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Honest question about identity?
My last girlfriend ended things because she thought I was gay. I dance at amatuer nights at clubs with a mixed audience sometimes. She was okay with that. One time we were talking about fanatasies. I said I wouldn't trying anal with her wearing a strap-on. She lost it. That was that. I don't want to have sex with a guy. I don't think I'm gay. I don't know what others would think. I'm curious what others think. I'm kind of having an identity crisis.
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i think you are too....b/c you dont know what you are.
You keep saying "think"....like I think im not gay.
Id suggest you go out and have fun, try different things....and see what oyu like and dont like...that way you can say for sure what you are or arent.
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Originally Posted by gradstudentguy
I said I wouldn't trying anal with her wearing a strap-on. She lost it. That was that
she lost it because you wouldn't try anal, or you would?
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and I don't think I know enough about you to form an opinion of your sexual preference. But as A said, if you're not sure yourself, than maybe it's time to experiment
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I think he forgot the word "mind"
If you don't want to have sex with a guy, then you're not gay. End of story.
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Is everyone around here questioning their sexuality these days? Wow.
Only you know, really. Do a little 'soul searching'...You'll find answers.
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If you aren't you aren't and if you are you are... I wouldn't worry, go out and meet people. If you have no interest in men then you aren't gay, if you do maybe you are bi curious.. Don't you love labels?
Anyway, I dated a male dancer that didn't mind the dildo either, I thought if he wants to try it on me I ge to do it to him first.... If she didn't appreciate your openness find someone who does.
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I think theres plenty of people that like to play with strap-ons that are gay, straight, bi, female and male. Theres nothing wrong with your fantasy. Or maybe that wasnt your fantasy?? Maybe I read junk wrong? Anyways, you will always know what you like and dont like. Hey you could be bi? Who knows.....try some stuff out with some people (be safe btw) and you will instantly figure out whats up. Good Luck hun.
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do you own a dildo? use if occationally?
are you attracted to men or notice men you find particularly handsome?
those are questions you could ask yourself, and like everybody is saying - it is just your fantasy - gay, straight, or bi - anyway, that's another opinion for you.
and oh yeah, what LoveSexMoney said.
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I think we're all a little gay.
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i say if you fantasize about men then you're curious and maybe you should experiment with a man or if you don't think about men just find a more sexually uninhibited woman.
sometimes i feel like fucking my man in the ass but he'd never go for that...does that mean i want to be a man? 'cuz i wanna be the one doing the penetrating instead of the one being penetrated?? so confusing....hurry, think of a label to help explain me dammit! :O
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Originally Posted by gradstudentguy
My last girlfriend ended things because she thought I was gay. I dance at amatuer nights at clubs with a mixed audience sometimes. She was okay with that. One time we were talking about fanatasies. I said I wouldn't trying anal with her wearing a strap-on. She lost it. That was that. I don't want to have sex with a guy. I don't think I'm gay. I don't know what others would think. I'm curious what others think. I'm kind of having an identity crisis.
Do you get a boner for the girls? Then you like women.
Do you get a boner for the guys? Then you like men.
Do you get a boner for both sexes? Then you are bi.
The boner knows all these things. Trust your boner - it knows what you want.
Why do you think men listen to their boners so much?
Ah... well... that may actually be a different conversation.
But back on point - one can certainly admire a man for his beauty/handsomeness or the work he has put into himself.
Doing so doesn't make you gay - it just means you can differentiate from good looking people and bad looking people; That you can determine those who have "good genes" and those who put effort into their bodies (body shaping, etc.)
Now if you start thinking about caressing his chest or wanting to give him a bit of a shoulder rub... there you are showing a degree of fondness for men.
If you ACTUALLY DO IT then you might be showing a bigger degree of fondness for men.
It is a graduated thing and probably a "who's around" kind of thing.
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Oh for fuck's sake....GO FUCK A DUDE AND SEE IF YOU LIKE IT!!!!
