Q's about dancers' boyfriends in the strip club...
It's happened on several occasions where a dancer will point out a guy mention that he's the boyfriend of one of the other dancers. It happened this past weekend and sparked a dicussion. Just wanted to hear what you folks thought.....
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
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Would you ever want your boyfriend around in the club while your working?
Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
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I'm just hoping to compare the reactions of the participants on this board with those of some of the dancers I know.
Thanks for your feedback.
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?At the clubs I've worked in it's usually against the rules to allow boyfriends or girlfriends or spouses into the club while their S.O. is working,and for good reason: jealousy often times rears it's ugly head and someone causes a scene. I myself don't really care unless it affects their money which in turn affects my money.
Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
If he's there when she isn't I hope he's spending HIS money on the girls and not hers.
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Would you ever want your boyfriend around in the club while your working?
Being a dj I often worked with Deanna, she didn't mind me being there as long as I played the right music, lol. Typically if I was working I didn't allow ANY of my friends into the club because most of them failed to realize I was there, much like the girls, to make money and couldn't spend my shift partying with them.
Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
I never minded if Dea went to clubs where I didn't work, either as a customer or a dancer.
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SO's generally aren't allowed.
If a dancer told me that someone was another dancers boyfreind, I would think she was jealous of that dancer and trying to hurt her money/take her customer.
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SO's are not allowed in my club when we are working. I have seen some of the girls bring theirs in when they weren't working, and they were always polite and tipping well.
My fiance really wants to come in and see me dance, but I don't think it would be a good idea. For one, it's against the rules and a lot of the girls have seen his pic. Also, I know he's supportive of me doing this and he knows what goes on in the club, but I think actually seeing me do my thing would do more harm than good. I'd rather stick to giving him special lap dances at home. :)
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
If he is there for a short period, I think, how sweet for him to come and see her..
If he is hanging out all night, I think, what a controlling person he is and that he is very untrusting..
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Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
As long as she knows, I think it's fine... I usually say, "Where's your girl?" Most of them respond with, "relaxing at home, she did not feel like coming out" or "out with the girls"
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Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
I love it when he tips the dancers...
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Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
He does not like the other clubs but, I would not care as long as he told me about it and was honest.. ;)
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
I could care less.
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Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
None of my business.
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Would you ever want your boyfriend around in the club while your working?
Absolutely not and he would not come into the club when I am working anyway. He is knows he would get upset so we don't go there. When I first started dancing, the guy I was seeing came up to the club. He watched my stage show. On second stage he tipped me a $20 and left. He was very proud of me for being brave. Sadly the relationship didn't last.
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Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
I would not care unless she was a girl who had started a problem with me. But that doesn't happen but once or twice, luckily.
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Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
He recently went to Fantasies when he was back in Joisey. I like to hear all the gory kinky details. I am not jealous because he is completely devoted to me and there are few strippers that could even remotely compare to how good an LD is from me...he gets extras of course! :P
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
A: My boyfriend and I are really close and I always saw it as very cool that he didn't have a problem with me dancing. So, every couple of months on a busy night (toward the end) when the club was packed with dancers and patrons I'd tell him to come on in to the club and my friends and I would all give him dances, double dances, etc. His favorite was the doubles where he got to see me and some other dancer really close to one another and close to him. I know he'd never come to clubs without me but I wanted him to have the experience, you know? He'd sit at the tip rail, watch the girls (many of who knew who he was and who'd give hima super show), and have a great time. He tipped them, I'd buy him dances, etc. sort of as my way to say thanks for being so cool and in answer to your question, I didn't get jealous. I know guys like to look at naked girls and why should I get mad at something that is natural? I was glad that he was having a good time that he probably woudln't have (out of respect for me) unless I dragged him into the club and made it happen.
