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Unfortunately, I have no advise to offer up, but am however in the same situation. I'll be just as interested to hear what others have to say. I'm pretty miserable at my dayjob, but like you said: have all the benefits in the world...
in the meantime, here's a hug. :hug:
I clicked on this topic hoping to hear someone who wanted to quit dancing because that's what I want to do! I think you should do what makes you happy, but just remember all the bad aspects of the job. I would do anything to go back to my "normal life" and be me again. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Done it, did it and went back to a day job with a part time thing at my club currently.
First of all, it has its pros and cons just like everything else. Cons being no health benefits- so, does your husband have health bennies and can he put you on his plan? If so, then that's one less worry.
Two, I wouldn't quit your day job right away. Maybe you need a break from it- I'd find a club first to start in, keeping your day job just in case you have second thoughts after you start.
Third, do what makes you happy.
I've danced, quit, retired (I said for good) went back, gone to school, quit, got a day job, got fed up with crap, quit, danced, retired again, got a day job, then got laid off and then went back to dancing.. now, I'm working a day job and I"m dancing two nights per week until I truly decide what I want to do. I've decided I'm never happy with anything unless I am calling my own shots. Right now, at my day job, I work independently so its working for me, but I'm still being managed, which sucks. But, I am still dancing two nights a week which helps me with the mundane boredom I get.
I would definitely try dancing for a few weeks before you quit - the economy's changed a lot in the last few years.
I have been through this same situation so many times. So many times I have wanted to walk away from my day job and just FUCK it I will just dance. But... I hung on and Im really glad I did, because I have a promotion not far off.
I would say - take a vacation. Take a few days off. Dancing AND keeping an 8:30 -5 day job is very taxing sometimes, it takes a lot out of you. Dont quit. Take a week off, and see if you dont feel much better when you get back.
You just sound fed up, like you just maybe need a break.
I agree with Gynger and Playboycntrfold about job benefits. We all get burned out unless the job provides enough change, growth and challenge without too many issues. The day will come when you will never be able to dance and it will be important to have built some stable track record of employment for your age. (Unless you banked a million from dancing, then it wont matter).
Like leanneciccone says its time for a break or a company change.
P.S. Playboycntrfold, luv your new avatar.
I myself was actually put in a situation i had little control over. My day job pays pretty well to, benefits, vacation time, personal leave, 6 days a month off for the hell of it and a 401K. However i almost lost my job due to kinda climbing the ladder some and along comes NUDE pictures of me in the elevators!!! No shit. NOW, the job knows i strip, no one cared, until you start moving up the ladder.
Anyway, what i did was used 2 weeks of personal leave and looked around. I dance in Miami, so the drive daily would be tough with late hours and stuff. I don't want to live in Ft. Lauderdale again either, so...i decided to keep my "real" job and dance too! I cut back as much as i could on my hours at my "real" job and moved (kinda) to another dept.
It works for me. If you leave your job, do so on good terms, you may need to go back.
Good luck,
Pamela
To be 27 again. Life is long. Be happy. Quit your day job, take a risk, and try something new. IMO.
thanks :cutie:Quote:
Originally Posted by WiseGuy_TX link=board=27;threadid=12533;start=msg162081#msg16 2081 date=1093314671
Gynger, wow. Just goes to show that nothing is absolute...
Dancing loses a lot of it's charm when you're doing it because you have to, not for extra cash or because you want to.
Definitely keep us posted. In the end, you need to do what you need to do. Sometimes we avoid taking risks because we are afraid of what might happen...but, you know...it's not always fun staying in the "comfort zone". Life is about experience. It's about change...and, as you know, in order to experience change you need to put yourself out of your comfort zone and just do it! :D Your life will change dramatically after you have a baby...so if you want to dance now would be the best time to do so. Make sure that you really save up all of that money and put it aside. I would also suggest, maybe, taking the Dancer Wealth class. Learn how to hustle right from the start and give yourself a "one upper" right away. I'm on LOA and deciding whether or not to go back (full-time mommy) but, if I do go back, I will definitely take the class.
Good luck!!
wow venus.. that is just what i needed to read!!! thank you so much :) Reading your post has made me decide to go ahead with something i have been contemplating the last few days but was too scared to do. Now im am going to go ahead and DO IT!!! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=27;threadid=12533;start=msg162436#msg16 2436 date=1093355625
Page~ is possible for you to work part-time at your current job? if so i would do this, while working in a club during the night.... that way you will have time to decide what it is that you want to do, without rushing in to a decision.
