Giving out phone numbers in REAL and in SC life
Ladies, why do you some of you give out your phone numbers and then decide to ignore us when we call?
I am talking about in a strip club and real life.
One time a lady in a SC gave me number without me asking. She was the one who was persistent in giving the number to me and yes it was a real number because I did talk to her when I called it. But then, we never got together.
Another time there was another lady where we connected pretty well and I asked for her number, which she gave to me. Again, it was a real number because I did talk to her when I called, however we never got together.
I am not saying that all of you do it, but I know some of you do it.
If you ladies do not want us to call, then why do you even give us your number in the first place?
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It's sometimes hard for them to reject you in person, and easier to say "maybe sometime" over the phone, or simply ignore your calls.
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LS, you cant take it too seriously. Youve probably figured that out by now.
Ive been clubbing for 6 or 7 years. Only a very very small percentage of the girls mean anything by giving out their number. It could be a bogus number for that matter. If youre a regular its useful for learning schedules etc but thats about it. Maybe 1 or 2% are offering it as a conduit for outside the club activities. It sucks :-/ but thats life.
I have numbers on most of my flock. Only one has panned out to anything beyond the club. I felt fortunate to have that good a percentage LOL Im married tho and dont lie about it..so Im not that good a candidate for extracaricular activities.
I know its frustrating but such is life in the SCJ zone :-/ Just try not to let it get to you.
FBR
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I agree...i guess they must have really busy lives. Now I just expect it. The first time I got a number without asking, I got all worked up for nothing.
My gf's sister is a dancer and whenever i see her. She'll always say, "hey you know we should go out tonight to this place, you're free, right?.....or we should hang out, i'll call you tonight." She has never called me once and the plans always fall through somehow. Well, unless she needs something but thats another story. So i guess dont take it personal....most of them are like that...
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lol leathal really take it in stride man
based on my experience dancers only give u numbers for work related stuff and then its a dont call me i'll call you scenerio. As in its
the end of the month i'm calling you to see if you can come buy the
club and get dances. Also I can tell you dancers a lot of dancers, not all are terribly flakey. Most dancers here have a schedules posted online at there respective clubs. I cant count how many times I have seen no shows.
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I don't think there is really any reason why women do this. They probably don't even know why they do that. There is no point in trying to figure it out. I think it is just menstual or something.
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A dancer wants your # so she can call you to come in when she's not making enough money. She gives you her # so you'll feel special.... What are the advantages for you? You have a better chance of knowing when she'll be at work. You know when she's having a bad day, so you have an advantage in negotiation. If you're with another dancer, that girl may offer you a sweet deal to stay with her.... What are the disadvantages? She'll call you drunk at 4AM. Her drug dealer will start calling with offers. She'll sell/trade your phone number to girls you don't want.
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I think what lethal might be saying is that she'll give you her phone #, completely unsolicited, then you actually call her and she might act really weird that you call her, like "didn't you know I gave you my phone # just because we we're doing some weird strip club fantasy bullshit." Like we fantasize about having your phone # or something. You're not that fucking great. Then why did you give me your actual # anyway? Or she will ask you for your #, and she will never call you. She may even ask you more than once if you come back for multiple visits. I've had lots of weird phone # exchanges where it does not result in any business communications or personal meetings, maybe this is a Houston phenomenon.
I think somewhere in their minds they know if they act professional and business-like they can cultivate regulars, but then they get too lazy or high and then blow it off.
Or, they later change their minds about you, determine that you are some sort of perv, you will call them, and they will treat you like you are some kind of stalker when she was the ho that gave you her number in the first place. Like I said earlier, it doesn't make any sense, it is confusing and distracting from an otherwise good strip club business relationship, and it is probably menstrual.
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I have to say I don't get this one either.......
I don't give out my number, or try and make anyone think that I am there to find things outside of work.......
Don't take anyone of them as for anything on the level.........
