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Am i crazy or was she crazy?
Hello brand new user here and wanted to share an experience i recently had over the weekend and it's been buggin' the hell out of me quite honestly. This may be very long(sorry)but please let me know what to think of this whole incident.
I went out of town to see a friend about 1.5 hrs away and planned to go out to the SC. We went to 1 that was just not very appealing to us and decided to leave at 1am to the "other" SC. There was only 1 hr left and most of the people were debating if we should go that late or not. Well we ended up going there and the moment i walk in i see this absolutely gorgeous dancer on stage but looking pretty reserved and not too wild. I knew we made the right choice by coming there after i saw her. The whole time we just sat and drank and i mentioned to my friend about that girl. I never really saw her after arriving. Well 30 minutes left and he sees her and gets her and he buys me a LD with her. So i was like damn, here we go. This is the first time i've ever had a LD and the third time i've ever been to a SC so i'm not a regular by any means. Well anyways we go back there and sit down and just hit it off conversating right off the bat. I could feel alot of energy and was thinking how sweet this girl was. We were just caught up talking about random things and had alot in common. It was like we weren't even preparing for a LD in a SC. It felt very normal to me. She said that i was cute and asked how long we were there for because she didn't even see us come in. After a few minutes she said she was going to give me her # and i was like WTF is this for real( in my head of course). I just agreed and she proceeded with the lap dance. After the song was over she said she felt bad because the song was so short so i said i'd pay for another dance and she said she felt bad again but i gave it to her anyways. Well she after that was done she told me she'd be out in a little bit to give me her # because she would get in trouble and wasn't supposed to give her # out to anyone. So next thing you know she came up and asked if i could remember the # and i said no so she came back again with her # and told me to be sneaky and gave it to me very quickly. I asked her what she was doing after she got off and she said she would prob be going to bed. She said to call her the next day but i told her i had to go back home , then she said " well you can call and we can talk." I left after that and as i was leaving i looked at the # and it was a bit smeared so i tried to make out the # the best i could. I ended up trying to call her tonight like she asked me to and the # was not a working #,haha damnit. Man i thought to myself usually if something seems too good to be true, it usually is. Well i didn't even ask her for her number or give her my own # so i don't think i set myself up for this really. My question is to all your people is , was she just messing with my head to get me to go back or is that a part of the fantasy/scam type to end things? I've never really thought i'd have anything to do with a dancer just b/c of the complications i've seen but this girl was one i'd definitely change my whole theory over. It's just been running through my mind why she'd do something like that.
Anyways, she is 18 and i'm not too much older than her, i'm under 24. Seemed very sweet and not greedy or worried about making money from what i picked up. I'd like to hear anyones opinions about this situation i was put in and if it's typical to happen. Thanks for listening
KOIFOOL
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WOW>> WEIRD SITUATION! She volunteered her # huh? Maybe its too smeared to see the right number?
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Originally Posted by KOIFOOL
My question is to all your people is , was she just messing with my head to get me to go back or is that a part of the fantasy/scam type to end things? I've never really thought i'd have anything to do with a dancer just b/c of the complications i've seen but this girl was one i'd definitely change my whole theory over.
Okay, I just woke up and haven't had any coffee yet, so maybe I'm a little crabby....But, I don't like the word "scam." You're post seems a little standoff-ish. What "complications" with dancers are you talking about? If you've only been to a club 3 times, how bad could it have been?
As far as changing your opinion, if you have such a bad vibe about dancers, why even bother going to the club? I would love to be able to tell you what this girl was thinking, but I'm not her and I can't. Your best bet is to ask her directly.
If I sound like I'm being a biyatch, I'm sorry. I feel defensive after reading your post. You said, "I've never really thought i'd have anything to do with a dancer." Why not? I've met some incredibly sweet and intelligent dancers in my time (many of which post in these forums. ;) )
If it was me, knowing that you had such a low opinion of us, I'd tell you to keep your money.
