-
Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Tip #1 - Be clear, concise and focused on your tasks and objectives – and have clear goals for each day, week, month and year.
Tip #2 - Work your plan.
Tip #3 - Drill…drill…drill… on the basics.
Tip #4 - Control the “Little Voice” in your head.
Tip #5 - Have an undying will to win.
What are your thoughts ??? The above is courtesy of Blair Singer (author of SalesDogs)
What do you consider the basics in re: dancing ? How do you control the "little voice" in your head ?
;D 8) ;) :D :-*
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
The little voices inside my head are in conflict with one another :argue:....unification would be nice. One is saying, "go girl, make that money..." another, "please, go home now...."
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
On my drive to work each night, I think of one extremely happy thing from my real life to focus on. I think of this one happy thing everytime I'm on stage or when I re-enter the floor.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
I always hope to at least make $100.Anything over that is bonus.I try not to pressure myself too much and to have a good time at work.Not many people can say they have a good time at their job.Most of the time I do.I carry in the back of my head all the manual labour jobs I did for not much $.Paychecks like $150 a week ect.Now I can make that in a night.It helps me to keep it real. I know some girls get spoiled and then act bad because they're not making their usual high $ amount for a night.Maybe they never worked a low paying completely dead end job as I have many times over. I just hope I can keep it up until I get too f'n old. ;D
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Have an edge over the other girls. Read books on improving sales. Find a gifted makeup artist, hair and nail tech. Don't ever buy anything that looks "just OK". Pamper yourself so that you feel sexy. This eminates from you.
You have to spend money to make money.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
I try to have oufits that stand out from everyone elses. I force myself to smile, and I always think " the worst he can say is no." I guess the longer I am a dancer, the more aggressive I become, and as a result I make more money. The driving voice in the back of my head is always saying....you got bills to pay, kids to feed, and if you don't make your quota today you will have to schedule yourself more next week. That usually gets me off my ass.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
did you have to bring up the "little voices" inside my head???? sheeesh...
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mare link=board=9;threadid=10625;start=msg131237#msg131 237 date=1088669078
I always hope to at least make $100.Anything over that is bonus.I try not to pressure myself too much and to have a good time at work.Not many people can say they have a good time at their job.Most of the time I do.I carry in the back of my head all the manual labour jobs I did for not much $.Paychecks like $150 a week ect.Now I can make that in a night.It helps me to keep it real. I know some girls get spoiled and then act bad because they're not making their usual high $ amount for a night.Maybe they never worked a low paying completely dead end job as I have many times over. I just hope I can keep it up until I get too f'n old. ;D
I totally agree with you. I have the same exact mindset when I go to work. Make $100 and go home satisfied. I know girls who will go home with $300 and theyll complain to no end and I am baffled by their greedyness and ignorance. I hear ya on the shit paying jobs! When I come home with $100 I am more than grateful. If I come home with $400 I consider that a "bonus". Alot of dancers get caught up in the money and turn out to be selfish. Its nice to know there are girls out there who are down-to-earth and keep it real!
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Juliette i hear ya! Most important at work, have an edge over the others girls! Then it all comes to you.
Pamela
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
I like being different than the other girls too. I smile alot and wink at the guys.
I have tried this out and it does work. When the guy comes up to the stage to tip, wink at him and smile, then say thank you. I almost always get a lap dance afterwards.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
I try to be different too, if a guy is just sitting there doing nothing, then I stuck out my tongue at him while I do the bullwinkle thing. That usually gets them up to the stage for me.
Oh, and I totally agree Mare, and Pisces, $100 a night is damn good money. Especially for aerobics class, and chatting 101. LOL that's what I call work anyway. If you work 5 mights a week (ie 40 hrs per week) and you make $500 per week, that averages out to be like $10.25 per hour. That's pretty good money almost 2x the min wage. I just can not complain about that. Especially when you look at it in the long run, that's roughly $24,000.00 a year. What most teachers, firemen, and police officers make per year around here.And that's just from $100 per night. $200 per night is roughly $48,000.00 per year. $300 per night is$72,000.00 per year $400 per night is roughly $96,000.00 per year and $500 per night is roughly $120,000.00 per year. When you think of it that way it really adds up quick.
