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Last night I gave my customer a black eye...
Last night I was dancing for some drunk jerk and he poked me in my pussy after I told him not to touch me down there like five times. The feeling of his finger in me unleashed some serious rage I never knew I had. I completely lost it and slapped him across the face. Hard enough to leave a terrible mark and make his eye bloodshot. He said I 'broke his eye' (how do you 'break' and eye??), but I did hit him so hard that at least a dozen other people heard the slap over the loud music and everything. He said he was going to the cops. The bouncer threw him out. I hope he doesn't go to the cops since his face is gonna be messed up today for sure.
The manager said that was bad to hit him but he wasn't mad at me. He said nobody has the right to touch me like that, and when girls never hurt the men back, it makes them demented and use drugs so its fair to get a few shots in once in a while. For the first time ever I was really impressed with the staff at my club. I had people ask me if I needed some witnesses, and tell me what kinds of stuff to tell the cops if they came (he was holding me, I couldn't get away, it was self defence)...
I fell really bad today though. In my life outside the club I would never hit anyone, never have in my life. Please don't blast me or say it was a bad idea. I allready feel bad.
But did anyone else ever assault a coustomer??
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I've never assaulted anybody but I have defended myself after repeatedly saying no. ;)
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I've never had to do it but I'm fairly sure the cops don't think a dancer is going to go around beating the shit out of patrons for no reason ;) . I think it's great. He'll think twice about sexually assaulting a girl from now on.
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I know it's hard NOT to feel bad, but you really shouldn't. You stood up for yourself after repeatedly telling him now and he deserved what he got...and so much more. Some day, he'll get something shoved up his ass and that'll make him think twice about unwanted poking of the pussies!
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I seriously doubt he's going to want to call the cops and have to stand up in a court of law and have a stripper say that he sexually assaulted her. He won't want his wife, family, and friends to not only know he was in a strip club, but how he acted once he was there.
I broke a guy's glasses once for biting me so hard it left teeth marks and bruising. I didn't feel bad, and neither should you.
He also threatened to sue, but it's been since 1996, and haven't heard from him yet....lol.
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Well, if this guy is a "respected businessman", I would most likely doubt that he would run to the cops. Remember those sections in the newspaper that "tell you what happened this past week?". Well, a lot of people read them and the newspapers get that information from PUBLIC RECORD. Which would be the complaint that he would file with the PD. Also, if he's married and his wife doesn't know about him frequenting SC and trying to finger the dancers, then she'll definitely find out then.
Some guys are jerks. I have never, ever, ever hit a customer. However, I have never stayed around long enough to tell them more than 2-3 times to behave. Next time, leave earlier...tell the floor guy the situation and have the floor guy get your money for you. It's not good to hit a customer, but it's also not good to "stick around" and let him do that to you. If you felt, at that time, that hitting him would help you, then you did the best you could...and that's ok. But, next time...what are you going to do if you get another customer like this?
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I hit a customer once, and he deserved it. Thank god your club was supportive, mine wasn't. The jerk tried pulling the latex off my nipple and it hurt so out of instinct I slapped him across the face and spent my whole set bitching him out. His excuse was that he was from another country. Sorry that had to happen to you, but he probably won't call the cops. He doesn't want to be embarassed by the fact that he's a touchy weirdo. Keep your chin up girl.
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Ah, Venus, always the voice of reason around here...
Next time what will I do? Not hit the guy, probabally. As my bouncers pointed out to me, he could have hit me back and really hurt me.
Funny side note: another dancer heard what happened, and reccomended next time getting the bouncers to beat the guy up in the parkinglot, said it would set me back about $50, they do it all the time. No wonder they knew what I should tell the cops if they actually showed up...
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wow, thank goodness your manager was SO cool! And yes, we do have the right to defend ourselves, that was molestation if not assault and whether or not we are dancers we are NOT asking for that, especially if it was against the rules. He broke a rule and you defended yourself, your excuse is you didn't know how far he going to go so you stopped him. I'm just glad you didn't hit him with your shoe!
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Venus, my sentiments exactly ;) Otherwise, no worries, the jerk desrved it.
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I'm with LoveSexMoney. Some guys are predators and you have to do what it takes to defend yourself. You have no reason to feel bad. Perhaps his marked face will give him a reason to think about behaving next time he's in a SC.
I'd be really shocked if he goes to the cops. He won't want his reputation tarnished by being associated with strip clubs, strippers and questionable behaviour. Don't sweat it hun.
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I'm sorry that happened to you. That bastard got what he deserved - dont worry.
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Bravo!
Sorry but the day a guy pokes me in my hooch is the day I kick him in his larynx.
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Don't feel bad for a second. You did what you had to.
If it makes you feel any better, I worked a lot of rough bars, so I perfected an approach to troublesome customers: after chiding them in a sweet, innocent way to stop doing this or that, and they did not stop, I would just smack them. End of story. Some people only understand force.
You might have to do it again someday. That's just the world we live in.
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Originally Posted by madmaxine
Some people only understand force.
You might have to do it again someday. That's just the world we live in.
Say it again sista!
