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What is the difference between asking a stripper out for a dinner date and asking that hot bagger at the grocery store while she is working?
I never understood the concept of people saying not to ask a stripper out on a date because she's just doing her job when she is in the club. Where as that girl you met working at a grocery store is dong her job and you still ask her out as she is working?
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I did ask the hottie at the grocery store out, now my wife won't let me go to the store or the SC:(
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One problem is volume, dancers get asked out a dozen times every night, bagger girls I suspect, do not.
Dancers in doing their job provide a fantasy that they like you and enjoy your company. Many customers forget sometimes that her interest is work-related, not genuine. When a bagger girl flirts and shows tremendous interest in you, you can safely assume she likes you and wants to be asked out. You can't make this assumption with dancers, but many customers do. The advice about not asking out dancers is trying to explain that you can not read a dancer's interest level the same way you would another woman's interet level.
-lestat1
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Thanks for putting strippers in the same category as the check out girl. Unfortunately, most guys don't. We get asked out A LOT more than the check out girl, and it really does get tiresome. Most of the time when a guy asks us out, they are NOT interested in taking us home to meet the folks! ;)
I personally, don't have a problem with going out with guys I meet at the club. I'm not saying it's a habit of mine, but it has happened a time or two. These are usually guys that I have known for a while, who have impressed me with their personality, and of course, I have to feel some kind of chemistry with the person.
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right, as ive said before, if a dancer wants to see you outside the club, she'll most likely bring it up...whereas the clerk at the supermarket might not. since the dancers job is to flirt, she's most likely more comfortable than most girls with regards to asking guys out. since she does it in fantasy world lots of times everynight, "wanna dance?"....ok, hopefully not just walking up and asking that, but after some time of talking, getting to that. dancers can handle rejection better than the grocerystore clerk and therefor are more comfortable being the agressor.
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Here's a question for Amber & April (or any other dancer who wishes to respond), how many times a shift do you get asked out?
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I do realize that you get asked out quite a bit. That's a given. I was just using a clerk as an example it works for any type of job. I still don't understand. A stripper is a lady am I right or wrong? Should be no difference except for the type of job they are doing.
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Fan, Amber did a good job of explaining the difference. If you don't understand it you are destined to a lot of "shopping dates". Good luck, keep us posted.
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It sounds like strippers have the same reaction to "do ya wanna date" as the grocery check out girl would have to "do you wanna dance for me" LMAO
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I do realize that you get asked out quite a bit. That's a given. I was just using a clerk as an example it works for any type of job. I still don't understand. A stripper is a lady am I right or wrong? Should be no difference except for the type of job they are doing.
Fan, why do you think strippers get asked out more than women at other jobs? If your answer is because they flirt and are very friendly and make guys want to ask them out, well that's just their job (thus this job is different than others). If your answer is because strippers are so beautiful, well then they're being asked out based on looks (also their job) which is rather shallow, don't you think? In either case, a date proposal is not appropriate. It's possible to meet and make a real connection with genuine affection on both sides at a strip club. If this happens, don't worry: dancers aren't shy and she'll ask you out. Problem solved, no need to ask a dancer on a date, thus the advice about not asking dancers out.
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Chuck: I try that "wanna dance" line every morning at Dunkin Donuts...bad enough they keep turning me down but BOY do the girls get pissed when I try to put the tip between their breasts instead of in the tip jar
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Here's a question for Amber & April (or any other dancer who wishes to respond), how many times a shift do you get asked out?
I'm the "any other dancer who wishes to respond"
A busy shift (7.30pm until 5am)... hmm.. at least once or twice an hour from 10.30pm onwards - MIMIMUM.
Sometimes I'll get shifts where there is more asking and sometimes less.... but always near the end of the shift (2am onwards) guys seem to be more prone to asking. Goodness! What else do they think I will be doing except going home after such a long shift at 5 am in the morning??? Sorry. It is a long shift on those damn heels and esp. if it was busy.... I'm looking forward to getting into bed.
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Because in a club she can make money off of you... if she dates you... you're not gonna then go in and pay her for her time that you can get free outside the club.
It's all about money.
Not to sound harsh, but if a grocery clerk flirts, she probably likes you, if a stripper flirts... that's her job, it doesn't mean much, but too many guys think it does!
Hope this helped.
Luv,
Amber
Can I say the next most comparable profession would probably be a waitress at a bar? Ok, they don't get naked, but they bring you beer. [clap]
They also are really nice, and laugh at your dumb jokes and all that personable stuff because they're hoping you'll give them a big tip when you pay your bill. Waitresses at bars also get asked out an amazing amount of the time, especially when the customers get drunk.
