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Guys want to spoil me--OUTSIDE the club!
Hi all! I've been dancing for about a month and have had about 5 different customers insist that they would love to spoil me. This generally happens after a dance or two and some conversation (I tend to hang out longer than I should). Thing is apparently this offer is only good for outside the club as none of them have ever spent much more than $50 on me at the club. Is this pretty typical? When I talk to customers I never mention anything about needing money or having a bad life. I always say I love my job (so far I do--though I need to work on hustle). Am I somehow projecting something that makes them think they need to rescue me or is my definition of spoiling just from a completely different dictionary? Is there something I can do to convince them to spoil me IN the club instead? Or is it all just a line to try to get me to meet them outside the club? Just a bit confused here... /:O Thanks!!!
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oh this is a common theme. You will hear the offer over and over during your career. I wouldn't take anybody seriously though who spends only $50 on you.
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::) Lots of guys talk big. It's part of the fantasy thing. When they are in a SC they are in a fantasy world.
Edited to add: Wouldn't it be nice if that fantasy money were real and they did spend it inside the club?!:P
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As was mentioned, you will always hear this from a certain number of guys. They may be hitting on you more because you are new and they think you are naive.
For some guys, its just something they say, the mean nothing by it. They are probably too afraid of their wives finding out to ever pursue it even if you agreed. ;D
For the guys that keep mentioning it, the best way to approach this is to say, "gosh I just wouldn't be comfortable meeting someone outside the club until I got to know them better". Of course, to get to know you better, they've got to come in and spend some money on you. Keep leading them along until their money or patience runs out. Then they will move on to the next girl.
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It drives me crazy! I get it all the time
"you are too pretty to dance, let's go to Mexico....."
"Do you have a wish list???"
"Let's go have dinner right now...."
"I can help you with your career..."
"what's your size (shoes/clothes)???"
"come over to my house tonight, I'll give you whatever you want if you will dance for me privately....."
AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!
Oh if one more guy asks me for my real name.......he's going home with a limp!
lol}:D
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If he's only spending $50 on you in the club, how much could he really be interested in spoiling you? Is he even capable of doing that? And would you want him to anyway if he's such a cheap bastard in the club in the first place?
Get used to men that don't understand how a strip club works; there's sadly too many of them out there.
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:rotfl: I HATE the name question!! If I wanted people to know my real name I wouldn't use a stage name! I know girls that dance under their real name and none of the customers ever believe them when they tell them that anyway. I want to yell "Get over yourself! When I feel comfortable giving you that information I will!"
After I posted the original question here I came up with something that may or may not be valid: Perhaps guys only want to "spoil" a girl outside a club because they feel they have a better chance of getting more of a return on their "investment" than they would get in the club (and I'm not only talking about sex). I expect most guys aren't interested in spending tons of money if all they are going to get is some really good laps and witty conversation.
I sort of expected this from the younger guys, but what threw me off was that last night a guy twice my age said it.
Though I did have something VERY funny happen last night: this younger guy was in with a group of friends and he looked earily like an ex of mine so I asked his name to make sure (it has been YEARS since I last saw my ex). The guy gave his name and then said "Did he have a big dick?" It went on with this guy claiming to have the biggest in the world. I said "Really, then let me give you a dance and find out for myself" He said" I don't have to pay for dances because my dick is so big, you could meet me at my hot tub after work and find out". This guy bought no dances from anyone, only tipped me on stage (all of $2)--after flashing a $50 I might add--and then seriously thought there was a chance I'd meet him at his house (I know he really thought there was because he slipped his number in one of the $1s he gave me on stage). :banghead: It was all I could do to get to the locker room before laughing so hard the other girls thought I'd lost my ever lovin mind. Needless to say, he and his exceptionally large dick got to spend the evening with only each other to talk to in his hot tub. I'm sure they had a lovely time.
Perhaps I should consider having this "NAIVE" tatoo removed from my forehead...:sarcastic
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:rotfl: God it's like there is a cloning machine outside of our clubs making the same guys walk in all over the country.
