Have you ever become too obsessed with a dancer?
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Have you ever become too obsessed with a dancer?
I'm not sure "why" but I know it happens. You haven't been dancing long Amber and I'm afraid the over time you'll see more and more of the line-crossing going on. Keep your sweet personality in tact and steer clear of the wierdos. Not everyone is a good customer. I know it sounds trite but its easy to fall into traps and I'd hate for that to happen to you.
Hmm, that's hard for me to answer (not). I think that when you sense from the conversation that he takes for granted that you'll be with him regardless of the other guys, cannot wait for his opportunity to be with you or does not accept that he'll have to spend the night without you because you're busy, then the line has been crossed. Oh, not to mention the constant date and phone number requests.
I'm sorry Amber, I don't know what came over me...I'll try to stop.
I'm not sure if there is such a thing as a "healthy" customer-dancer relationship, or if there is, it must be very difficult to nourish.
Why do customers cross the line? Because dancers sometimes do their job very well and there are many socially inept (sorry guys, and I know not all are like this) customers who come into a club. It's like David Copperfield performing a magic trick on a retard.
If a beautiful skinny girl is told over and over that she's ugly and fat, eventually she'll start to believe it and have low self-esteem and anorexia. Likewise, it can be tough to remember that no, maybe your ATF doesn't find you all that funny but pretends to. And when she says "we're perfect for each other" she means your money is perect for her. I'm a pretty smart guy, but I've had moments where I leave a club and wonder maybe she "really did like me." Sometimes the heart despeately tries to believe what it wants to believe. And I'm rambling now. So just maintain boundaries, remind them your time is money, and if it pushes a few obsessed fans away then good. In the long run you don't want them as customers anyway, it's not worth the trouble.
-lestat1
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It's like David Copperfield performing a magic trick on a retard.
sorry if you were being serious here lestat, and no offense to the mentally challenged...but with my bizarre sense of humor I find this to one of the funniest lines I've seen here yet ;D
It was a joke ;D and a serious point all in one!Quote:
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sorry if you were being serious here lestat, and no offense to the mentally challenged...but with my bizarre sense of humor I find this to one of the funniest lines I've seen here yet ;D
Ok, I have years of experience at this. Not purposeful, but I'm incredibly obtuse and I can assure you that ignoring someone and not flirting back will eventually make them go away.Quote:
At what point do you think a customer goes from a healthy dancer-customer relationship and crosses into obssesive-compulsive fan, and then into addicted fan?
Does this mean I can't come back to the club? :(Quote:
I'm dealing with a couple of these at the moment and just wondering why. Is it something I did? or is it probably just part of their personality? Is there a way to help a customer keep the relationship between her and a customer healthy?
Seriously, nothing you did. It's part of the job, and the guys have to have the right mental maturity to handle it.
The main reason I began going to strip clubs was to break myself of this tendency. So you may be able to help them, but you probably won't keep a customer. If they do break themselves of the addiction, they'll suddenly realize that there are other cute dancers in the club and there goes your customer. :)
Amber LOL your definition of healthy prob differs from that of your customer. Just tonight I went back to the local bar with one of my customers/friends. Anyways, I hooked up with the chick that I met a couple nights ago. Before I knew it we were negotiating a down payment on her new car LOL Im like what the hell??? Now I think I understand the 9 month Sabbatical lol
[email protected] true! how true! Healthy for them is when they empty our wallet every time. :P
fish LOL it was pretty funny I can afford to play the game so we'll se. I might go back next week to see where the negotiations wind up lol
When he doesn't take "no" for an answer.
Amber,
In my opinion, the customers who may becoming an addicted fan of yours is because of the great friendly attitude you show. Especially, when you reply to guys through email, this site, and other sites.
Even though, I have not met you personally and do not correspond with you alot, there is a sense I feel that I know you through this site.
You may or may not realize this, but you are a great savy business women by promoting yourself through this site and the other sites. I commend you for your great marketing skills, even though, you may just be posting for fun.
Miss Amber is quite the business women(and a hell of a lot of fun to chat with8)) I have tried a number of times to get the ladies at my club to go online. They just say "Oh we don't have the time" BIG mistake!
EH you are so right. Ive been bugging the new women Ive recently met at the local club and getting the same response. I know if I saw them here or in chat or whatever, Id just want to see them more often. Besides, its fun as hell. I know if I lived up Ambers way Id be a broke mutha :) but smilin all the way LOL
That makes two of us FBR:)LMAO
Amber, The only thing you can do to keep the customer/dancer relationship "healthy" is when they cross the line you consider too far tell them they went too far. If they don't respect your wishes then cut them off. Afterall, you have the final say on who you deal with at work.
;) :D :-*