As for not asking the stripper out on a date, I see these reasons:
#1. Clubs usually have a policy against this because they do not want to be in a position where they are being accused of running prostitution.
#2. Strippers get asked out all of the time, her reflex is probably to just say No.
#3. Strippers are there to provide a pleasant experience, and may be pretending they like you more or in a way that they don't really. They're messing with your mind as part of their marketing plan.
#4. You really don't know them as a person, and you're second brain is probably just thinking tits and ass... so maybe this isn't the greatest basis for a relationship.
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I get asked out about once per hour in clubs if you count the e-mails afterwards. I think it's because dancers really think I care about them.
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I get asked out about once per hour in clubs if you count the e-mails afterwards. I think it's because dancer really think I care about them.
Gee Sporty, you too eh? I thought it was just me ;) I learned to say "no". It breaks thier hearts, but hey I can only spread myself so thin.
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see, chuck and sporty just demonstrated how good dancers are at the transmition of fantasy. IN YOUR DREAMS, lol. i'm usualy the hottest piece of ass (male or female) in the club, and i never get asked out by dancers... then again i dont have sporty's 14" cock. lol, once per hour sporty? if its a role play thing durring a dance, that doesn't realy count.
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It's not appropriate to ask dancers out for dates because dancers are not at work to get dates, they are there to make money, period. Dancers are not interested in getting dates when they're trying to make money. Making dates cuts into our marketing time, therefore cuts into our income. We take offense to guys asking us out, A) because we know he's not going to spend money on us but expects us to keep sitting and chatting, B) we know he has no respect for the fact that we're trying to work, C) our job is not like a straight job where the ladies don't have to be so wary of dating 'customers', D) every club has a policy against dating customers, and finally, we have very clear lines of where the customer/dancer relationship goes and it is generally NOT outside the club.
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What is the difference between asking a stripper out for a dinner date and asking that hot bagger at the grocery store while she is working?
none really,women are used to getting asked out all the time. so what,if a dancer gets asked out 50 times a night. she's either going to say, yes or no. however,you should know that the odds of her actually accepting your offer,if you just met her is probably quite low. OTHO,if you invest a little time,patience and money in order to establish a rapport,then your odds are much greater.
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There we go. That's the kind of answer I was looking for. If I just met her I wouldn't have a chance in hell. Money isn't the issue. She don't give a damn about my money. She cool with me. I'm cool with her. So, why not?
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There we go. That's the kind of answer I was looking for. If I just met her I wouldn't have a chance in hell. Money isn't the issue. She don't give a damn about my money. She cool with me. I'm cool with her. So, why not?
LOL, were you waiting for one person to answer you the way you wanted? Did you take anything from ALL the other posts?
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The grocery bagger probably wouldn't go out with you either since you don't know her. But dancers, like everyone else, can meet people at work, get to know them over time, and eventually go out with them. I've dated two girls I've met in clubs, and the second I've been seeing for four years. She asked me out though because I was patient and didn't want to intrude on her outside life. And by the way Bridgette, when I see her I still buy dancers from her all night because I know she's working. Specifically, I buy her out for the evening so we can be together without her having to find other dances in the club. So then she just has to do the stage sets, and the rest of the time we can sit and talk.
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She asked me out though because I was patient and didn't want to intrude on her outside life.
I think that's the key right there, if she is interested she will let you know.
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Geezzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sporty, Chuck, This stuff happens to you guys too???? Just last night a beautiful dancer begged me to let her spend her entire night with me even though I had only planned on paying her $20 for a 2 for 1 dance special... At the end of the night she threw herself in front of the door and wouldn't let me leave the club until I promised to meet her for breakfast....I knew those self-improvent books would pay off someday!
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There we go. That's the kind of answer I was looking for. If I just met her I wouldn't have a chance in hell. Money isn't the issue. She don't give a damn about my money. She cool with me. I'm cool with her. So, why not?
Geezz Fan, ask her out already!
Personally I wouldn't want to date a stripper, I'm a jealous bastard and couldn't handle the thought of all you pervs pawing her every night. If you think you can handle that, go for it man!
P.S I hope Ambers SO is listening LMAO
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A date with a stripper is a fantasy comes true. I am not talking about sex....mind you. Just a simple dinner date with small soft talks (no shouting necessary!) will suffice and I always had a very pleasant time. But as mentioned by some, you will NEED TO KNOW the dancer first before you have any chance at all.