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TampaFLdancer- I think the first 3 digits were just bogus b/c i tried a few just to see and i think they don't exist in that area. It is very weird and would like to go back to see her again but don't know if i should. If i were a dancer i'd be pretty embarrassed with myself to do that to a customer.
anonymous1- I'm really sorry if i offended you. I should have used my wording a little different. I meant "scam" as in something she was doing purposely to try and play with my mind i guess. Not that you guys scam, sorry.
My x-girlfriends best friend is a dancer and her and her boyfriend constantly argue b/c of certain trust issues and just the whole jealously thing. That was the reason i said that, not that they aren't sweet because she is very sweet and charming. I don't think i could be in a relationship in my opinion with a dancer, but was just amazed with this girl so much that i didn't even care.
Yea i wish i knew what was going through her head or how many other #'s she gave out that night. You think it's worth a try to go back and ask or just forget about this? Thanks for listening and sorry again
KOIFOOL
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Of course it's worth it... go back and get more lapdances from her. ;-)
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I'm amused by the title of your post. What makes you think either of you is crazy? You spent money on her and, presumably enjoyed yourself. In the process of doing this, you made enough of an impression on the lady (you didn't grope her, you smelled ok and you paid her) that she wants you to come back and spend money on her again. The chances are that, if the number worked, you would heard a sexy female voice on the other end asking you when you are going to come and see her again....to spend more money.
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It's the phone number that's bothering you the most, right?
Assuming the number is real and you didn't just have a legibility problem, the idea behind dancers giving out phone numbers is future sales. She gave it to you so you could call her and arrange to come into the club again and spend more money on her. The idea that you are "special," and that she doesn't ordinarily give out the number to guys, is part of the fantasy that she is selling. Please don't be offended by this. It's just part of the business. It's not a "scam." Go with the fantasy.
Don't feel too badly -- SC rules are entirely different from IRL rules. We have all had this learning curve. You've come to the right place to get a quick education.
Some day you may end up with a cellphone full of dozens of cell numbers and spend all day texting with dancers. This does not necessarily mean they want to date you. They do want you to come into the club and see them again, though.
Good luck and let us know what happens!
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Neither one of you are crazy, but when it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
These got a dancer's phone number posts occur once a week on here.
She knew what she was doing, making future sales. Go back, get dances from her, if you had fun hanging with her, enjoy them and leave it at that.
My 2 pennies. :twocents:
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thanks everyone for putting in your opinion. I figured it was too good to be true. Really wish i could have met her outside of her work but what are the chances of that happening and it's too late.
Anyways, i probably won't go back , it will just make me think even more. I hope the best for her though. Thanks
KOIFOOL
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I think she’s either “planning future sales, or most likely from the sounds of it..
She’s 18 (new to the business), didn’t want to take your money, talking all personal etc?? It sounds like she liked you and is inexperienced.
Be aware that in either case your not the only cute customer she’ll give her # to.
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Given that dancers are being asked for their phone numbers several times a night, given that dancers spend their working life in an environment where di*kheads are fairly prevalent, and given that dancers swiftly learn not to trust the majority of what they're told, they're not given to handing out phone numbers unless it's for the motive stated above - the intent of developing you as a customer.
In the rare event that a dancer does genuinely want to see you outside of work, she's unlikey to suggest exchanging phone numbers until after a number of meetings. It'll also be after she's decided that she can trust you, likes you personally, and that her personal situation outside of work, (boyfriend/husband), etc, allows her to see you.
You've also got to be aware that the dancer you met inside the club may be very different from the girl outdide the club - dancers develop "work personalities" that may bear no resemblence to the real one. Be prepared to like a dancer for who she is - not what she does.
Finally, all a dancer may be looking for is friendship - not a relationship. Be very sure you understand what she wants before you see her outside the club. If all she wants is a nice meal and relaxing evening and you start "hitting" on her, she ain't going to be a very happy dancer.
Phil W.
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Originally Posted by Yea
I think she’s either “planning future sales, or most likely from the sounds of it..