I wonder if the "machine" could make a mini me....hmmmmm....
The money I could make.;D
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Ha! You'll be sick everytime you hear their ''I want to treat you outside the club'' routine, coz you'll be hearing it a LOT!
Strike a compromise and get them to spoil you inside the club instead ;D
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If they don't get the hint that the only way that they can spoil me is inside the club (when I'm working and only when they buy my time).... then I make out that I have a busy life outside of work.
I don't lie... I just exagerate certain aspects of my life to make it seem like I do not have much time to meet new people or even guys "outside the club".
As for the name thing: something DW said/posted ages ago that works wonders with me:
Punter: So.. what's your real name?
Me (leaning in close): Can you keep a secret ?
Punter: Yes..
Me (leaning back and smiling mischieviously): So can I ;D
If they persist, I remind them that it's a secret and that no one at this club knows me by my real name so therefore they would be best to just be happy with calling me by my stage name. If they still persist, I once again remind them that a secret is a secret because it isn't told.
However.. another way I like to work this type of situation is to turn it around on them. I give them "strip club names" and that they can only use them when in a strip club. This can be quite fun esp. in a group as they banter back and forth in fun about possible names. "If it is good enough for me to have a fake name.. let's give you one as well" ;D
As for "big dick man".. I usually retort with that if he usually doesn't have any problems due to his 'big dick' then why the hell is he here instead of a nightclub where the girls are more available ??? Or I just walk away. I usually don't give them enough time to be able to lay their crap attitude on me. I'm not impressed by that crap. What impresses me is a customer who comes in regularly (weekly, fortnightly, monthly - whatever), who is sensual, knows the boundaries and spends (at least) $100 on me each visit.
;D I'm not asking for much am I ? LOL! :P
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Me: Sorry babe i will lose my job if i leave or meet up with a customer. Say this in as many words as you like, but i HATE hearing this crap. Spoiling you outside the club simply means they want what they can't get with you inside the club. Shit if these guys want a date, there are soooo many damn bars with women who will go home with them. This is a job, and i really really can't stand a person not respecting me. Be firm, be nice, make it clear you can't/wont for whatever reason you want.
Good luck, There are many more to come i'm afraid. OH, and GCG post above me reminded me of my situation about dancing names. My real name is Pamela, hell they don't believe you anyway! Lol. ;D
Pamela
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yea. This happens a lot. dont take him serious until after hes spent a couple of grand,
If you are into that kind of thing, (going out with customers) go for it, i know several girls that charge 700-1k a night just to go out and party... and no sex.
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Look, it's natural. Stupid, but natural. Some of you chicks are really cool. So i can understand the urge, at least. I just resist it. This is why i refuse to be anyone's regular.
Dunno how to add anything, really. But i can see why they do it. But i can also see why it's annoying, especially when it's some guy just wanting to give you money to fuck them (THAT is uncool).
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Doe's these guy's think were stupid or what yeah u spend 50$ on me and now you think you're a big shot or what ????? Maybe if it's an older guy who always spends alot of money on you I would believe him but this situation no ! These guy's are too funny !
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Originally Posted by Crystal_eyes
Doe's these guy's think were stupid or what yeah u spend 50$ on me and now you think you're a big shot or what ????? Maybe if it's an older guy who always spends alot of money on you I would believe him but this situation no ! These guy's are too funny !
Not always Crystal. Sometimes it's the guy being genuine, but stupid. It's an easy trap to fall into.
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My girlfriend is a dancer and her and I have been going into/working clubs for years. Most of my friends are dancers that I have met in the club and I can tell you from a males perspective that any guy that will only drop 50 bucks isnt interested in spoiling anything but his ego. I have been in a hundred clubs (ok it seems like it) all over the U.S. and guys all over are the same. They will try and get as much as they can for as little as they can. They will talk you down to a table/lap dance for .50 cents if you let them. My advice is tell the guy you need to be comfortable like you would with anyone you meet. Just because you have money doesnt mean a girl should trust you and be your friend. Tell him to keep coming back so you can get to know him. Who knows maybe you will get a regular out of it.