Seraya.
Hey hun,
As long as you weigh all of your options and feel that this is the best thing, then go for it. Its good that you have a supportive husband... god knows we all need someone to accept or understand this lifestyle.
If dancing truly makes you happy then go for it. Why dont you start dancing now, and see how it goes while you maintain your real job and then if all goes well, make the decision you feel is right? :D
Good luck. Hope it works out for ya.
I was in your situation, except I'm not married.
I quit the day job a little over a year ago and now dance full time. I never regretted it because I was so bored with my "career" and dancing made me happy....still does.
Take the risk and hoarde the money for a time when you are going to need it. Yeah, the money fluctuates, but over the course of time, it's better and you don't have to work as much.
Also, to any woman in this situation worrying about health insurance....you can stay on your employer's plan for 18 months after you quit and even then, you can still buy indepentdent contractor health insurance.
I'm currently in school full-time, but until about a month ago I also had a "day' job and then I was dancing about 2-3 times a week. I was in the same position you were. I did not like my boss, I made just as much money dancing as I did in 2 WEEKS at my "day' job, and I was just too mentally worn down. So what did I do? I put in my two weeks and got out of the negative enviroment I was in. I feel so much less stress!!! It waws like a weight being lifted off my shoulders...... now I am not spreading myself too thin and I can enjoy things in life. If you feel dancing will make you happier, then I say go for it!!! Good luck girly!!!
Work both jobs for a little while - like dancing every Saturday night or something to test things out. If you could work part-time, that would be the best bet, I think. Depending on where you live, Sun - Wed can be very slow at clubs. The great thing about having another job is that you can choose to dance on the money-making nights only.
I quit my job too -- I realized I could never be happy in an office day in and day out. But just dancing bored me too - so I started going back to school & now I am very happy with my decision.
i am going through the similar thought process right now...returned to an office job that isn't enough of a challenge or enough $$$, but is stable, with potential to be something really lucrative and challenging in the not-so-far-off future. however...for now it is painful, and at 28 i'm feeling the pressure of time, etc. i would go back to dancing full time, 'cept i live in an area with none-to-few clubs...argghhhh :-[!!! i say if you have the chance, do it now, follow your heart! with the support and backing it sounds like you have...it would be unfortunate to always be wondering. good luck girl!!! :D
See if i were a female with a hot body there is no way i would be getting up to do anything in the morning but go to the beach.
Pazzo, what do you mean? Hanging on the beach would not make any money... we want money. LOL
Yes, nothing is absolute. One never knows what one may need to go back to. Don't burn any bridges.
I meant I would be going to the beach getting a tan during the day and dancing at night. no way i would get up everyday and do the 9 to 5 if i had a nice ass to shake and make me good moneyQuote:
Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=27;threadid=12533;start=msg162829#msg16 2829 date=1093386406
PAZZO..
You do realize that some of us are not near a beach correct???
Or, more importantly, that dancing is not the easiest job as much as some people would like to think..
Right?
I've been faced with this choice more than once. Since you are married and plan to interrupt your career for children anyhow, a number of factors will affect you differently ...
#1 - I assume that Hubby can add you to HIS employer's health insurance coverage, so that you don't have to face a $500 per month bill for private health insurance ?
#2 - I assume that the "straight job" you're working at now is not providing huge paychecks or bonuses or a shining career path which you might change your mind about pursuing ?
#3 - I assume that Hubby's paycheck could cover the bare essentials should you become sick or injured and thus unable to dance ?
If these 3 things are true, then it boils down to a simple equation of relative income potential, relative job satisfaction, and relative physical and emotional toll on yourself. If you are planning on "retiring" within a few years anyhow to start raising children, and if Hubby has the basics covered, then I don't see any reason that you shouldn't 'cash in' for a few years by dancing.
Ive been thinking about doing the same thing. (quitting the day job). But, its dependable, and I have a son to take care of, and eventually I know I will move up so its worth the stress...it almost isnt..if I didnt have a son, I would just dance and go to school. Children do complicate the equation. You might have the baby and be a totally different person. you dont know whats ahead of you.
In life, we must balance risk and stability. You dont want to go too far on either side - like stay too routined and get bored and stagnant, or be too risky and wreck the precious lives we have worked so hard to build for ourselves. You are the only one who can decide if this change will put you too far on one side or the other.
in any case, good luck and do whats right for you.