She’s 18 (new to the business), didn’t want to take your money, talking all personal etc?? It sounds like she liked you and is inexperienced.
Be aware that in either case your not the only cute customer she’ll give her # to.
i agree YEA... I can't think of too many dancers that would volunteer a fake number, unless it was some kind of loser hotline...::)
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Thanks guys for responding, didn't think this many people would respond. I think it would have been a better idea if she actually gave me her real # if she really wanted to let me know when she'd be working to gain more business from me. I really wonder how many people are saying " man i can't beleive this happened to me" that were there the same night about that same girl if in fact she did just hand out fake #'s to everyone, haha.
KOIFOOL
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I tend to agree with Yea, Tampa, and The Other Owner. While she seems new and inexperienced, she may have hooked up with the other dancers and gotten the hustling tips. Reminds me of what my coach always says: "Things are USUALLY never as good as they seem, and never as bad as they seem. It's usually somewhere right in the middle." She probably finds that one special guy 3 or 4 times a night. I'd go back and give it another shot. Worst thing that happens is you still get her in your lap, and she gets some buckaroos. Win/Win situation I would imagine. I like my ATF a lot, and while I have less than a shot in hell, I still get her on my lap 4 or 5 times a visit. For your sake, I hope she's genuine. Good luck buddy.
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Who knows, maybe the number did blur and she tried to give it to you, or maybe she wants to see if you'll come back in to ask for the full number this time..
IF you had a great time with her and this is your only complaint, go and check her out again.
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why would you want a relationship with her if you live 1.5 hours away?
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thanks for replying. I don't really want a relationship, i just wanna get to know her cause shes just cool and into the same stuff i'm into. I saw her as a person and not a dancer, gotta make friends some way or another i guess. Might be a better idea to just leave it alone . Everything happens for a reason i guess
KOIFOOL
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Anyways, i probably won't go back , it will just make me think even more. I hope the best for her though. Thanks
KOIFOOL
Well, if you aren't going to go back, I feel bad for you. I don't know why this girl would voluntarily give you her number (and a fake one at that) if you didn't ask for it. You could just forget about her and move on. Good luck!
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Why would you feel bad for me for not going? Yea i really don't understand why she volunteered and did that. Oh well life goes on...
KOIFOOL
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You know I was owndering if she was counsled in the back when she was writing the number for you.. A seasoned dancer might have let her know that it isn't such a good idea to give it out.
If you had no intention of going back into the club then let it lie. She is there to make money and that is really the end of it. If you like her so much go in and show her that. And yes, a dance would help. If she wants to see you again outside as a potential date, she'll let you know herself.
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You are right about girls coming and going but this girl was just mind blowing. I really don't know , maybe if i'm that part of town i may have a sudden urge to go. I don't know if i'd ask her anything, maybe see if she'd remember me. Well i guess that was smart of her not to give me the right # just for her safety, cause there are crazy ass people out there thats for sure.
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I don't think she meant give you the wrong #, she offered, you never asked for it right? It may be that you couldn’t read it for a reason.. Life is funny that way.
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Koifool,
The only way you're going to find out the answer to whether she was genuine or not is to go back to the club.
The absolute worst that can happen is that she wanted you to come back so she could get you to have a few more dances. As you described her as "absolutely gorgeous", I suspect this will not be a hardship.
There is a chance that she was genuinely intending to give you her number. It's not usual, but it does happen. Best case is that she's pleased for you to turn up.
My bet is that unless you go back and find out, the answer to what she really intended will continue to bug you.
Phil W.
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I would resist the urge to make sense out of it. Just some stripper bullshit.
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She's only 18 means nothing. She wanted $$$$, and got it. She even said the songs are too short...Meaning pay for another song please! Smeared? Did the number stat with 555?
Seriously this is an old trick too. Get him thinking you really find him special yada, yada yada. Give a fake number...Cmon.
If i am wrong, i am sorry...But this has been known to happen.
Pamela