's a pre paid cell and I've got a stable of about 6 regs right now
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I have bunches of cards and slips of paper with customers numbers on them.
If a guy is a customer who has spent some money on me and is decent acting I will give him a separate cell phone or my toll free pager.
I never tell my regular guys about my fiancee'. I feel it spoils their feeling of you being attainable in their mind.
Of course I don't call the guys back except for thr handful of regulars whom I chat with on a regular basis. It is important to know a good regular and keep the lines of communication open. You just have to play it by ear. An occasional lunch or 5 minutes on the phone once or twice a week with a regular can keep him around and spending money on you .
You know who is worth exchanging info with and who is bullshit. Go on you feelings.
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I suppose just saying 'no' is out of the question, eh?
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take it and throw it away, it's that simple
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I just say no the club doesn't allow us giving out our numbers, which was actually true.
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omg i went through the same thing. there was this number that my boyfriend gave me when guys at random would ask me for my number (im not talking about working at a strip club either) but he gave me this number and when a guy asked u for ur number u give him this number and when u called it. it says "sorry but u have been given a number that is not real and the person who gave you this thinks you are a loser." and on and on and on its so funny. i want to find that number but until i find that u can just tell them 1-800-get-lost.
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I found it!!!! Its called the rejection hotline itshalerious!!!! 1-858-492-8002 just say its a different area code. I hope u enjoy it and I hope this comes usefull
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I will usually tell them strait up I have no intention of calling them, they will either appreciate the honesty or be totally dumfounded that I don't want to talk to them otc and spend more money trying to convince me to call them.
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