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Originally Posted by ashleyrose
:rotfl: God it's like there is a cloning machine outside of our clubs making the same guys walk in all over the country.
No kidding, huh? I've met "Big Dick Guy", and "Old Man Who Wants To Spoil Me", about a hundred times!
Seems like the only way to get a customer to take you shopping is to leave the club with him :( (my secret fantasy) I keep meeting girls whose regulars do this for them, I've never had a customer like that, maybe cuz I don't go out with guys I only view as customers! It's scary, and I don't want to be pressured by him for anything extra.
I just met this guy who wants to be my regular, but I can already tell he won't last long. He wants to touch me all the time, and he's kinda gross. He asks me questions I simply don't answer, repeatedly. He talks himself up, and brags about all he has done for other dancers, and then wonders why this one or that one isn't talking to him anymore. He won't stop asking me to go out with him out of the club. But he's been spending money on me. I already told him I don't play customers. Who knows, maybe he'll last another week or so until he gets bored of trying and moves on.
These guys are everywhere if you ask me.
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You're new, so I can't hold it against you. Guys can smell newbies in a club, they just can.
Bottom line, if a guy wants to spoil you OUTSIDE the club, he'll spoil you IN the club first to show you how he can spoil you.
I generally don't like regular customers, but one of the few exceptions was a guy that spent about $1,200 on me the first night I saw him, which led to subsequent shopping at Saks for some Gucci, Prada and a few pairs of Jimmy Choos. Plus my AMEX bills were paid for a few months. In April he flew me to Vegas and put me up in a Penthouse Suite at the Bellagio, lavished more money on me (to gamble with, shop), dinner every night at the city's top restaurants and great seats to see "O", limos all around town.
In 5 years of dancing this is the only time someone's lavished that much money on me. Other similar offers came with the expected strings attached.
So it does happen sometimes, but for me and the vast majority of dancers I've met who it happens for, the guy does shell out a nice wad up front to let you know he's serious.
The douchebags that hold up a $50 to try to impress you are the ones that hope "Maybe she's dumb enough to let me do more stuff if she falls for all this." Don't.
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Ladies, NinaDaisy experience is just how it goes.
Any man worth his money knows that the club's owner is not going to appreciate wasting his stripper's time when she can be bringin' in the bucks.
When I travel I usually select three or four potential ladies at whatever SC I end up at and after a dance with each, I pick one and tell her she's mine for the rest of the night. I usually have to pay up front, but I'm never wrong and we have a blast. I actually end up having more of a good time, 'cause I don't like the competition for attention during a stage performance and I end up with exactly who I wanted to be with.
When I spend that kind of cash it's never about the sex either. I leave at the end of the night and they usually never see me again. Anyone who goes to a strip club to pick up chicks has got the concept completely wrong. Pardon my language, but pussy is freely available everywhere. Strip clubs have just perfected how to market it properly.
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Yeah, you hear the stories. This woman I know used to strip and one of her old regulars is her sugar daddy now. It's ridiculous. Put it this way, two years ago he won 5 million in lotto. He didn't even care he had so much more. He buys her a new lexus each year and whatever she wants. I got her to confess that she has slept with him. Twice in over 10 years. Last time was 7 yrs ago. Can you all tell that I'm a bit jealous over here??
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I wouldnt take any of them seriously. They dont wanna "spoil" you, they wanna bang you. I know it sounds harsh but dont listen to them. I know a ton of guys who wanna "take me out" yet have never spent money on me. ::)
My retort? "Spoil me here....this is where I need to be spoiled"
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Originally Posted by Lexi
They dont wanna "spoil" you, they wanna bang you.
LOL!!! And that is soooooooo true!
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Lexi has it pretty much right... Nina Daisy experience is the guy that most dancers dream about but happens once in a blue moon. Lucky Nina Daisy!!!!
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why do most of us use stage names anyway. i dance under my real name. what does it matter?