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Dancing for a woman while the husband doesn't watch
I just danced for a woman who came in with her husband. When I asked HIM for a dance she jumped in and said let's go... while he stayed in the main bar area..
:O It was pretty awkward because I have never danced for a woman alone (except for a lesbian customer I had 2 years ago), and she was married - so not a lesbo.. Has this happened to anyone before? Was it awkward for you? what moves do you substitute for the grinding/girating?
And another thing.. If a woman goes for a dance by herself, what's the poing? cant she just look in the mirror at her own genitals?
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Maybe the woman was looking for some moves to use on her SO so they can spice up the night life at home. Also she could of dragged in her SO so that she wouldnt look like a lesbian by watching another woman dance nude for her. What a great cover up. But who knows.
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How do you know she was 100% straight? Just because she is married to a man doesn't mean she's straight. Or did she say that she was? I've only ever dances for a married couple with them both there and the wife was bi.
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I have always loved watching other girls dance. A body of a woman turns me on more than a mans. I'm not completely straight/
We all know woman look at other woman for all types of styles. Dancing is just another style. Maybe she did pick up some moves from you.
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As for dancing for women - it is a different dance I do for them. Unless they specifically request it... I generally do not do any open leg work, pussy shots or any such. I stick with a more sensual contact dance with women. I stick with dancing so that I move my body in a feminine sensual seductive manner.
I do dance this way for men however I also dance a little erotically (open leg work, plenty of pussy as such) and the sensual aspect isn't as heavy as it is with women.
This is what I have learnt over the years for dancing for women.
As for the reason why she went for the dance over the husband.... maybe SHE is more into private dances than her husband. Man... if I ever marry... don't call me straight! I definately have bi-sexual tendancies within me.
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I've danced for a couple of women, and it doesn't bother me. I've noticed that a lot of girls at the club won't do it. $20 is $20 imo.
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Heck, I haven't slept with a woman in years, but I still like getting lap dances. I even like the "pussy shots." Each woman is different, just like each guy. There's guys who don't like grinding, either. So just try to do what she seems to like and be comfortable with. I get dances for my own enjoyment, not for that of my so or other companions at the club when I'm out. So bear that in mind. She might just think you're pretty and look like fun.
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for me it's only awkward if the girl is giggling and acting all shy about it, not paying attention, or being self-conscious about looking gay. then I don't know what to hit her with.
but if it's a girl who's down for it then why deprive her as a paying customer? the last place I or her needs to feel self-conscious about sexual expression is at a titty bar.
as far as a the genitals in the mirror, the dancer has something that the girl customer doesn't have, like a different rank, a different figure, different looks, different dance moves, which is why she's drawn to it. every girl has something another girl doesn't have which is why they can be gay, just like every guy has something a girl doesn't have which is why we are attracted to them.
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Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
Heck, I haven't slept with a woman in years, but I still like getting lap dances. I even like the "pussy shots." Each woman is different, just like each guy. There's guys who don't like grinding, either. So just try to do what she seems to like and be comfortable with. I get dances for my own enjoyment, not for that of my so or other companions at the club when I'm out. So bear that in mind. She might just think you're pretty and look like fun.
same for me!
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I've done it a few times, mostly I substitute the grinding/gyrating for up-close attention, play with their boobs [can backfire, if you in a two-way touching club, I usually ask girl customers to keep their hands at their sides], do a longer striptease/nude dance, etc.
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My wife loves to go into clubs with me and receive LDs by herself...she'll go off and spend 15-30 minutes getting dances and come back all flushed and happy.:) She just thinks that the female form can be amazingly sexy, she loves being touched by women-- she just totally gets into it :) . Plus, she has had many dancers tell her that they actually prefer dancing for women (whether this is a "line" or not...who knows).
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Originally Posted by sumotek
.....Also she could of dragged in her SO so that she wouldnt look like a lesbian by watching another woman dance nude for her....
I don't even know where to begin with this statement. >:(
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Originally Posted by lopaw
I don't even know where to begin with this statement. >:(
No kidding.
isnt this your 3rd or 2nd question about women being in the club?