Kitana
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Don't forget to smile ;D
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Thanks Mare for bringing in your good attitude. I had a 40hr. a week job with decent pay before I started dancing. Now, on the WORST week I have ever had I still atleast matched my previous paycheck. And to boot, it was in 24hrs instead of 40! For weeknights I tell myself that I would like to leave with atleast $100 and I say $200 for weekend nights when it is busier as goals to work toward. Each night when I count my money I think that entire families are surviving on what I made. Never lose perspective!
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
You girls who think that making a 100$ a night is good are insane to believe that it is really okay to spend 4-10 hours a shift taking your clothes off and dealing with horny drunk men who want to fuck you all night and you have to pretend you like it. Get real its not worth 100$.The Cocktail Waitress's make more money than that ona bad night. Unless you like taking your clothes off and rubbing up and down on strangers for postal worker wages or really next to nothing.
I am not saying that making minimum money is bad and it is a gift that we get anything at all but it is also a gift to our customers that must pay to spend time along with dances with you because you are beautiful, sexy, charming and seductive.
Being number one is first and foremost knowing what you are worth!
Is it worth your time, cold, hot, naked, hungry, feet body aching hurting soul suffering through each and every rejection.
Make dancing work for you and think about the future, our bodies do not stay beautiful and fuction correctly for the rest of our lives and do we want to spend the next ten years dancing to pay other people off?
Get out of debt, buy some property, invest, think oppurtunity when you sit with affluent wealthy men; ask how did they get there?
How do I get there? Well not by selling yourself short and not thinking ahead.
If a customer is not willing to dot hat then MOVE ON there are plenty of others that will.
Thats how you become number 1, be a good profitable dancer, maintian a sense of reality, know what your next step, retire with memories of the good old glory days.
Making even 300$ a night is hard to save when you have bills, kids, food, dance costumes, nails-hair-makeup etc...
Have a goal,a reasonable goal each night so that you can achieve a better reality in the future.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
I totally agree with Kitt! To the girls that feel satisfied with $100: I thought this topic was what does it take to be #1!!!! Believe me $100 is a far cry from #1. If number one is $100 where you are means good money MOVE while you are able to dance! I don't know how much you ladies require to live, but if I made $200, twice your goal, I wouldn't be able to survive. Three times your goal, might be able to squeek by. Let's face it. It takes money to make money. I have makeup, costumes, a babysitter, rent, DAMN I need a massage tomorrow! I set my goals high. Sometimes I don't make it. I try!! If you don't aim high, you will MOST certainly never get the money you should be making. Why watch other girls take your money? Duh! I'm the most deserving of the money. I'm a good girl with good taste. I don't know about you! Call your goal keeping it in perspective. Well, from my perspective, I didn't start dancing to just get by and pay the bills. I started dancing because I am a primadonna that not only enjoys pampering myself, but not liking to punch in at 8AM EVER! I set my goal at $100 an hour and that's keepin' it real! Yeah... Everyone says you can't dance forever. Well, we know this.. so you have to make more money to set yourself up for the future in a shorter period of time. Anyway, what does it take to be #1? The more you smile, the more money you make. And funny, the more money I make the more I smile!
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
:o I have to agree, that a $100 is insane (than again everything is expensive where I'm at). I use to cry over a 100 (used to strip now doing the 9-5, wkend gigs, and school thing). $100 is my minimum profit goal of selling jello-shots (downtown Ft Laud) a night (4 hours or less wkends only -fully clothed).
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Think big thoughts, but relish SMALL pleasures! ;D
Pamela
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
You guys are all upset by the fact that we are saying $100 a night, but(and I can not speak for the others) for me, I am happy with that. I have done this for 10yrs now almost. I have my house(almost paid off), my cars are paid, and all my bills total every month to less than $700. That mean I have roughly $1300 to spend/save/blow any way I see fit. I get an additional $350 a month from my ex for child support, and my hubby gets almost $600 a month for his disability. Along with the fact he will be getting almost $2000 per semester when he starts school again this semester. If I didn't really want the extra cash I wouldn't have to work, but it would leave us really tight. That extra $2000 per month I make is all gravy. We still have around $150 every month after all the bills with out my income. I used to be one of those girls who was really pissed if I didn't make $500 a night every night. But I have had 4 kids now, I am so happy in my marriage, I love my house; I know now I don't need the money to make me happy. I already am happy. But that is just me. I will be going back to work more hours soon and bringing out the "ol hustler" in me, 'cause we are saving up for a trip to Cabo San Lucas soon. But other than bigger expendatures like that, I'm happy with the money I make.
