Is your personality suitable for dancing?
OK, I just took a personality test. I am an INFJ or P, I really have some traits of both, so I can't decide. This means I am a counsellor/healer. Very uncommon personality. I am sure this is what I am. It fits me to a T. Ummm, what the hell am I going to do with this??? I am not generally outgoing at all, so what am I doing dancing? I do ok at it anyway, but I do need prozac. Heh. This is why I drink at work. I will never be one to put on an incredible show, or be a great hustler. I am doomed to dancer mediocrity. LOL. So it claims I should follow a career in writing, artist, or teacher, for example. I do enjoy dancing as a means of expression, as in I enjoyed ballet as a youth. I can pretend to be outgoing, and do quite well actually, when the need arises, but it generally tires me out. I always dated ESTP personalities, so they did open me up a little to their game. Is anyone else out there a dancer who is unsuited for the job, but still does well?
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Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=12437;start=msg160645#msg160 645 date=1093118902
I am doomed to dancer mediocrity....I do enjoy dancing as a means of expression, as in I enjoyed ballet as a youth.
Bullshit. You just need the right music.
I know, I know--you are a professional and it doesn't make that big of a difference. I have heard that before. Nothing beats seeing the smile on the face of a woman who has danced for several years, and is nonetheless getting a pleasant surprise when her turn onstage comes around--a song that is perfect for her.
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Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=12437;start=msg160645#msg160 645 date=1093118902
OK, I just took a personality test. I am an INFJ or P, I really have some traits of both, so I can't decide. This means I am a counsellor/healer. Very uncommon personality. I am sure this is what I am. It fits me to a T. Ummm, what the hell am I going to do with this??? I am not generally outgoing at all, so what am I doing dancing? I do ok at it anyway, but I do need prozac. Heh. This is why I drink at work. I will never be one to put on an incredible show, or be a great hustler. I am doomed to dancer mediocrity. LOL. So it claims I should follow a career in writing, artist, or teacher, for example. I do enjoy dancing as a means of expression, as in I enjoyed ballet as a youth. I can pretend to be outgoing, and do quite well actually, when the need arises, but it generally tires me out. I always dated ESTP personalities, so they did open me up a little to their game. Is anyone else out there a dancer who is unsuited for the job, but still does well?
Try some other stuff out. Read a couple of books on being a writer or artist or teacher or counselor - see what you might be getting into. Wander into a college and take a couple classes. They might even let you audit one if your midterm - just so you can get some idea of what your into.
Try out a hotline for counselling if your up for it. My mother volunteered at a battered women's home and then came to work there doing what she could do best. I think she found a lot of personal satisfaction in it.
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Bullshit. You just need the right music.
You're not being serious...
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I class myself as an introvert however I do fine as a dancer. Only because any time off I have I like doing more introvert type activities (hence the reason I like SW so much)... { http://www.theatlantic.com/issues/2003/03/rauch.htm }
As for this... there are two older threads that are relevant (discuss the exact same thing)
Who You Are...
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...hat/t5870.html
What is your personality type?
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...87549#msg87549
Have a read of those... and respond to them instead of starting a whole new thread about the exact same thing ;D
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I'm an INFP. Works for me.... I'm not the loud party girl, I'm the classy warm hearted lady. Ya know?
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I am there with you!I don't like to hustle and when I do it wears on me.I will never be a top $ maker.But for now it is good.I am taking a T.I.P.S. class for bartending and am going to try that one day a week for some time until I can move up to a better bar and make better $ at it.I am getting older and those hours are compatible with what I am doing now.
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Originally Posted by MojoJojo link=board=1;threadid=12437;start=msg160676#msg160 676 date=1093121952
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Bullshit. You just need the right music.
You're not being serious...
Quite serious.
Excepting that if Erotictonic doesn't want to dance anymore because she isn't comfortable with it, no longer feels suited for the environment, or is tired of forcing herself to hustle more than she wants to to make it--then she should get out and find something she is better suited to do.
But though I have never seen the woman perform, I don't believe for a second that she is "doomed to dancer mediocrity" because of any lack of talent as a dancer.
DJs are a dime a dozen, and any asshole can play what a dancer requests. Some few can even figure out similar songs she will like from what she has done well with or requested.
I watch them dance, far more closely than I ever watch them as a customer on my night off. It works, not with every dancer, every time--but I have always done my very best with brand new dancers who have no idea what they want or need, and veteran dancers who no longer believe a DJ can pleasantly surprise them.
And while I do love working with newbies and helping them blossom, it is even more rewarding to work with a woman who discovers that she can actually be inspired again.
And by God, you will see a show then...
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Originally Posted by Djoser link=board=1;threadid=12437;start=msg160924#msg160 924 date=1093162853
And by God, you will see a show then...
Right on!
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Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl link=board=1;threadid=12437;start=msg160854#msg160 854 date=1093145332
I class myself as an introvert however I do fine as a dancer. Only because any time off I have I like doing more introvert type activities (hence the reason I like SW so much)... { }
As for this... there are two older threads that are relevant (discuss the exact same thing)
Who You Are...
What is your personality type?
Have a read of those... and respond to them instead of starting a whole new thread about the exact same thing ;D
Thanks for bringing those threads up GC.... I actually did do a search but they didn't come up.
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My personality might not be suited for dancing, but the one I make up for work is ::)
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Yea, I said I could pretend too, Nina, but the point of my post was to see if there were other Introverts who were pretending too. I don't see why that gets rolling eyes. Why that is funny, CO, I have yet to figure out.
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I bet that there are a lot of dancers who don't fit the typical dancer personality. When you first start dancing, it's a time to try on different 'personas'....it can be a way to explore different parts of yourself.
Any personality type can work for or against you as a dancer. Take for example thinking a lot about things as lots of introverts do. Dancing can be kind of freeing b/c it's not a very mental thing (positive - b/c then you're having fun at work)....then again, sometimes I think too much when I'm there (not good)....then again, I do better than many co-workers b/c I analyze customers & what I can do to improve my earnings down to the smallest thing (positive).
Sometimes it's the very fact that we are doing something against the grain of our regular personality that makes the job more fun.
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Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=12437;start=msg161412#msg161 412 date=1093234996
Yea, I said I could pretend too, Nina, but the point of my post was to see if there were other Introverts who were pretending too. I don't see why that gets rolling eyes. Why that is funny, CO, I have yet to figure out.
I've always felt it's a bit of a bummer that subtle humorous nuances don't always come across on the net. Hence the eye roll.
I guess since CO's met me and we had a chance to chat a bit in Providence, he understands that.
By the way, I am definitely not an introvert. I just think that to a certain degree all dancers pretend. And again that's not to call dancers liars or anything of the sort. It's more along the lines that many of us put on a bubbly, happy face at work even if we had an awful day and want to rip everyone's face off.
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Yep.
The personality I take on at work is a part of me, definitely, but not something that can "come out" in "real life". We all do pretend in one way or another. It's not possible to do what we do otherwise.
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Thanks to everyone for all the postive feedback.... I think what I need to do is work on self confidence more than anything else. It has been beaten down for so long that I am having problems getting it back. I just need to learn to believe in my abilities. Everyone seems to believe in me so much more than I do. lol.
Mocking me certainly doesn't help.
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hi erotictonic. I'm an INFJ also. But I never thought of myself as being doomed to dancer mediocrity. Stripping actually helped me become more extroverted. Enabled me to take the initiative to walk up to somebody and strike up conversation without fear of rejection.
Although I did become somewhat cranky if I worked at a place where girls were forbidden to drink...
I think you're sooo right about working on your self confidence. Have you checked out the self help section at barnes and noble?