That being said, I would never tell a customer that he was my boyfriend, or any of the other girls who weren't my personal friends outside the club. I mean, why would someone do that? In fact, when my boyfriend was visiting I really wouldn't work too much, which is why I had him come in towards the end of the night after I made my quota. It just felt too wierd to be talking to other guys in front of him, even though he knows that is how we make our money.
As to having him come in when I was not there, in our situation he just wouldn't do that. We are pretty much inseparable when I'm not at work.
Also, I don't really care if other girls have their SO's in the club, though I've never known too many to do that, or to advertise it if they did.
I hope that answers some of your questions.
~Piper
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There isnt one good reason why most clubs dont allow SO in the club.There is a zillion reasons.
It isnt good for the club and its not good for the entertainers money,and its not good for the entertainers relationship.
You may have a few that disagree with me,but chances are,its gonna end bad.Why take the chance if this relationship is something you care about.
A visit once in a blue moon doesnt hurt everyone,but sometimes it does.
I will add an opinion about a entertainers boyfriend who comes into the club when she isnt working.If he is there getting lapdances,it always starts a shitstorm!
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Well, BF's aren't allowed in the club I work at for the usual reasons, mostly jealousy issues. I wish he could because I don't drive and he takes me home on a bike so I would rather he be able to come in. Not to stay, mind you. Every once in a while he does like to see me dance and I like to show him new pole tricks and the like, but I wouldn't want him there all night. That would ruin my hustle.
As for dancers telling on other dancers that is a BIG no no! It is against my club rules to "hate" on other dancers. We can't even say we like someone to a customer because dancers have spread rumors about others. Grrr, I do hate that. When a dancer says that that is the BF or husband of another dancer it is either untrue or the girl is being cruel. She doesn't realize that the bearer of bad news doesn't ever look better for it. So when a dancer does that, realize that it isn't out of kindness by any means.
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
I've only seen this once, and it seemed okay. She didn't spend a ton of time w/ him, and he seemed like a normal customer. He tipped everyone, bought dances from his girl, AND others... it was aiight.
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Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
I think as long as she knows it, then that's fine.
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Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
I think I'd actually be MAD if he didn't tip the others. That's RUDE! There's a couple of girls I can think of that I'd even like to give him a double dance with.
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Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
nah. I might be upset if I didn't get to go with sometimes tho'. :cutie: I still LOVE to be a sutomer too ya know.
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I am generally of the opinion that it is a bad idea to take s.o's to gigs, even though I have done it myself in the past. I think it damages the fantasy for the customer that you are "unavailable".
However, because I am (or have been) unavailable, it has been a good out for me too - if I needed it.
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Hey, thanks for the great feedback guys!
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anything for you verfy...
well :thinking: ALMOST anything. :laughing:
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The club I go to the boyfriend can't come in when the girlfriend is working.
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My guy supports me dancing 100%. While many clubs don't allow boyfriends in the club while a dancer is working, some are ok with it.
Since my fiancee' understands this business, he randomly goes in clubs when I am working to see how my selling is working and how well I am competing with the other dancers. In a big busy club like in Vegas I may walk up to him anonymously and he may direct me to customers or give me feedback on how I'm working and that's it.
He never acts like he knows me and will never go in a club that has an all white clientele like some smaller clubs I work at since we are black, so the customers won't associate him with me. Some of the owners and workers of the smaller clubs ask why he won't come in but he won't. he has seen the clubs before I worked in them and that's it.
He is not going to do anything to jeopardize my money. Why would a guy be jealous over a customer anyway? If this is a serious boyfriend and you live together, your money is his money and vice versa so why would he freak out?
Why would a dancers boyfriend go to her club when she is not working anyway if they have a committed relationship?
My guy goes to various club all the times in his travels and sizes them up for me. That is helpful for me as he is very analytical of club momentum.
As far as him tipping on stage that is no big deal to me, but he usually sits in an area away from the stage.
If another dancers boyfriend was in the club which I see from time to time it is no big deal.