Kitana
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
For the ladies who suggested that $100 a night is ridiculous, I think you missed the point. IMO, a lot of what it takes to be #1 is attitude, and being satisfied with $100 on a bad night is the kind of attitude that would be appreciated as opposed to chastising and doubting yourself or worse, blaming everyone else, the club, etc.
Not to mention the emotional baggage we all have to deal with, and if I do say so myself I believe the girls with the best attitudes handle it exquisitely. Even if they do have a few bad nights in a row, they are grateful for what they have and it allows them to come in the next night fresh and ready to try again. I hardly think a reeking bad attitude allows much room for that, if anything it just perpetuates the problem.
Although, I am in no position to invalidate anyone's opinion, and I can appreciate the fact that some believe $100 in a night is cheapening and unacceptable. However, that's where a good attitude can turn it into a worthwhile experience nonetheless. You always have a choice, and if you choose to believe you are superior to the expectations you thought you were confined to, I think you'll find that your circumstances will defer in your favor, whether they appear to from anyone elses perspective or not.
Ultimately, if you are not satisfied with $100 on a bad night and you are looking for reasons outside of yourself, it is still a defeatist attitude, which unfortunately is commonly mistaken for "an undying will to win".
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
What I think it comes down to is being #1 to yourself. For the girls that are happy with their minimum $100/ night then that is great for them. Kitana, it seems has set her priorities, and has made certain things in her life #1. It is worth it to her and that is what she is happy with. There's nothing wrong with that.
There's also nothing wrong with the ones who couldn't imagine making less than $300 or more / night. That is what works for them. They have their individual goals and they are going for them! That's great.
No one is either cheapening themselves or being too greedy. Whatever works for each individual dancer and that she sticks with her goals and aspirations is what makes her #1. Find what works for you and go after it!
It also depends on the club. $100/shift is nothing in certain clubs like the big city clubs, fancy clubs, gown clubs or whatever you want to call them. In a smaller neighborhood club with less clientel it is more reasonable especially when you are looking at weekdays and dayshifts. To each their own.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Taking care of your body ,attitude . when you feel great you always make money.
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
some people wish they had 100$ a month.....
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
AMEN NYLA! You are so right about that. In this town, we have 5 other Sc's to "compete" with. The town has roughly around 100,000 people and two colleges. It is a younger party town and not the influx of older businessmen that a larger city has. I will be honest when I say this. I made just at $200 Sat night. That was damn good considering that I did have to do any extras at all for it, and most of the girls (we had around 22 that shift) made around or less than $100.
The price of living has something to do with it too, It is so much cheaper to live here than say NYC. If I lived there I would demand to make at least $500, per night. And when I worked in Fl, I did demand $300(from myself).
I know I'm not #1 in my club, but I am in the top 10 and I'm happy with that. I just don't have the energy to be #1 anymore, LOL. But being #1 in my club, takes extras I'm just not willing to do.
Kitana
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
Im definitley one of the women who is honestly satified making 100 a night, but because of that attitude I make more money.
My bills are paid and I have money saved and put way.
I could see why someone might be upset about only making 100 dollars, when they are spending more of their money on costumes (how many do you really like and wear before you sell them or just stop wearing them.) I dont need MAC makeup, mine works just as well and im not ashamed to say I but it from walmart for a hell of alot less, not to mention I dont breakout.
Massage, are you really going to die without one...comeon, that is a luxury not a neccessity.
As for the point about a 100 dollar not being enough to be gettting naked men who are constantly wanting to fuck you... :o Its not like you work at strip club or anything right ::), what Im saying is that Im sure that you were aware of what the job entailed before you started it right? Even if we made 1000 a night, every night, there wold be someone going "Uggh, I cant beleve I only made a 1000."
Oh well I will go back to counting my money.......
[move=left,scroll,6,transparent,100%]I got a dollar, I got a dollar, I got a dollar, hey, hey, hey, hey!!! ;D[/move]
-
Re:Top Tips on ‘What It Takes to Be #1”
i like to be happy with "enough" too. $100 is enough. it's more than i'd make at any other job i'm currently qualified for (that doesn't involve prostitution), many of which are humiliating and far harder on my body. as soon as i've made $100 after tipout, i have a lot more fun. it's not that i stop working, but the pressure is off. it's not like i don't want more, i do, and i work hard for it, but i have a lot more fun making "extra" money than i do making "enough". more than enough is a wonderful thing.
that said...in reply to the original post...i absolutely love reading good books on mainstream sales. they apply so well to stripping.