Thinking about starting, need advice
I live in So. IL. and of course theres no jobs no money and I'm trying to get into school. Well I recently went to my first strip club a month ago, i didn't really like that one but then I went to the Gallery. I really liked it. And I would love to go there to work. Now I have a few questions for the girls out there:
-For pole dancing is it really hard to hang upside down? I know I shouldn't try it outright. I'm kinda clumsy on things like that.
-What kind of advice would you give me for a 19 year old girl to try to do this? I'm really debating on if I would be cut out for it. I'm a 110 lb 5 foot 2 girl though so I'm short but I've been wearing platforms since I was 9! Thats no biggie. I'm just worried I wouldn't be cut out for it.
-For having a boyfriend, is it hard to keep one doing the line of work your doing. My guy right now has me go with him and his friends to the Gallery all the time. They all pitch in money just to see me go up there to take my top off and lay down on stage. (last night I had money thrown at me! I think thats a good sign?)
Any advice on how to get started anything please reply cause I'm just really unsure as to if I would make it as one or not.
Thank you very much!
Amarantha Lorelei
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
As with everything in life, it's easier to become a stripper than it is to stay one.
-everything with pole work is harder than it looks. hanging upside down is definitely not step 1.
-Look at your values, your relationships, and your character. Reconsider 1. if you'll feel too guilty, 2. if you'll have to hide it too much 3. if you get easily bothered by grabby guys 4. if you hate socializing 5. if you're too trusting of others, for example if you would give a custy your #.
-Are you good at selling things?!!! If your clubs have hustling for dances, you need to know how to sell things or you could very well hate it.
-It's one thing for your BF to ask you to go up there so he can see you. He might have done it just for laughs. It's a whole other thing when you're doing stuff for lots of people all day long who have no concern for your safety.
-No the incident is what the outside world thinks stripping is like, and the money, easy.
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
Thanks for the advice. I did go to the Ameture night last night and I had so much fun I got $65 for a 4 min. song. and most of the girls there asked me if I had danced before. I think that means I didn't do bad? So anyways I had fun. and lets see $65 is 1/3 my paycheck from mcdonalds! the only thing is I haven't really discussed it with my BF so hopefully he wont be too upset.
But I know that I had fun and was excited to do it.
I do see your point about my BF just having me go up there for laughs but me atually working there would be completly different.
Amarantha
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
I say go for it - if your boyfriend is supportive, and if you're curious. You can quit at any time.
The money sometimes does come easy - but it won't be the same $65 for one song - I'm pretty sure that is one of those things that happens for amateurs on good nights.
But try it, you sound like you're a natural!
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
Well, I was 19 when I got started, although I had danced a couple of private parties before that (NOT something I recommend!). When you're a stripper, getting and keeping a boyfriend is easy. On the other hand, getting and keeping the RIGHT boyfriend is hard as hell. It sounds like you're ahead of the game if you've already got a b/f who is supportive of you stripping and doesn't have a prob with you dancing for other men. I've got to tell you, though, that you WILL have a prob if he hangs out at your club. It is VERY hard for guys to handle not becomming a pain in the ass.
Yeah, the money can be VERY good. It's a hell of a lot better than p/t at McDonalds. However, there are a lot of little details.... 'fer instance, who pays for your health insurance? Are you still on your parent's policy? If so, good. It might not be a bad idea for you to continue to w--k at McD's one day a week, if you can, just to "cover" to your friends and family as to where all the money is coming from.
Also, remember that it's HARD WORK!!! Don't get suckered into dancing too many nights a week. While you're in school, if you can keep it at two nights, you'll be cool. The money will suck you in big-time, but DON'T fall into the trap of thinking, "wow, if I danced FOUR nights a week, I could buy that really neat car." Don't Do IT!!! First, you end up with this complicated explanation to your parents about where you got the car. Second, your school work goes straight down the tubes. Use dancing to pay your normal bills, and sock EVERY STINKING EXTRA DIME into a money market fund and forget about it.
Also, you'll IMMEDIATELY get the idea that it would be nice to buy your b/f some presents. That's nice. A watch is nice. Maybe some ski goggles. BUT THATS IT!!!! He can become a junkie for this stuff, too. Nothing sadder than seeing a b/f who is addicted to his stripper-girlfriend's money. (You have NO IDEA how many no-job pimps are driving nice cars bought by their stripper-girlfriends).
As for the pole tricks and such, those will come over time. Personally, I never was very good at the pole, so I didn't do much of that. Other girls are like trapeze artists. Go figure....
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
thanks you all for the advice!!!
Amar
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
Hi There,
It is really easy to start dancing and not so easy to quit in my experience. I have found that the money though it can be inconsistent, makes may regular jobs not seem to make financial and freedom sense. However, it is a JOB. I don't think it is easy money but it can be good money if you enjoy it and or learn how to really work it. Even still is can get to be physically and mentally draining. It is like doing an ongoing long run performance of whoever you are when you are "the stripper". Some nights you may not want to be her and you can decide not to go to work. However, there are no sick days. If you don't work you don't get paid. It is more like running your own small business than anything else. If you decide to do it definately start managing your money from the start. Start saving money from the start, start saving money from the start, don't touch your savings unless it is for an investment vehicle. Bad habits are easy to form when everytime you go to work is payday. *sigh* ask me how i know this...Start saving now even before you figure out how you want to invest your money. But do research on how you want to invest. Because withthis money comes no retirement plan, health insurance, social security etc.
I say try it if you want to but go in knowing not everyday feels like the thrilling rush. Some days do and some just won't. Many men are insecure about their girlfriends dancing. But there are those out there that get it they just seem to come few and far between to me. It might be cute to your bf right now to see his girl on stage but the idea of you interacting with other men may not seem so cute but you won't know until you communicate with him. GOOD LUCK!!
Re: Thinking about starting, need advice
You should definitely go for it. As for pole tricks, practice practice practice! Go in for like a week either before they open or after they close and just practice pole tricks, get other girls to help you if they will. I was completely obsessed with going upside down when I first started. I pulled a muscle in my back, but hey, a week later I could do it. And I can honestly say that I have never once fallen off of the pole..when you are up there, and you feel like youre going to fall, your body will hang on TIGHT. Least mine does. Now, there have been quite a few times where I have descended not so gracefully from the pole, heh! Youll get the hang of it though, and youll do fine.