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Originally Posted by Deogol
Do you get a boner for the girls? Then you like women.
Do you get a boner for the guys? Then you like men.
Do you get a boner for both sexes? Then you are bi.
The boner knows all these things. Trust your boner - it knows what you want.
Why do you think men listen to their boners so much?
Ah... well... that may actually be a different conversation.
But back on point - one can certainly admire a man for his beauty/handsomeness or the work he has put into himself.
Doing so doesn't make you gay - it just means you can differentiate from good looking people and bad looking people; That you can determine those who have "good genes" and those who put effort into their bodies (body shaping, etc.)
Now if you start thinking about caressing his chest or wanting to give him a bit of a shoulder rub... there you are showing a degree of fondness for men.
If you ACTUALLY DO IT then you might be showing a bigger degree of fondness for men.
It is a graduated thing and probably a "who's around" kind of thing.
LMAO!!! Exactly!!!!
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Originally Posted by MojoJojo
Oh for fuck's sake....GO FUCK A DUDE AND SEE IF YOU LIKE IT!!!!
LMAO!!!! }:D
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Originally Posted by MojoJojo
Oh for fuck's sake....GO FUCK A DUDE AND SEE IF YOU LIKE IT!!!!
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ...OH SHIT!!!!
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I don't think I'm gay.
This is one of those things where if you have to ask...
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Originally Posted by RoseDelight
Is everyone around here questioning their sexuality these days? Wow.
Only you know, really. Do a little 'soul searching'...You'll find answers.
Well, to be perfectly honest, it seems to me that if you even have to ask yourself this question....:O I'm not trying to be facetious here - but is this how it really works for some of ya'll? I mean, seriously... at some point in life you actually had to pause and think about it? Didn't you just intuitively "know" from the get-go?
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Im with Mojo, do some soul searching and experiment, you may be bi- so what? Try and find out, if you are good for you, you will finally know where you stand, if you're not then it was worth the try. Good luck!
ViXie
www.Sexxxy-Me.com
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I guess I might be bi:
I just wanted to say thanks for the thoughts. I have been away from the computer for a couple days.
After reading this, I think I'm bi/curious. It's a turn-on for me when guys or girls look at me. You know the look of lust you get from customers. But I'd NEVER do anything with them. Maybe it's a turn-on
because I know it'll never happen.
Once a month or so, I do amatuer night at the gay bar. I do it because I think it's fun, and it's a little extra cash.
I own a couple butt plugs and a dildo. (My favorite is the plug that vibrates). I use them occassionally, and I'll admit that I've tried sucking the dildo and liked it.Even so, most times I get turned-on are by women. I've seen a few guys--but they've been few and far between--that turned me on.
So I guess I'm bi/curious. I haven't done anything with guys. That's probably because I'm worried about safety. If I get the guts, I'll give it a try. I guess you can be both gay and straight.
Happy holidays.
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Congrats.
You'll be much happier now...good luck with it...and keep your mind open.
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I think all guys think about having their asses poked at no matter with a finger a tongue,or a dildo,It has nothing to do with being gay or not,It's a form of stimulation....:P As long as they want to do it with a woman I don't think they are gay.My advice to you is,Find a chick who's not judgmental and doesn't make you question your sexuality baby.;) There's nothing wrong with you,you just got really turned on,that's all dude.}:D
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Oh wait a minute,I didn't read the posts after your original one,Dude,You are a gay! :O Sorry!LOL!
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Originally Posted by tiamaria
Oh wait a minute,I didn't read the posts after your original one,Dude,You are a gay! :O Sorry!LOL!
ditto! ..or at least bi, or maybe putting us on....
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Originally Posted by tiamaria
Oh wait a minute,I didn't read the posts after your original one,Dude,You are a gay! :O Sorry!LOL!
Only on the internet can two sentences be so completely different....
"Well...Maybe you're just curious"..
"Dude, you are a gay!"