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I think saying those things is tacky. It goes back to what I said on your other thread about being on your best behavior. Asking a dancer out, especially since you're new and have no history, changes the dynamics of the conversation to an uncomfortable level. At least that's what I get from reading about what some of the ladies here talk about.
One huge thing to remember is that the dancers are there for entertainment for us and to make money for themselves. They aren't there to be picked up on or for picking up dates.
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Sweetie, A dancer will say "You're cute, You're hot, that hump on your back really isn't that bad", etc to get money out of you. It's the money.....All about the money. Sure, you can ask her out but don't be surprised if you get a No!
It's called Hustling, Go over to the Hustle thread and see for yourself. There's even a topic of how to get lap dances from guys......We want your green, know what I mean? :P
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Ok, I have an ethical question: Say that some stripper starts teasing you "you are so sweet", "you are so handsome", blah, blah, blah...
Hmmmm how come I never get "you are so sweet or handsome" :'(
All I ever get is "the ATM is that way." :smirk:
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I always thought it was kind of cute how your left eye rolled to the side, Calif.
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There are so many post about this situation. To sum it up for ya, you go to the sc to enjoy yourself, it is a fantasy thing. you are there to have a good time, the ladies are there to make money, keep this in mind. Maybe she does think you are "sweet" and "handsome", that does not mean she wants to start a relationship with you. Maybe she does but don't count on or assume that. Just go have a good time, enjoy the compliments and the company, but keep in mind it is just a fantasy, an illusion. She's not teasing you, she's working. Just enjoy yourself and have a good time.
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I always thought it was kind of cute how your left eye rolled to the side, Calif.
oh and here I always thought it was just about the $$$$ :(
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My question is: Since when is complimenting a customer attacking? Why would you need to fight back? How does she "deserve it"? It's not like it's a pick up situation (bar, Starbucks, etc), where you might expect to get a number from a lady who's flirting with you. We don't trade lap dances for dates, except, of course with hunchbacks.
Fuschia
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Originally Posted by SomeDumbGuy
Ok, I have an ethical question: Say that some stripper starts teasing you "you are so sweet", "you are so handsome", blah, blah, blah... Then is it ok fight back: "Really? Maybe you'd like to go out some time then." "No? Why not if I am so sweet and handsome?" "Why should I get a dance from you if you aren't even willing to give me your phone number?" Now I'll admit this seems like it would be fun to do, and that it's certainly petty, and the stripper probably deserves it, but what do you folks think of the ethics of the situation?
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That's not teasing, by the dancer or by the customer. She's either complimenting or flattering you, depending on her level of sincerity. Your potential responses aren't, therefore, teasing, they're needling. And to be honest they sound like the comments of 19-year-olds.
But that's ok, we're used to dealing with guys who have hostile attitudes and think it's entertaining to be assholes to strippers. If you feel it'd be fun to be a dick to anyone who extends pleasantries in the hopes of selling you something, then by all means go ahead. It'll free you up to enjoy sitting in total isolation.
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We don't trade lap dances for dates, except, of course with hunchbacks.
Fuschia
:rotfl: LMAO Fuschia, I don't have a hunchback but I can get a hatchback car though, will that suffice? :mischievo
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Now I'll admit this seems like it would be fun to do, and that it's certainly petty, and the stripper probably deserves it, but what do you folks think of the ethics of the situation?
Don't be an ass.
Dancers are there to promulgate a fantasy; you're there to pay them for that convenience of uncomplicated companionship and that fantasy. Don't penalize them for their professionalism. Sometimes they mean what they say, sometimes they don't. Take it for what it's worth and just have a good time.
The key to enjoying the strip club experience is having realistic expectations within the unrealistic environment of the strip club.
Don't be an ass.
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Originally Posted by SomeDumbGuy
Ok, I have an ethical question: Say that some stripper starts teasing you "you are so sweet", "you are so handsome", blah, blah, blah... Then is it ok fight back: "Really? Maybe you'd like to go out some time then." "No? Why not if I am so sweet and handsome?" "Why should I get a dance from you if you aren't even willing to give me your phone number?" Now I'll admit this seems like it would be fun to do, and that it's certainly petty, and the stripper probably deserves it, but what do you folks think of the ethics of the situation?