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Don't feel bad, you did the right thing!! ;)
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I once had to do something similar.... I have nipple piercings and a guy once grabbed them and pulled so hard I thought he ripped them out!!!! Natural instint took over and when he let go I took a step back and kicked so hard that i split his bottom lip right above his chin and almost all the way across... I know he had to have gotten a few stiched... oops. I know I should have let the bouncer handle it but I really thought he ripped it completely out of my nipple and it took me a min or two to even remove my hand and look to see( thankfully he didn't it just was really sore literally for amost 3 days)......
He threatened the cops also but what was he going to say??? And besides before he left while he was bitching about what I had done a few guys that saw it all said he was lucky I took matters in my own hands before they could get to him. He saw he was outnumbered and wrong and left bleeding.
My club handled it similar to yours by saying I should not have done it but understood why it happened but asked me to please try and not jump on the next one too fast. lol.
Now that I have been in the bizz for a few more years that day is still in my mind when I dance (funny how certain things just stick with you)... I don't even think about always keeping my nipples away from hands now adays and to always be awear that you don't know these guys and what they are capible of doing.
I am with you .... you weren't wrong hun!!!
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It's his word against yours....."was he drunk, I don't know him".....
I have hit a guy before and he deserved every bit of it. }:D
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This post makes me wonder something...
If a guy actually does hurt a girl by biting her or hitting her or something or sexually assaults her can she, as a dancer, go to the cops or would they just laugh at her and say it's a risk of the job?
Just curious.
Oh and sorry for the bad sentence structure. ::)
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Ladies, here is where the wonder of testosterone does some good: next time a customer does something completely inappropriate, if you can grab a bouncer/sympathetic customer before the offender gets out, do it. Scream high holy hell to everyone who can hear. Why? Men have an instinct to protect women and/or appear valiant and "Alpha Male". So you giving an excuse for a man to intimidate another one is sweet, sweet, sweet. Some men enjoy confrontation. If you're lucky, he's your bouncer.
One of my favorite statements was made by a young bouncer after we watched a customer jump our manager after a fight over dancer abuse. AND then the pair, with two bouncers on top of the fight, ROLLED out the front door. "What the hell was that?" I asked. He told me, "Oh, they're just getting him out to the parking lot, where there are no cameras...." Wink.
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I hit a customer once who didn't pay me. I am not even very good at punching and I got fired for girlie punching a guy who had no money on him at all. Why would a guy get a dance in a strip club who has no money?
You are lucky that you work in such a nice club. I have had a lot of guys sexually assault me and I am afraid to do anything other than "smile and say no, no". I need a job.
What state do you live in?
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Originally Posted by 242_fair
Funny side note: another dancer heard what happened, and reccomended next time getting the bouncers to beat the guy up in the parkinglot, said it would set me back about $50, they do it all the time. No wonder they knew what I should tell the cops if they actually showed up...
It's dangerous, not funny. Some bouncers get a rush out of beating customers in the parking lot. In my area, beaten customers have shot and killed their attackers on two separate occasions. I know a dancer who witnessed one of the killings: the bouncer quickly bled to death just inside the front door, and she still has nightmares about it.
VenusGoddess gave good advice. After one or two warnings, the dance is over. Go to the nearest bouncer or floor manager. Let them collect your money and escort the guy out.
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I understand Sportswriter's opinion, but I've seen retarded things happen at strip clubs regardless of whether a dancer was involved. The low element of society always turns up at the titty bar to ogle mammaries and take a shot at The Darwin Awards.
I've had to confront rude customers when the one bouncer around was too scared to do anything- I'm not saying all bouncers are Superman. But they are getting paid for something.......
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Wow, that guy deserved it, you totally acted in self-defence, he sexually assaulted you. He probably won't call the cops, but if he does and you tell them what happened, I'm sure you'll be fine. Cops were called over a customer for me once and they were cool to me. On the other hand, one club I worked at told the girls it was a "hazard of the job" if we were assaulted/abused. There, if a girl hit back/defended herself, she was fired.
I have hit customers several times. My first year of dancing, I had my boobs in this guys face and he went for my nipple with his mouth wide open looking like a hungry baby! I instinctively smacked him in the face, but I don't think I really hit that hard.
Another time, a guy poked my butthole through my thong and I wanted to hit him so bad, especially because he was cracking up over it, but I just dumped his beer in his lap and said, "Is it funny now asshole?"
And yet another time, over a dispute about a hundred dollar bill, some fuck grabbed me by the arm and forcefully pulled me down in his lap. I elbowed him in the chest and punched him with the back of my fist, right in front of a bouncer (who didn't intervene when he grabbed me, I figured I was on my own). Amazingly, this was at that fucked up club, and nobody said anything to me.
The last time something happened, I was kneeling between this guys knees, doing a dance, and he reached forward and grabbed me in like a bear hug, but wouldn't let me go, he started kissing me, all over my head and face, so I reached up between us and grabbed him by the throat and pushed him back into his chair and smacked him in the face.
I don't advocate violence as a means of solving problems, but I'll be damned if I let some dick in a club physically abuse/assault me. These were all just reactions, I didn't have time to think, I get grabbed, you get hit, simple.
Isn't it funny how the bouncers are always there when some guy isn't even touching you, but when the real problems start, they have no clue? It's like that here anyway.
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LGNU: My advice is to get out of Vegas. ;)