Re: Chatting after dances
When the dance is over, when he pays, give him a peck on the cheek, thank him sincerely, and wish him a good night. It doesn't need to be complicated and most guys aren't expecting a big production after the dance - they've already gotten what they paid for--the dance.
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That's a great tip Brigette. And the other dancers wonder why I'll only dance with specific girls. If you make the guy feel like a valued customer, he'll always come back for more.
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Thirded. Simple, easy, only takes a few seconds and will go a surprisingly long way towards making him feel good about the whole experience - which as Red said, then increases your chance of him looking for you later/again.
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^ All of the above is good advice. I would only add to smile and make eye contact...try to make a personal connection, if only for a second. Say something like, "next time you come back, come and find me." Make me feel like you have enjoyed dancing for me.... Things like that hook me every time :)
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Originally Posted by suzielightning
I have gotten so many great ideas for ways to chat with customers and get them to buy a dance, but my problem comes after I dance, and he doesn't want more dances. I know it would be rude to just say "Okay, bye" and move on immediately, but I tend to use up all my good lines getting the dance. And frankly, I don't like chatting when I can tell the guy doesn't want more dances. How do I gracefully excuse myself without leaving a sour taste in his mouth?
Realistically, most of the male of the species will realise that you are earning a living and your motive for dancing for us is primarily financial. However, with our fragle little egos, we also like to think there is an element of personal motive there also.
Also realistically, we know that you do not really fancy us, but we do like to think that you feel a little affection for us. Therefore when leaving try to convey, (even if it's a pretence):
1. We've been pleasant company and treated you in the way you like.
"I've enjoyed our conversation and thanks for treating me with courtesy."
2. There's some other reason for moving on.
"I'd love to keep on talking to you, but my managment has strict rules insisting I circulate."
3. You actually like me a little.
Kiss on the cheek and a murmer of thanks.
4. A hint that things might progress further if you and I meet again.
"It'll be really nice if you looked me up if you're in the club again."
If you understand body language, tailor yours accordingly. Hold eye conract for just a fraction longer than politeness requires - this is a "courtship" signal and gives the impression you are attracted to us. Sit within 6", as this is again a "courtship" signal. Also touch us lightly once or twice on the hand or arm to create the impression of intimacy. Most men will not consciously decode these signals, but deep down in our subsconsious a little voice will say, "ah, she likes me".
With all this allow a discrete interval of several minutes between the last dance and moving on - after all we do have fragile egos and would not like to think that your main motive was indeed financial. The illusion must be maintained and the extra couple of minutes leave us thinking that you have enjoyed our company and are not in a hurry to rush off.
Phil W.
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Nothing like a change in mood that feels like a passing weather front, the see-ya-sucker look, and the light speed disappearance to make me catalog a dancer in the further interaction unwarranted category.
So, I would argue that a graceful disengagement is important if repeat business is of interest.
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A good thing to do would be to ask him what his plans are for the remainder of his time at the club.
If you got to him early, he might be sticking around for awhile to see what game your co-workers have. Ask him if he'd like for you to check back later for a second session.
If you got to him late (or did such a good job that you cleaned him out), he's probably going to be heading home soon, possibly after your finished. In this case, ask him if he knows when he'll be in again. If he thinks he might be back, give him your work schedule.
In either case, a sincere thank you gesture (like what Bridgette suggested) is always warranted. If he behaved himself and respected your comfort zones, specifically thank him for his manners.
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I collect the payment, hug them, and tell them I am so greatful for them helping me out. Then I just go on my way and find a new guy. They should understand I have to make money.
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A "thanks" and I'll check back with you later works for me.
I don't think I ever not gotten at least a "thank you."
Re: Chatting after dances
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Originally Posted by Bridgette
When the dance is over, when he pays, give him a peck on the cheek, thank him sincerely, and wish him a good night. It doesn't need to be complicated and most guys aren't expecting a big production after the dance - they've already gotten what they paid for--the dance.
Yep I agree
I find it easier for me to do my dance, and once it is done, give him a sexy thank you and go out for more action
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I do the peck on the cheek, thank you, a huge whilst still nude (allows them one last "feel" as such) and then I (mischeviously) slap them on their butt. Yup.. I slap the customer on his butt. If I miss it or slap him on his butt cheek that has his wallet in it.. then I go for the "unhindered" butt cheek ;D It is my little thing I do and they all like it because they know I'm having fun. Nothing sinister about it.
It's my way of separating myself from the other dancers at the end of the dance, if nothing else. I then do my bad impersonation of Austin Powers "Beeeehave baby!" with a wink.
Sounds like alot. Then again, the private lap dances are done in a separate area away from the main floor and I strive to sell the longer dances (20 minutes up)..... it doesn't take that long in the end.
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Reading through all the comments from the dancers, I think the problem boils down to how to disengage gracefully and relatively quickly without giving the impression that your motive was predominately financial. (It probably was, but hey, us guys have got fragile egos!).
In that case, it's not so much the saying of the goodbye, as the manner in which it was done. There you have to take into account the differing mindsets involved.
The dancer is probably thinking: "I've probably made as much money as I can from this bloke, and now I need to move on and find another paying customer."
Said customer is probably thinking: "I've just spent $xx on this dancer and I would hope that she likes me as a person and/or has gotten a little erotic thrill from what she's doing......etc, etc."
The original question was how how move away after a dance. The answer, (from my male perspective), is that it's obviously within a dancer's control to move way as quickly as she likes, but unless what she says or does during the parting process satisfies the guy's mindset, she's reducing the chances that that particular person will look her up for further dances in the future.
Phil W.
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After our dancing has finished I'll ask the guy if he's going to be staying for a while. If no, I walk him to the coat check & give him a hug & tell him to come back & see me on such & such days. If yes, I'll tell him I need to walk around/fix my makeup/grab a bite to eat/get a drink - I'm so thirsty/etc & I Will Come Back later to him (even it's a lie). I tell this to consistent but low-spending regulars. It's a friendly, graceful exit - it doesn't matter if you don't come back if he's stll there - act busy.
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I'll thank them, give a hug, and escort them back to their seat.
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Phil-W, great contributions! I love hearing about the customer's point of view.
After showing my sincere appreciation, I escort them back to his seat (if it's not killer busy). Always, I say, "I must greet a few people. I would love to visit you later this evening." Most of the time, he wants me to come back again. $$$$$$. This is a big time saver as you've already hustled him and he already likes you. Show up later and he's good to go.
Sometimes he says that he is done for the evening and I insist that he not leave before saying goodbye. Smile like you had the time of your life. Be gracious. Act classy.
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I like the point about telling him what nights you work(if you like him). I find myself wondering that after I leave the club and don't think to ask usually.
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it depends on what you want from the custie.
the more time you spend after the dances the more likely i'll become your regular
and only spend money on you.
their is a girl that has been ther for 10 odd years and the only customers she has are regulars. she may not make the most per night but she makes a constant flow from any of her regulars.
i've recently switched atfs myself for this very reason.
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Originally Posted by suzielightning
... How do I gracefully excuse myself without leaving a sour taste in his mouth?
When you are giving nude lap dances, don't let him suck on your panties.