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k everyone.. sorry it took me so long to post again...
First of all, I appreciate everyone's input and advice. I haven't worked since then, even though the guy was leaving town on friday morning. I am going in tomorrow. (buc's home game)
My bad feeling went away, and I really think it was just me feeling scummy about what I did. It's out of character for me... I don't try to screw customers over... and I feel that's what I did here. Poor judgement, live and learn I guess.
I think "fessing up" on here was an attempt to clear my conscious.
Thanks again though - even though I felt like shit for *lying* <shudders> you guys made me feel better. And BTW, I had spent three hours sitting with the guy (made me rationalize taking his $$)
Safe and happy holidays to everyone :)
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Well, glad all is well. But IMO, $200/hr is quite a reasonable sum for your time at work. ;)
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Originally Posted by tampadancer
something about this whole situation is very unsettling to me and I can't put my finger on it. I woke up this morning with a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach.. like something was telling me something bad was going to happen at work tonight (btw, the man is in town until fri morning...so he could show up at the club tonight) I chocked it up to just feeling guilty about taking this dude's money, and then my boyfriend calls me and says "I just have a bad feeling about something.. like something bad is going to happen today. Be careful."
Needless to say this totally freaked me out and I have decided to not work tonight. what do you all think about this? I know it was a poor judgement call on my part, and it definitely won't happen again... and sorry this post was so long.
Regardless of circumstance, NEVER, EVER IGNORE THAT FEELING!!! Although it's nowhere near 100% accurate and also seems to vary widely from person to person, in my experience most people have a better than 50/50 average... and personally, I've found I'm on-target a good 80%+ of the time.
Re: feeling of impending doom...
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Originally Posted by tampadancer
My bad feeling went away, and I really think it was just me feeling scummy about what I did. It's out of character for me... I don't try to screw customers over... and I feel that's what I did here. Poor judgement, live and learn I guess.
I think "fessing up" on here was an attempt to clear my conscious.
:)
That's cool. Some people have a conscious, some people don't. Personally I think people who try do whats right even when they can get away with taking advantage are much cooler to be around and usually seem happier to me. But to each his own.
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Ya know,I was rereading your post and now realize that the 6 hundred he gave you was for the three hrs you spent with him.So don't feel like you took advantage.I didn't realize that you spent 3 hrs. with the guy.Maybe you misunderstood him while he was putting the money in your garter when he said this should cover your night,Meaning for the time you spent talikng to him and for the rest your work night,He was definitely giving the money for you to keep and he was probably going to give you more if you spent additional time with him.If he has alot of money,I'm sure that he isn't a sucker,otherwise he would be broke.Anyway,He seems to have fealt that the three hrs. you gave him of your time was worth 6 bills.;)
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While this guy may be well-educated, he does not appear to be very smart. He seems to have been attempting to pull one of the oldest "meet a stripper and take her home" tricks I've ever seen.
In my opinion, he was trying to impress you with his intellectual prowess and then attempting to lure you out of the club with the gift of cash. He may have hoped that you might feel fortunate that some one of his intellectual greatness would deign to speak to you, a humble stripper.
His inquiry into how much money it would take to get you out of dancing and producing a wad of hundreds leads me to think he was hoping you were in the market for a sugar daddy. It looks like he thought you would succumb to greed and the desire to have all your outstanding bills paid-off in a short time. Six hundred dollars now, with the possibility of more to come that night and in the future.
"Intellectual topics" is a catch-word for talking about stuff until he tries to get you into the sack.
"Every stipper has a price" is what guys like this one believe. They think that they can flatter and bribe you into being their sex toy. They keep the girl around until they get tired of her and replace her without a second thought. While he may deny that he intended to try top get sex from you that night, it looks to me that it was the "topic" foremost on his mind.
Keep the money and dont feel guilty.
Remember this old phrase that I learned long ago: "Scam me? No, scam YOU!"
Re: feeling of impending doom...
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Originally Posted by tampadancer
k everyone.. sorry it took me so long to post again...
First of all, I appreciate everyone's input and advice. I haven't worked since then, even though the guy was leaving town on friday morning. I am going in tomorrow. (buc's home game)
My bad feeling went away, and I really think it was just me feeling scummy about what I did. It's out of character for me... I don't try to screw customers over... and I feel that's what I did here. Poor judgement, live and learn I guess.
I think "fessing up" on here was an attempt to clear my conscious.
Thanks again though - even though I felt like shit for *lying* <shudders> you guys made me feel better. And BTW, I had spent three hours sitting with the guy (made me rationalize taking his $$)
Safe and happy holidays to everyone :)
Belle, you earned that money to me. You sat with him for 3 hrs!
I could see how you would feel guilty because i kinda have a good idea of the person you are. But you truely dont need to feel guilty.
Lol, actually its kinda funny to hear that you did that...lol, i wish i was there to see it!