Retired Dancer and Lonely
Ok this may sound weird, but I have been retired for a while and lately I am really missing dancing. I also miss the fact that none of my friends here undertsand me. So I feel like I do not have any friends. Sometimes I just want to go and hang out and drink, with some on that can understand the things in a dancer life.
What sould I do, I have lived here for 4 years and still have not met any friends that have anything in common with me. And I am really bored as hell. Anybody here in Philadelphia?
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Normally this would be the last thing I would do, lol...
And I should speak for myself, as well, but here goes.
There is a DJ here who calls himself Philly DJ, which I assume means he works there. He has never once tried to pick up one of the members here, or even pulled one of the usual thinly disguised flirtation routines such as posting pics of his body parts for the ladies' admiration, etc. (not that I object to this, but let's not pretend those guys aren't here to flirt with strippers, for chrissakes). I think I recall he may even have a SO, so if you visited his club I doubt if he would take it as a come-on or whatever.
He seems to be all about taking good care of the dancers he works for, which is a very rare trait in a stripclub DJ, sorry to say, but very much a trait of his. He is a gentleman and a great addition to Stripperweb.
Anyways, I don't know how he feels about former dancers coming to say hi, how his club feels about non-dancing females in the club, or if you think my idea stinks. But why not grab a somewhat understanding friend, male or female, and go see his club?
Hangout a bit, tip a few girls, have a little fun...
I would love it, but that's me.
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I’m not in Philly but my friend is! Anyways I hear you girl, I was retired for 2 years and had the same issues. Not only did I miss dancing but all the girls I met at work I could not relate with AT ALL! I found myself alone most of the time, shity.
It’s hard b/c you have an open mind that most girls cant relate with, but there are woman out there who are cool and open minded.. This world is fast passed, at times untrusting so it’s hard to make new friends.
Since your retired, I assume you have a fulltime occupation? Try joining a woman’s organization.. wish I could help more.
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When I first moved, I felt a whole lot of what you feel right now. What about hobbies? Or even dancing part time , just to get out?
I hope things work out 4 ya !!! *hugs*
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I have found that I have a lot in common with beauticians in my own age group. It is kind of funny but they really have a lot of the same work issues that dancers do. Having to deal with rude customers, being independant contrators, drug abuse at work, long hard shifts, and physical contact with stangers all day long.
Now just like in any straight world profession you definately find those who are very negative to the stripping world, but I know that I can get a pretty good read on those people by saying something fairly innocent about Victoria's Secret or something.
Another group that you may find comrades in is the gym crowd. People who spend a lot of time at the gym can obesses about thier bodies with each other and not have some Huge housewife telling you that you are too skinny anyway. The people I know who are heavy into working out, and doing Women's fitness competitions are as into looking good and having plastic surgery and the like as dancers are, and a couple of extra pounds on the hips is a crisis for them too.
You also might try a yahoo club for ex dancers in Philly. You can start with a web community and move into the real world with those members that you get along with.
good luck to you. I understand your pain, as I quit dancing for 6 months one time and felt like I had to keep my previous profession a total secret from everyone, and it was a very uncomfotable feeling. Of course, I'm a dancer again now. ;D
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Originally Posted by Djoser
Normally this would be the last thing I would do, lol...
And I should speak for myself, as well, but here goes.
There is a DJ here who calls himself Philly DJ, which I assume means he works there. He has never once tried to pick up one of the members here, or even pulled one of the usual thinly disguised flirtation routines such as posting pics of his body parts for the ladies' admiration, etc. (not that I object to this, but let's not pretend those guys aren't here to flirt with strippers, for chrissakes). I think I recall he may even have a SO, so if you visited his club I doubt if he would take it as a come-on or whatever.
He seems to be all about taking good care of the dancers he works for, which is a very rare trait in a stripclub DJ, sorry to say, but very much a trait of his. He is a gentleman and a great addition to Stripperweb.
Anyways, I don't know how he feels about former dancers coming to say hi, how his club feels about non-dancing females in the club, or if you think my idea stinks. But why not grab a somewhat understanding friend, male or female, and go see his club?
Hangout a bit, tip a few girls, have a little fun...
I would love it, but that's me.
First off, thanks for the kind words, I do appreciate it. And yes jade feel free to contact me via P.M. Me or my SO would be more than happy to do have chatty-chats with you.
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It’s hard b/c you have an open mind that most girls cant relate with, but there are woman out there who are cool and open minded..
this is very true and something I have to deal with. I've always been an open minded person but worked professional type jobs and rarely make friends at work. A lot of the people I hung out with in New Orleans worked in restaurants and bars and they are usually pretty cool though. One girl I work with now related a story about finding a porn in her teenaged son's room and how porn is so awful and blah blah blah and I just had to keep my mouth shut or else I'd feel like the girl at work that's a freak (though I think they might already think I am becuase I have a sticker that says 'porn star' on my car.)
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I'm here in philly and currently not working as well... but that is because i have a stress fracture in my foot. But i totally know what you mean about missing it.... i went into my club to visit with a few friends and got super depressed when i came home, llike, wow, im missing so much :( if you'd like, PM me and we can totally chat, but i feel ya sista, i am missing "the dancer life" like crazy right now.
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Originally Posted by Paris
I have found that I have a lot in common with beauticians in my own age group. It is kind of funny but they really have a lot of the same work issues that dancers do. Having to deal with rude customers, being independant contrators, drug abuse at work, long hard shifts, and physical contact with stangers all day long.
Now just like in any straight world profession you definately find those who are very negative to the stripping world, but I know that I can get a pretty good read on those people by saying something fairly innocent about Victoria's Secret or something.
Another group that you may find comrades in is the gym crowd. People who spend a lot of time at the gym can obesses about thier bodies with each other and not have some Huge housewife telling you that you are too skinny anyway. The people I know who are heavy into working out, and doing Women's fitness competitions are as into looking good and having plastic surgery and the like as dancers are, and a couple of extra pounds on the hips is a crisis for them too.
You also might try a yahoo club for ex dancers in Philly. You can start with a web community and move into the real world with those members that you get along with.
good luck to you. I understand your pain, as I quit dancing for 6 months one time and felt like I had to keep my previous profession a total secret from everyone, and it was a very uncomfotable feeling. Of course, I'm a dancer again now. ;D
Nice Post Paris! I agree with you. I quit four months ago.. and always felt like I had to keep things a secret... in Boise, though, its hard to do that, someone always recognizes you. My Fiancee' finds it really funny that when we go out to a bar, say like Old Chicago and someone will walk up to me and say, "You're Gynger!" or we went to a party a weekend or so ago and I had these couples who used to come into the club come up and talk to me.
Jaden, I understand how lonely you can be. I, myself get lonely too, mainly because I miss my friends and I miss being able to "network".. most women don't understand this business unless they are in it, and if they aren't in it, they stereo type and become judgmental, which really stinks.
Hairdressers are great to talk to. Many of my outside friends are hairdressers.. and they are always the best to talk to. So I agree with Paris.. and if you get a guy who's a hairdresser and gay- you've just made a best friend!:)