Hmm, your screenname is so appropriate.
If someone said something like that to me when I was working, I would laugh in their face, leave, and tell all the other girls about it. Guys who talk this way are never going to spend more than about $40 on you, and IF they do so, they'll be pestering you for a date the entire time. Not worth it!
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I'm sorry. but we deal with comments like that from guys ALL THE TIME. It gets really old. Would you go to a grocery store and refuse to buy food because the cashier wouldn't go on a date with you? Probably not. We're normal people with normal jobs, that's all you need to remember.
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SomeDumbGuy, how old are you? Just curious.
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Dear Mr. Dumb Guy,
I believe you when you say you are socially inept. You are probably just young. And inexperienced. And a little scared. Hey, we've all been there.
Perhaps your limited social skills make you feel threatened by beautiful women. The thread of hostility in your original post is unmistakable.
As others have wisely pointed out, the dancers in the club are there to provide a fantasy for you. It's a fantasy, not reality. Play along with them. Don't try to "get even" or turn the tables on them. They are not there to find dates. Let's say it again: they are not interested in dating you. They are interested in making money to pay their bills and take care of their families.
So smile, be courteous and thoughtful and strive to be a gentlemen. Tip constantly and generously.
The very coolest thing that will ever happen to you in a strip club is when the dancers and the staff actually look forward to your arrival. And when they miss you when you are gone.
I've had some very serious and intriguing jobs in my professional life. This is saying something in Washington, which is basically high school with nuclear weapons and a trillion dollar budget. But still, believe it or not, nothing is cooler than that feeling.
You're on the wrong track now, but we are not giving up on you. Get in there and be a generous gentleman.
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I don't know, Most of the imbeciles I've come across think they can 'bag a stripper'....
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Yes, it is perfectly acceptable to say those things. You should follow it up by propelling a spitwad at her head and saying "teacher teacher I declare...."
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Yes, it is perfectly acceptable to say those things. You should follow it up by propelling a spitwad at her head and saying "teacher teacher I declare...."
:rotfl:
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Originally Posted by CalifSCVisitor65
:rotfl: LMAO Fuschia, I don't have a hunchback but I can get a hatchback car though, will that suffice? :mischievo
I already HAVE a hatchback! It keeps trying to date strippers, though...Damn thing.
Fuschia
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Oh, i tease Dancers all the time.
Just not the way they tease me...
I tease everyone. And you know what? She DOES deserve it (Everyone deserves a little teasing). I'm a handfull, i'll admit it, but i'm not the 'handfull' they are probably used to (I'm not grabby, i'll just sieze any opportunity to goof in one way or another). Do the best i can to give them a good belly laugh. Hey, that's REAL, right?
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I think a lot of guys are intimidated by strippers and act nasty to cover up their insecurity, especially if they're with friends. I empathize with you ladies for having to put up with that every day. I've always found that if I treat dancers with courtesy and respect, most will treat me the same way. But that's pretty much true of anyone, not just dancers. If a dancer is disrespectful to me I just move on to somebody else. No big deal.
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Nice screenname... heh ::)
You wont get my phone number because I am WORKING. I am not trading my number for a dance. Its $20 a dance. You pay, we trade money, and I dance. Thats it.
No its not cute to tease a dancer. Thats not a tease, its a pain in the ass. Im sure its not a pain in the ass to you when the dancer is stroking your ego, now is it?
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You are pretty harsh, noelle! Actually I am pretty socially inept which is why I go to strip clubs in the first place and have to post questions like this since I can't figure it out on my own.
Now wheres the violin?
Please get a grip... dont come on here and try to insult our intelligence. You are too socially inept? Thats a slick way of trying to insult the guys who DO go to stripclubs. Yet you probably DO go to them. So your really dissing yourself.