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What is a "Sugar Daddy"are you one? or Do you have One?
I have seen a few posts like this, and apoligize if there are threds posted already on this board....
Imma a blue board virgin.
anyways..... Have you ever been a real sugar daddy for someone? Or thought of doing so? if you have what were the services rendered.. and what did you benifit from it?
Girls ...... If you have a sugar daddy.... How did you get yours? and what makes him stay?
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I've never been, nor have I ever thought of being, a sugar daddy. I, personally, can't fathom the thought of parting with my own hard earned money for what would amount to a coke & a smile. I'm sure some people actually do get something out of both sides of that coin. I would be interested in the responses from some of those that have had or been one.
This sugar also comes with spice & everything nice. It's all one package and is non-negotiable. ;D
MW
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Welcome to the blue side btw. You know what they say. Once you've gone blue... :)
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I don't think sugar daddy arrangements really help anyone. They enable all kinds of irresponsible behaviors by dancers. I would never do it on principle.
One of my friends gave a dancer a cell phone with the account in his name. Big mistake. :O
Nice to have you here, Katharine. You're a blue board virgin until Mr. Punk posts on your thread. :)
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A significant amount of dollars flow from me to Miss D but I dont know that I would qualify as a full fledged sugar daddy. Id say my monthly "contributions" easily cover her rent and car payment but thats about it. If I dropped out of the picture, would she feel the pinch? No doubt she would. But Im a realist and understand that Miss D's a go-getter and in short order would find a replacement. Maybe not someone as fun as me but what the hell, fun doesnt pay the bills unless you charge for it ::)
FBR
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Well, what's the definition of a sugar daddy???
Are there "full fledged" sugar daddys compared to "part time" ones?
Just to clarify here guys... :) lol
Luv,
Amber
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As ya'll know, I gave it a shot and it turned out VERY badly. I prefer the anonymity of lapdancing. Although I am a great conversationalist, hit n run grind the dickie and leave works best for me. I'd rather be physically drained than emotionally drained at the end of the night.........
BTW, I always assumed that there would have to be sexual activity in exchange for the sugar daddy's "gifts".
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I have seen a few girls post that they dont have to have any sexual contact at all. I just dont see how that can be.
I'd rather be physically drained than emotionally drained at the end of the night.........also katrine.... smart girl you are.
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I don't see the point in being an SD.
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Conversely, I probably have more of a "fantasy" of being a sugar daddy than being part of a threesome, as explored in a different thread. Probably because:
1. Sugar daddy would be a more likely fit within my own life circumstances. And
2. That would mean I'm making more money and having more free time than I do now.
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I don't see the point in being an SD.
If you enjoy seeing your lady be happy with the amount of money, time, and attention spent on her, this kind of arrangement has its benefits.
:)
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Originally Posted by Amber76
Well, what's the definition of a sugar daddy???
a benefactor or an idiot depending on your POV :) . basically, a guy who spends a lot of cash on one woman. in the stripper world, it can also take the form of new boobs, a car, college tuition, shopping trips, vacation, etc.
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Originally Posted by Katharine
I have seen a few girls post that they dont have to have any sexual contact at all. I just dont see how that can be.
it's possible in a sc, but it very rare. there are more than a few rubes in a sc. however, most of the guys who into this type of arrangement have probably done it before in the past. so, it's usually an ass-for-cash deal.
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Originally Posted by Katrine
Although I am a great conversationalist, hit n run grind the dickie and leave works best for me. I'd rather be physically drained than emotionally drained at the end of the night.........
very insightful, kat.
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Originally Posted by Casual Observer
I don't see the point in being an SD.
it can be mutually beneficial. she gets the cash and he gets the ass. however, as kat pointed out, guys like that are sometimes looking for something a bit more complex and possibly more costly to the other party than the sex.
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Originally Posted by mr_punk
a benefactor or an idiot depending on your POV :) . basically, a guy who spends a lot of cash on one woman. in the stripper world, it can also take the form of new boobs, a car, college tuition, shopping trips, vacation, etc.
Mr_P LOL
Sugar Daddy conversations motivate me to do an analysis of my "relationship with Miss D"
New boobs....Shes a full 36C all natural so I dont have to front boobie surgury.
Car...Her credit is good so I'll let her continue to make the payments on her SUV. OK fine....I admittedly contribute a few bucks indirectly.
Tuition....I'll let the local Ohio university continue to pay her tuition and give her a stipend. When she becomes Dr. Miss D I can say I knew her when she was a regular gal :P
Shopping trips....LOL I havent done that although Im sure she wouldnt turn me down.
Vacation...are you talking some out of town time? That would be fun as hell but I dont see me being able to pull that one off.
FBR
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CO....Some men really like "Eye candy" on their arms. I had a guy offer me $2k for each date, He'd pay my tuition, He'd buy me clothes, and even pay my rent. All he wanted me to do was 'go out' with him in public. He's a lawyer in Florida and he basically wanted someone to always 'look good' around him I guess. Sex was not in the deal.
I passed it up but it would have been a nice adventure.
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I'm not doubting there are men who will pay for these "no sex" escort like arrangements. I just wonder what the number of these SD relationships end in a clean cut manner (as in with both parties understanding throughout its course, that its nothing but an extended business transaction), compared to those that end with one or both parties learning a very painful lesson.
If one shoves enough money in the wrong gals face, or enough pussy in the wrong guys face, weird things tend to happen.
