how to keep a regular interested
So..I FINALLY have regular customers who visit to club just to see me (yay!) and there is one guy who is really into me and spends tons of $ for my dances every day that I work. He buys me gifts and is totally sweet, so of course I want to keep him around for ever. I don't have much variety in my lap dances - I pretty much do the same moves every time and switch it up a bit, so I'm afraid he might get bored with me eventually. We have a lot in common and chat quite a bit, so that helps. I know I can't expect him to see me forever, but how do I keep him interested and excited for the long-term?
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Clover, it sounds like you and your regular have laid the foundations for a solid (professional) relationship. When I was a regular at a club back home in CA, the familiarity that dancers had with the regular clientele (hanging out, chatting) was just as important as the dances they gave us. Most of us got dances from the same girls *because* we liked the moves they did, even if they did the same ones over and over.
Does he stick pretty much to you or does he regularly get dances from anyone else in your club? IMO, if you think his eyes are straying to other dancers because he's seen the same moves, try a different outfit or hairstyle, or when you're on stage try a song that is a 180-degree turn from what you'd normally dance to. You might even ask him for suggestions.
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Don't suddenly start simpering and sit with him forever and do whatever he wants. Keep professional, keep up your busy popular image, but do little things for him (like focus your stage set solely towards him, or buy him a drink, or give him an extra enthusiastic hello... different guys like different things, some like to feel important, and some like to feel an emotional connection). Mixing it up is the key, as long as you keep him on a variable reinforcement schedule, he'll keep giving you money. Think like your a slot machine... every once in a while spit out a jackpot and he'll keep shoving the cash in.
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Regulars suck, thay are a huge pain in th ass and not worth it. They will decrease your overall earnings .ive been experimenting with regulars ith poor results. I firmly belief that hustle ad hit n run dances are the way to go. $.02
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I totally agree with Katrine.Regulars will expect more as time progresses.
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being in sales I love regular customers...why wouldn't relationship sellers like strippers be the same? I think hit and run sales is short sighted.
As far as keeping them interested for awhile...since strippers are essentially selling themselves if your not giving up the kitty you better sell the conversation, attention, and friendship. Some guys just want to hang out with an attractive girl who is fun to be with and not have strings attached or have to play some idiotic game. However, you have to be careful because its easy for some guys to become obsessed with a naked girl whose nice to them.
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In a regular sales position,the rep you develop with your clients is very important.In dancing however,you run the risk of regulars expecting more for less.I work in a club where I rarely ever see the customers again,and I find I make way more money that way.I have also worked in a club with regular customers,and I have found my income significantly diminished over time.
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If you all have already hit it off and have an established working relationship going on and an arrangement of this type is more beneficial than going hit and run then stick with attracting and cultivating regulars. Regulars only work in certain clubs and certain club environment. If a girl works at a busybody wanna dance club where she makes money just going," dwannadance?" then having a regular isn't any better than catching a handful of guys who "dwanadance" with her. If a girl works at a club that is of average pace/mixed clientele cultivating regulars is important b/c they will provide her with more money than just table hopping.
If you and this guy have the sort of vibe that you mention, Clover, then things'll just flow. The better you get to know him the more you'll get a feel for what he likes and what is starting to bore him. When people are still becoming acquainted with one another they are usually more socially polite than they truly are because they are still concerned about pleasing the other person, so as to stay in that person's good regard. I think that's why you seem kinda concerned about holding on to and pleasing him, which is important simply from a financial standpoint for you. Right now just keep going with the flow and remember he's a man..........you're a great entertainer and his favorite fantasy girl.
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My tips to keep a regular are:
1. Take note of his favorite songs or type of music and request your DJ to play them for you while you are on stage.
2. Every so often buy him a dance from another dancer. men get bored easy and this will show that you are both fun and not clingy.
3. Find out his birthday and get him a card or some other small token of affection. If your club copies drivers licenses with credit card sales tip the waitress to write down his birth date so you don't have to ask him for the information and it will be a complete surprise!
4. Know what he drinks and treat him to one every now and again. This goes a long way to dispel the greedy dancer stereotype.
There is an old saying that you have to give a little to get a little. These small purchases will give you a very return for your investment.
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I think regulars do suck up a lot of time, but they also help you out when your broke and the club is slow. The thing is that they do come and go, but the ones that really do like you and aren't trying to get laid or turn you into their next girlfriend will always keep giving you $ because they know u are trying to make a living. So knowing that most of the regulars you get will eventually ditch you because they realize they aren't going to get down your pants.... to keep a real one treat them like your friend....as for the rest of them.....MILK THEM FOR EVERYTHING THEIR WORTH!!!!!
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My oppinion with regulars.....Only VIP's or businessmen with clients. They pay out. I keep a strictly business and freindship thing with them. The whole lovey dovey obsessive guys arent worth it.
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I agree that in a smaller club that doesn't cater as much to the travelling businessman, cultivating regulars can be incredibly beneficial, especially during the lean times.
As for keeping them, why not ask them what they enjoy about your dances and conversation? In a subtle way of course.
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I think turning away regulars is a very bad idea. If approached correctly, they can be a very regular and automatic source of extra income. If you can develop even three or four people who see you every time they come in the club just once a month, that can be an extra few thousand dollars by the end of the year. That's big money for little or no effort.
First of all, when you are talking to your customer, find out if he comes to your club often. Perhaps he's been in several times before and you didn't know it. If he is local or even from out of town, it's helpful to understand if he's been before and if he plans on returning. If they frequent the club, use it to your advantage. One of the easiest methods is to get them to just remember your name. Use it often in conversation if you can, and if he is willing to spend money on you to buy dances at that moment, he will certainly be willing to do it again in the future. When he is leaving your presense, be sure to tell him (or better yet, whisper in his ear) "Thanks so much for spending time with me. I had an awesome time with you so be sure to ask for me, [your name] the next time you return. I'll be waiting!" It's a great method and it will certainly work well for you. Again, all it takes is a few guys a month and the money will start adding up quickly!
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Having regulars is not bad,but it turns bad when they show up EVERY freakin' night you work.Regulars that show up several times a month is cool,but not EVERY freakin' night!!!
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I like regulars...some are high maintenance others low. Not all have to be big spenders either. Think of the guy that comes in once a week to get only one $20 dance from you...that's $80 a month...that could take care of an electric bill or phone bill for the month. Another one comes in and spends $60 a week...that's $240 a month...which takes care of some car payments. Plus, since they come in to see you, they probably tip you on stage...so add in another $20+ to each of them a month.
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Hmmm, I'm going to try what LauraLove said. I have about 2-4 regulars. I have to admit that last night I spent way too much unpaid time with one of my regulars. He likes to spend about an hour with me everytime he comes in to see me.
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The trick to keeping regulars is to not work everyday or constantly and have set days that everyone knows you will be there.You dont want them to get sick of you.Or take a couple of weeks offf and go somewhere else to make them crave to see you and wonder where you have been.What you make when they hear you are back will be well worth it.
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When the acting stops I'm hooked as a regular. By that I mean when a girl is comfortable enough to just be herself even when she's working.
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Originally Posted by goldclubbing
When the acting stops I'm hooked as a regular. By that I mean when a girl is comfortable enough to just be herself even when she's working.
I agree. Just be yourself. Be responsible. Have a good reputation in the club. Don't do drugs.