Alright I have to fess up to thee ole timers of SCJ,
Any of you remember the regular who bought the one girl her great set of tits, and she was treating him like shit all night, and I kept him happy, and thought he could be a great regular...
Well he turned out to be a total asshole who liked to make people feel like shit because of the money he has, so last week I gave him a fake number just to be a bitch, the one and only time I have ever done this........
To someone who is nice and treats others with respect I would never do this, this asshole desearved it though.........
Licks Cyn
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ML,
I think your right about everything you have said. The best thing I guess is just to move on.
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Or she will ask you for your #, and she will never call you. She may even ask you more than once if you come back for multiple visits.
Guilty! ;D
And Jasmine if you're reading this out there somewhere...I still want to take you shopping sometime. Woo HA!!
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I think somewhere in their minds they know if they act professional and business-like they can cultivate regulars, but then they get too lazy or high and then blow it off.
That would about sum up my theory. They do tend to do strange things when they get a little (or a lot) of their favorite candy in them.
::)
If a dancer gives out her real phone number THAT easily, it should be a red flag to steer clear of her.
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I did some pink site reading today and noticed this topic over there as well. The dancers seem to be fall into 1 of 3 categories . Some said they just don't do phone numbers period. Others admitted to taking or giving out the info for future business arrangements but mostly it seemed that they give out or take a numbers with no intention of using it just to shut a guy up.
I just don't ask dancers for phone numbers or give mine out either. No expectations, no disappointments.
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ML's got it pretty well figured out there... it can't be figured out.
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The latest ATF and I just exchanged numbers about month-and-a-half ago. And I just let her call me to tell me if she was going to be there or not and maybe a little chit-chat. And she called about as frequently as I visit.
And then she just called me out-of-the-blue last week to just to tell me she had a good time which was sweet and to call more often basically. I tend to make the trip into the club a play-date of sorts, with dinner, drinks, etc. I guess the extra calls may be to get me to come in more often. Been there in spades, done that as I've said with last one.
Whaddya think, should I be worried? :o At least her drama-level seems to be a lot less than the other one who went looking for it.
:)
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I think that's the "Official Button Pusher's" best post ever. :) Right on the money. LOL.
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Got another cell number tonight :-/ from a girl Ive known for quite a while (Miss C) Most likely its an exercise in frustration but have to try LOL
FBR
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LOL, come on guys, don't tell me none of you has ever gotten a ladies number (in a SC or otherwise) and never called? I can recall occasions where once I have sobered up and remembered what she looked like deciding not to call, on other occasions deciding not to call when I even forgot what she looked like (yes, strangely enough there was alcohol involved), or even just having second thoughts after collecting the number? It happens, it sucks when it's you that is burned, but that's life, move on.
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nope in all of my visits i have never asked their or given my phone number. Never recieved one unsolicited either. Then again I have never had an ATF and enjoy different/multiple ladies at a time. I have only been drunk twice, both were birthday trips so know remeber them clearly.
So far this has worked out for me. No mental stress from clubbing. I get dances, they get money. After that i may never see them again, in fact i have never seen 70% or so since our first meeting.
-no shopping dates that i cant afford, no broken heart, no drama that I dont need. Just the way I like it.
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I just have a couple of cell#s and one home. Have many e-mails. Just use them to set up playdates at the club. Have never had a dancer flake in 18 months since I've been doing it. :)
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I just have a couple of cell#s and one home. Have many e-mails. Just use them to set up playdates at the club. Have never had a dancer flake in 18 months since I've been doing it. :)
Of course fish, your special. :) Any person flaking on "the lotto" is really stupid, barring unforseen circumstances of course. Hell you so big time man, dancers are making arrangements for you, where usually its the other way around.
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If you find a dancer who can write e-mails and has a savings account, she's probably not going to flake with the cell phone. It pays to be selective if you want to go there.
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I think that's the "Official Button Pusher's" best post ever. :) Right on the money. LOL.
Oh sweet, it's official now. ;)