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For guys with the cash, it can devolve into a matter of how much convenience is worth to you. Someone might have a $20,000 renovation done on the house just to have a nicer door. Or spend $20,000 extra on a car just because of the name.
So if a guy wallowing in disposable income wants to spend tens of thousands simply because he wants the lady with whom he's enamored to be more convenient to him, who am I to sneer? It's his money, and he decides the value of it, assuming the lady is amenable.
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I've seen some painful lessons happen. I've seen feelings grow and then the man realizes,"Hey...It was really only about my money"...Some tend to think that they can throw around the word money and love/sex will come soon after.
Most just see it as a deal that's made. Nothing less, Nothing more.
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If you enjoy seeing your lady be happy with the amount of money, time, and attention spent on her, this kind of arrangement has its benefits.
Yeah, it's called a "girlfriend" and I've done that a few times before.
The reason I go to strip clubs is so that I can avoid the expense, drama and complications that are unforutnately inherent in my regular relationships. SDing seems to increase the prevalence of all three of those things that I don't like about relationships.
Not only that, but for me, my ego isn't stroked because some chick is ooohhing and aahhhing over my bank account. Hell, my dry cleaner can do that.
OTC fun with strippers a la FBR/Miss D-type arrangements aside, the whole sugar daddy concept seems incredibly counterintuitive. But I'm weird, as we all know.
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I think the appeal of it is the fact that most of the time.....There isn't any drama. There's no attachments, no emotions, etc.. It's purely (mainly) about the money.
There's no jealousy, lingering feelings, etc. It can become sticky if emotions eventually get involved or accidents occur.
The whole point is suppose to be 'easy money'....Which we all know. There is no such thing. I don't think I could ever do it because it'd become emotionally draining, and eventually time will run out.
My friend has a 'sugar daddy'....They have a very strict business relationship. He pays for her car note, rent, clothes, books, etc. All she has to do is pretend to be his gf. Call him, write him letters, go out to eat, etc. There's no physical contact, whatsoever. I honestly don't see the thrill of it....What is he getting out of this, really? She doesn't have any emotional feelings, and vice versa.
The whole idea is suppose to be 'easy money'.....There's no such thing, in my opinion.
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Originally Posted by Katharine
anyways..... Have you ever been a real sugar daddy for someone? Or thought of doing so? if you have what were the services rendered.. and what did you benifit from it?
No, I have never been or could be comfortable being a Sugar Daddy.I like people to be my friend because they like me not what's in my bank account.I think anyone who is a Sugar Daddy is a pathetic loser and suffers from lack of social skills or lacks a personality that they would sacrifice their self esteem and be played like that.I would jump off a bridge before selling myself out.On the other hand it's great for the girl/woman I guess to be able to find such a wanker that would go for that. :P
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Originally Posted by SonicBones
No, I have never been or could be comfortable being a Sugar Daddy.I like people to be my friend because they like me not what's in my bank account.I think anyone who is a Sugar Daddy is a pathetic loser and suffers from lack of social skills or lacks a personality that they would sacrifice their self esteem and be played like that.I would jump off a bridge before selling myself out.On the other hand it's great for the girl/woman I guess to be able to find such a wanker that would go for that. :P
I understand your point.
But pathetic loser? That's a bit over the line, IMO.
He isn't sacrificing his self esteem though.
He knows what's happening before he leaps into it. He's lonely, bored, and wants company. He finds an attractive lady to be his 'date', or 'girlfriend'.....He knows that it's about money. How could he not? He's forking it over and that was the whole point of it in the beginning.
A 'suga daddy' isn't about love or emotions (if done properly). It's the same as legal escorting. You don't go for love, or emotions. You go for the company of someone else or possibly something you aren't getting at home.
I wouldn't spend my money that way.
But to each his own. He most likely doesn't have the same social skills as most would but think about it. You're a rich male, money to waste, or kill.....You're single, and you don't want to deal with the emotions that come along with having a gf. Why not find some gorgeous girl to dazzle?
Men hire legal escorts for the same reason.
By nature, we seek companions. :)
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I have to wonder if my boyfriend's my sugar daddy. He has, after all paid for hotels, nice dinners, pretty clothes, etc for me in addition to taking care of the rent. Of course I gave it up long before receiving any of these perks . . .
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Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
I have to wonder if my boyfriend's my sugar daddy. He has, after all paid for hotels, nice dinners, pretty clothes, etc for me in addition to taking care of the rent. Of course I gave it up long before receiving any of these perks . . .
Nah, Isn't that what boyfriends or SO's do? Or should do maybe?:)
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Originally Posted by RoseDelight
I understand your point.
But pathetic loser? That's a bit over the line, IMO.
He isn't sacrificing his self esteem though.
Too me that is sacrificing your self esteem.Paying someone to be
with you in any capacity. If they're on the payroll then their an employee of yours. But I guess desperation can motivate people.
But to each his own. He most likely doesn't have the same social skills as most would but think about it. You're a rich male, money to waste, or kill.....You're single, and you don't want to deal with the emotions that come along with having a gf. Why not find some gorgeous girl to dazzle?
Men hire legal escorts for the same reason.
By nature, we seek companions. :)
Sure.I agree with you on this to a point. I call it dating though:P
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Hiring someone is the non-emotional, non physical, and lots of debt type of relationship ;)