A boyfriend being in the club on your day off tipping and buying dances is not a boyfriend. A guy like that has no respect for a girl and to me could be a sign of a violent relationship. :o
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I've had dancers get possessive of boyfriend who are in the clubs, like I was chatting with a guy, didn't realize he was attached to anyone, and after a few minutes another dancer comes over, gives me a real dirty look and says in over-sweet voice to him "honey, how's it going? -*to me*- I see you've met my BOYFRIEND." Ugh. Stupid. It was about 45 minutes until closing time, how am I supposed to know?
Officially, no SOs in the club while entertainer is working, and I've been in old club once as a customer with BF when it was another girl's birthday and I wanted him to see the club. He got 'spoken to' by the DJ for giving me a peck on lips as "another customer might know she's a dancer and think they can act that way with other dancers." >.< 'Course that DJ drove me nuts anyway.
I felt bad when I was auditioning at new club, because they let my BF go in to wait [I auditioned in another section] and he had about $2 on him, if I'd thought about it I would've handed him at least enough to tip the girls on stage. :P
Katrine, my stupid ex went with me on amatuer night and didn't tip me on stage because "the drinks were expensive and we had to pay cover" >.<
I wish I could let him into the club like if I was the last girl on stage and after that we were closing or something, I'd like for him to be able to see me on stage at least once. I don't think I'd be too comfortable if he was there while I was working the floor, just be awkward and I wouldn't feel great for leaving him by himself.
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
Well.. I'd tell a manager as it is club policy to not allow boyfriends or husbands in the club. So.. I do care... esp. this new club as I don't want hassles.
Whereas one of the other clubs it would be fine as it isn't a busy club at all... and the rule isn't enforced there.
Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
I would be a curious cat and wonder why... esp. if he is there by himself and she isn't working (it is known that it is her day off). Hmm..
Would you ever want your boyfriend around in the club while your working?
I would love to have my boy around in the club whilst I was working as he turns me on so damn much HOWEVER it also makes me lazy and cuts into my productivity... so ultimately.. I would prefer if he stayed away.
Or even better yet.. went to another SC whilst I was working.
Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
Wouldn't phase me one bit. I would encourage him to esp. if I liked the dancer he was tipping as well. Yet that would only happen when I had the night off and have brought him into the club... as previously stated.. he's not allowed in the club otherwise.
Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
See a previous response. I'm all for it. I'd rather him go to another SC.. leer at and fondle other dancers than for him to go to a nightclub locally and maybe 'pick up'. Not just that... I know what SCs are about.. so I'm definately all for it.
Having him go to the other SCs will help me too... he'll be able to keep me up2date on how other SCs are going and such. ;D
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
A wise dancer boyfriend knows that her dancer friends have a psychic link and if she cares then they care.
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Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
She thinks its time for a smackdown, lockdown or shutdown while i sleep in the dog house.
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Would you ever want your boyfriend around in the club while your working?
No she would not want me there. ...unless my sweetie wants to punish me.
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Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
I'm saving that jealousy ace card for a rainy day. LOL
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Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
...i worry about that psychic link.
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Just out of curiousity, what do you think when you see another dancer's boyfriend in the club? or do you not really care?
I don't care, as long as the girl doesn't start a problem if I mistake him for a customer and ask him for a dance (I would never ask if I knew he was dating another dancer)
Also, what do you think if he's there at a time when she's not?
As long as he's blowing his own paycheck...
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Would you ever want your boyfriend around in the club while your working?
My boyfriend used to be a strip club dj, so nights he comes in to see me, he usually keeps me pretty motivated (go sit with another guy, stay away from me and go make some money :)
Would you get jealous if you saw him tipping other dancers up on stage or not really care?
I don't care about stage dancing or dollar dances, however lap dances I don't mind him getting as long as he's not borrowing money from me at the end of the week :)
Do you care if your SO were to go to other SCs that you don't work at?
If he went with a couple of friends I wouldn't mind...
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