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Sgt.. This is just the first date, right? I would say just bring her a dozen roses. In my opinion, a single red rose is so much more romantic than a dozen, but you can make the call on that.
I would skip the garter, the $50 and such. You may give her the wrong message, and it may be your first and last date with this girl if you do that type of thing.
As for the other stuff, let's just say WAIT. Wait and see what develops. Don't go spending tons of money and please.. don't think about an engagement ring. This is just the first date.
Good luck to you, let us know how it goes.
~Rhi~
if the possibilities you listed are a joke, A+, thats some funny shit. if not....... for the love of Odin, dont give her money(especially dont tell her to put on a garter so you can give it to her). unless shes a dancer that you met in the club do not give her much of anything(at this point in time). i know you like to give, and thats all good, but if you give someone a boatload of stuff early on IT WILL CREEP THEM OUT. give her something small and innexpensive........
i'm gonna recomend bringing over a bottle of wine. what kind of bbq? chicken? pork? something else?
i guess it would depend exactly what you're going to eat, but i think a red or white may do for bbq. would depend on eachs tastes. keep them both light though, if you're not sure what type of meat you'll be eating. id go for a bottle of merlot or a bottle of chardonay. for a decent 750ml bottle $15 is about right(give or take a couple bucks). or bring a bottle of each and sample!!!!!
-goodluck.
yeahhhh... I'm assuming that list is mostly a joke. Am I right?
Anywho, I like Sandy's idea of a bottle of wine. I know it's a BBQ, and depending on the meat, usually red is the preferable choice. However, I highly recommend Santa Margarita - a very smooth and light Pinot Grigio (a little pricey though, at $25 - $35/bottle depending on where you go).
And I think a dozen roses are a bit much, esp. on the first date. A single red rose can be both thoughtful and romantic without appearing over aggressive and needy.
So - the garter thing? A joke? Please! for the love of god PLEASE!!!!
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Seek help sgtjohnny, truly.. Counseling, therapy, relationship specialists, surrogates, etc.etc. You need help. I dont see that list as a joke one bit.. you were serious, eh?
I don't say this to disrespect you and it's not a wise crack or a negative. It's not fair to you, your happiness or your future prosperity which you truly deserve in life. It's just not right if when subjected to the ability of seeing someone for a barbecue that your ideals would have 90% of that list you came up with.
At every turn, you're going to scare off a lot of people even if, deep down inside, you mean well. The way I see it, you have serious self-esteem issues and feel the strong need to overcompensate with throwing money, items and gifts about. You're ideals are just totally inappropriate.. and telling someone you've just met that invited you over for a BBQ to have a baby or give a Sapphire to for a birthday coming up in NOVEMBER is just wrong.
Counseling and therapy will help you, friend. Bro' to bro', you need someone who will give you unbiased, private, confidential advice and counseling. You also need to start getting your self-esteem to the point to where you feel just as 'manly' standing before an attractive woman wearing jeans, a t-shirt and no wallet and $0. Once you start realizing that YOU, yourself is something of value and something to treasure, you'll stop having these delusions of feeling the need to give someone $50, gifts or rings. You also need to learn to quell your fetish/desires and make them a lower priority in grand scheme of things.
Oooh, I totally agree with Sandy as well. A bottle of wine (a nice one), and a single red rose.
I too, hope that the rest of the list was a joke. But, if not, please WAIT and see what develops. It should be quite a long time before you even start thinking about an engagement ring.
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Originally Posted by sgtjohnny link=board=8;threadid=11363;start=msg143360#msg143 360 date=1090703504
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Originally Posted by sgtjohnny link=board=8;threadid=11363;start=msg143380#msg143 380 date=1090704995
Wait! Do you mean the aforementioned list is not a joke??
Well.. Good luck.. Just take it slow... Please.
~Rhi~
LOL I dont like long lists..I prefer the simplifed version. I give her 4 small and we bang bongoes. End of story. Life is better if it is simple.
FBR
So.... how'd it go?
Sarge, no disrespect intended, but most of what is on this list is very inappropriate and if it is not obvious to you why it is inapproprate, well I 100% agree with polecat (unless you are just joking or playing a game with us).
Rhiannon shows us again what a sweet person she is. Her response is very kind, and gentle, but most women would react negatively to most of what was on that list (and for very good, and to most of us, very obvious reasons).
I agree completely. This is the right things to bring with you on a first dinner/date. If you both don't drink you could substitute a non-alcoholic wine, or you could prepare or buy a small gourmet dish to enjoy with dinner.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rhiannon link=board=8;threadid=11363;start=msg143376#msg143 376 date=1090704895
i just realized this. why is this post in customer conversation?
Dear lord....I just read this thread now. If it's real, then damn, Sgt might be knocked out cold outside that woman's house with a broken wine bottle littering the ground....thus no response. If he's a troll, then I feel bad for him...over 150 posts and lots of time on SW....apparently he has no life.
I agree with Jay that the list of questions does seem ridiculous, even for some poor clueless individual. Then again, I've seen weirder in strip clubs. I honestly don't know what to make of it. At all. :footinmouth:
If someone brought the items he mentioned to a date...especially the first, I'd mace him and call the police ASAP.
Like Rhia I sometimes feel that ya can only becompassionate with people. While I was thinking of laughing my :butthead: off when I read it, I couldnt help but think, "What if he is serious?" :(
So sgt, seriously...
If that list was serious, please disregard 80% of it. Take things slow, have a nice time, and see what happens.
Asking women certain things too early will only cause you to scare her, or push her away.
Or bringing her money (and/or a garter may offend her)
Let us know how it went...
...sgtjohnny we are waiting for the the joke punchline. What happened last night?
I would generally *like* to side with Jay, but unfortunately I've seen similar in the stripclubs as well as customers of escorts. They just somehow slipped under the radar from all circumstances.
I also side with Rhia and Lexi that compassion is the key, but I don't think throwing a few tips here and there is going to do much. Alternatively, sgtjohnny should seek relationship and intimacy counseling and possibly a surrogate.
jeeze,hope he doesn't get a "dear john" letter...
hrmph :irked:
*looks at watch*
*taps foot*
*cross arms*
*looks at watch again*
Sooooooooo... we are eagerly awaiting an update from the $50 garter groping, first date sapphire engagement ring giving, baby making love god.
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Originally Posted by A_Guy link=board=8;threadid=11363;start=msg143879#msg143 879 date=1090801611
Yeah, let's end the suspense...How did the date go? :huh:
I"m wondering myself about how it went.. I'm late on posts.. been a little busy...
I'm hoping that you didn't over do it and scare her off Sgt.... I agree with the single red rose idea, but then you said you were just going to kiss her hand.
May I ask why you posted this in Customer conversation instead of the lounge?
Sarge? Scare her off? NAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
Ok... no word from sargy. Hope he's not in jail
Maybe he finally got lucky... ;)
Or maybe he read the replies and didn't expect the negative reaction he got and he is given up on SW.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ferrari link=board=8;threadid=11363;start=msg145353#msg145 353 date=1091029400