If your faced witht htis question, what do you tell them? and what are your limits?
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If your faced witht htis question, what do you tell them? and what are your limits?
I would just explain the rules and act as if he wasnt offending me.
Just tell him the rules and see what he says. If he doesnt like it, then you can bet you wont wanna be with him in VIP.
Ditto to what Lexi said. It's never good to act offended, because it is a legitamate question, and doing so can lose you the sale. It's also not a good idea to go into the champagne room and be alone with someone who will be expecting or wanting more than you are willing to give.
better if they ask upfront. i would also be polite and explain the rules. as a matter of fact, such a question cannot offend me.
some don't ask, just assume and then get angry in the vip-zone - thats worse.
about the limits, when i'm at a club, the rules are my limits, always. anything else ould be unfair and dumb.
I do some modeling and a privat show on my own with a girlfriend. there we can make the rules ourselves.
Whatever the stated rules are. I don't bend the rules or break them.
I jUst say flat out that I don't do sex, there is no blow jobs and no hand jobs. BUT there's a private time together and no creepy crowd around constantly eying our dance together.
I've changed with experience and age and now am willing to go further than I was say 5 years ago.
If they're asking that question, you essentially have two options: lie or try to be vague to keep the sale (and if they're explicitly asking, vagueness probably won't work and the will press for more) or explain your rules and anticipate losing the sale. IME, when they're asking so boldly, they aren't willing to drop cash on someone who won't confirm extras. They also are going to be a nightmare if you manage to get them back there and are a clean dancer. If there are other prospects, cutely explain the club rules while stressing how intimate, private, and fun of a time you have, but get ready to move on.
retired but before i would say you got me mixed up with a hooker .... I am a dancer/ stripper... I don't do that ...
^^ That. I don't even fuck around with that anymore, not since the threat of undercover cops became very real... I am not going to give them a reason to falsely charge me with prostitution... and also, I don't want to deal with "But you said thiiiiiiiis!" whining by customers.
I straight up told a guy I cannot legally say that any sex is allowed and I am not promising anything. I made him aware that the club's rooms don't have cameras and they're better versus a lap dance where he's not supposed to place his hands on me. Guy says "that's fair" and gets the cheapest half hour we have available. Mid-credit card transaction he leans over the bar to the VIP host and asks him if he has any condoms. The host says "We are not that kind of place." And rips up the paperwork. I just look at the guy and say, "You fucked that up." He felt bad because he really wanted me to dance for him and only had a card, but guys who ask for more can't help that they're stupid.
I leave the stripping to the club and the rest to the brothel when I work there!
The last night I worked I impulsively said, "Well it starts out with a fantastic blow job performed by our resident mime, complete with costume and performed silently, followed by a three course sushi dinner which I prepare and you are welcome to eat off my body, followed by a deep relaxing full body deep tissue massauge and then I leap into the sky and pluck down the moon for you. So basically, you get the whole moon." I'm not sure if I could ever replicate it & make it work again, but it did make him laugh & set him at ease (and he got a room!)
I just hate it when they get into that really focused mind fuck game where they stare you down like their challenging you asking "Well what do I get?" Frankly, I just don't play that game. I actually had a kid doing that for a $30 dance and I just got up & walked away from him.
Typically it's easy to spot the guys that are strip club afficiandos scouting for extras- they usually just get straight to it. I actually appreciate that because they don't waste my time. It's helpful to read TUSCL (though perhaps with a grain of salt sometimes) These guys direct eachother to the extra clubs. The club I'm at does not have any extras (at all, girls will get fired) and it seems these guys have clued each other in because I'm not getting asked that nearly as often. I was at an extras ridden club before this one and felt I had to walk a much tighter line because they came in expecting it. I can't emphasize how much stress finding a clean club has lifted. It also took me 7 clubs to find it- so don't despair!
As far how far I go- our lap dances are one way contact (they can't touch) in rooms I let them touch me. As long as they don't pinch me. (what the hell is that about anyway?)
I remember the first time I got asked "So what do you do?" and I honestly thought the guy was trying to find out about my day job! lol
I answered "You know, a bit of this, a bit of that.........." not having a freaking clue the guy was talking about extras because I'd never been asked to do extras before!
Then when we got into VIP the guy was like, so are you gonna do a bit of this a bit of that?
He ended up dropping almost $200 for my regular dances. I would never intentionally lead someone on because it's just asking for trouble IMO. I hate being asked "What do I get?" and "What's in it for me?" Those are the least respectful guys and unless they're gonna drop some serious cash for regular dances (almost never), I just walk away and find a better guy. I've been told that money is money whoever buys dances, but I always try to think about my longevity in this business and trying to avoid burnout and I think that means avoiding the sleaziest guys.
My club is high contact, but even then some guys aren't satisfied and think we should be prostitutes. I have no idea why they don't just go to a massage parlor or get an escort. Are they that stupid not to know the difference between an exotic dancer and a hooker?
Nothing that:
1. feels uncomfortable
2. goes against my boundaries
3. breaks the rules
4. gets me fired
5. wouldn't mind others seeing on camera
@janesays22 that "focused mind fuck game" it's like they're trying to stare into your soul to see what you're trying to say of if you're lying. I just stare back like "I'll fucking eat your eyeballs with a coffee straw"
mwaaa hahahaha!!!
"What do I get in the VIP room?"
"It's a lot more intimate and I fucking eat your eyeballs with a coffee straw."
You have just solved all our problems. Thanks for that- I'm trying to hype myself up to go in tonight & I'm gonna end up thinking of this anytime a guy asks!
"What do you do during the lapdance?"
"I dance. On your lap." Honestly, these people...It's a 3-4 minute dance. C'mon, now...
My club has cameras up the wazoo thank the stripper gods.. I always tell them it's a more intimate experience for x minutes of u n l i m i t e d dancing and getting to know each other better (cause you have to make sure all customers are accommodated on the floor or else you'll get in trouble *wink wink*). I let them rub my back, arms, and legs and normally run my hands along my body while I'm telling them it's more intimate. I squeeze my tits and ask them "don't you want these titties in your face?" I'll take hundreds of dollars to rub a titty on there face over doing it for a dollar onstage, or a few bucks during a dance. Leave something for the up sale! Letting someone talk about themselves is extremely entertaining to customers with a healthy dose or dances and sex talk. I normally give guys advice during the last few minutes of the show on how to eat a girl out right without completing the conversation, so they'll pay a few more hundred of dollars to hear the rest on how to please a woman. You don't ever have to have a guy violate you to get the money you deserve. Be fun and show them your booming personality!