They will be there and sometimes they will ask for a dance. You should be happy, not offended. You sound sour.
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I think it is a great thing for the couple when they can enjoy this the same:)
She maight want an impression and cought some ideas for the homeshow too! How did she tip?
I'm pretty used to women watching shows and wanting dances. The SM fetish club has a pretty equal share of men and women and most are sort of couples.
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I dance for women all the time. Sometimes their S.O. watches and sometimes they don't. Personally, it does not make me uncomfortable at all. Most of the girls I dance for are pretty hot ladies so it's just fun and more cash in my pocket.
When the husband feels as though you are turning his wife on and now he is going to go home and have great sex or get their woman to open up to more fantasies, it's all in your favor....;)
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Quote: isnt this your 3rd or 2nd question about women being in the club?
They will be there and sometimes they will ask for a dance. You should be happy, not offended. You sound sour
No, I have never asked this question before.. I am not sour, I just felt so awkward that she was enjoying it so much, her being married and all.. I don't know, narrow minded me, I guess
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wasn't there a similar question you posted about why straight women go into clubs?
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IMO, the customer is there to enjoy your work, not you theirs.
I think someone mentioned it before, $50 is $50 right ?
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It only sucks dancing for women when they were coerced into it by their man/friends they're with. Then the girl feels uncomfortable, which in turn so do I. But that's also happened with guys before too though. Buddy's force them into a dance and that turns into a looong 3-4 minutes.
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[/QUOTE] No, I have never asked this question before.. I am not sour, I just felt so awkward that she was enjoying it so much, her being married and all.. I don't know, narrow minded me, I guess[/QUOTE]
Well, in the future, do the gals like me (who REALLY enjoy lap dances) a favor and let the more "open-minded" dancers attend to us.
The last thing I want in a club is to get all excited to have a dance, only to have the dancer feeling "awkward" during the dance. Trust me....I'm sure I would pick up on that vibe and have a lousy time.
Ugh.
I'm sure there are other dancers in your club that will happily attend to female customers & their needs. Let them do it.
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Here Here Lopaw!! I feel the same way. Last night, I made the mistake of continually tipping this beautiful girl on stage, who in turn, did not even say thank you, smile, or anything. I thought maybe, after a while, she'd get the picture and approach me. Nope. I gave her about $10 on stage, and got no kind of acknowledgement. Meanwhile, I'm getting approached like crazy for dances by girls that did want to perform for me, but, like a fool, I thought maybe she'd come around. Negative. I got the picture, and started accepting the offers from the girls who did want to perform for me and appreciated my attention, and wound up having a blast, and making a new friend. Not every female custy in that club is straight, and not every female custy is there to paw all over you, criticize you or your job, try to get felt up, or do the feeling up. (yes I know I ended a sentence in a preposition). Some of us are there for you. All we want is your attention and time. If you don't want to give it, or it makes you uncomfortable, don't give it. But don't be rude to good, paying custys. We're there for you girls. Sorry for the rant. :)
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DSUsb19,
I hear ya. I've had the experience you describe happen to me before many times. If it is any consolation to us both, I know plenty of guys that have experienced it as well.An all too common occurance in clubs nowadays, I guess. I now do just as you did...generously tip the dancers that come over and hang with me, and forget about the ones who can't be bothered. It's funny, tho, how sometimes these dancers will see the $$$$ flying, and eventually work their way over to my table! Amazing what the mighty $$$$ can do. :smiley_sm
I can't help but scratch my head knowing that a lot of the dancers ignoring custy's are the same ones that will sit all night at the bar or in the dressing room complaining how they aren't making any money. Oh well. Thank goodness that for every girl like that, there are tons of sweet ladies who work their butts off, and treat us customers right. ;D
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I've gone to the stripclubs a few times with my boyfriend but usually its me dragging him there. I think there is nothing more beautiful than women and its something I just can't really experience at home with the boy. I really have the greatest respect for the women there, kinda would love to spend my money on girls that are comfortable with themselves, and am super curious about the whole industry and very much want to do it in the future, but alas I am a white girl with 0 rhythm/dance skills.