never ever talk negative about another dancer! it really makes you look insecure, and jealous, besides, guys don't come in to hear that, if they wanted to hear a nag they'd go home to there wife
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never ever talk negative about another dancer! it really makes you look insecure, and jealous, besides, guys don't come in to hear that, if they wanted to hear a nag they'd go home to there wife
guys like to think that youre watching the show with them sometimes. I'll point over at the stage, and say"wow excellent pole trick" or "nice booty" or "awesome song!!!"
sometimes, by watching the stage they feel like they are being involved, and they are welcomed.
Great advice, Sinn!
Sinn is a real sweetheart, I am happy to say--having had the pleasure of working with her. I have seen her do this many times with positive results.
Well said! I never talked shit, or actually watched other dancers on stage.Quote:
Originally Posted by onlythebest
I had a few dancers who would (so i thought) talk crap about me while i was first starting, because i fell ALOT off the pole. But i got right back up, smiled with a fuck you kinda look and went right on.
Confidence shows...Even if you mess up, or you don't feel like "the best."
Screw them. The more you do stage work, the less you will care, believe me.
Pamela
I do watch dancers who can do pole tricks because I am always hoping to learn something new... I don't care what others say about me because guys DO NOT like negative girls, I don't care who you are, they just don't want to get involved.
I don't usually anything unless the guy says something or asks about her and I'll either agree with the compliment or answer the question, I don't want to take his attentnio away from me. But I must say if noone was is tipping a dancer and she is definitely doing her job at trying to get them to, I will ask the guy for a few bucks to tip her.
I ALWAYS talk up the girls on stage. If the custie agrees with me, ill ask him if he wants to come tip her with me. I actually had a guy ask me if i was a hostess because I kept bringing custies to the stage lol.
With customers, I always say positive things about the girl on stage, even if the customer is saying negative things.
However, with other dancers, I am guilty of saying things like, "WTF is she wearing?!" and things of the sort.
even if you don't like her, ALWAYS find something positive to say, even if the customer is insulting her. any sort of negative talk is the type of behavior that can get you punched in the face or something similar
Me "Shes hot"
Custie "Not as hot as you"
Me *giggles* "Thanks"
I just keep it neutral unless she's a good friend and we're double teaming. Then I heap praise on my friend.
ex. "She has nice tits/torso/legs"
"I don't know her too well but she seems sweet"
I'm not a saint and I have made the occasional snooty comment but by and large I try to keep the drama off the floor.
Sometimes I can tell the guy wantss me to say something so I sat something nice, most times I say nothing.
if you cant say something nice then dont say nothing at all!!!
I noticed a long time ago when I was working with some girls I didn't like that EVERY time I said something bad about one of them the customer would always get a dance with said girl... It was the weirdest thing. That was when I was a newb. I learned very quickly to ALWAYS say something nice about the other girls even when negativity was encouraged.
My favorite line when ever our big girl was on stage and customers where saying nasty things to me was "Everyone has a type." that always stopped them in their tracks and would say, "you know your right." and they would be in a better mood.
Men leave their homes to come to strip clubs often because of the behavior they experience from their spouse/gf/etc. that "drives them away;" negative, jealous, and gossipy behavior is likely one of the many reasons. i always keep it positive.
Also, to avoid having the conversation shift too far away from you (the one sitting with him) to the dancer on stage, I liked to give custys a few minutes to enjoy their drink and the scenery before working my hustle. This way he gets his eye candy time then you can go in for the kill having all eyes on you!
I never say bitchy things about other girls. I often find it hard, because it seems like a lot of customers will try to compliment me by insulting the other girls. I'm pretty curvy, and lots of guys will say the other dancers are too skinny or something like, "Ew, why would I want a dance from a girl who looks like a ten year old boy?" I always say I think she's hot, or that she's a great dancer, but it's tough when they seem determined to be mean.
If they are determined to be mean, there is really not much you can do abt it -- but when I have found myself sitting w/ a customer who just wants to tear down other dancers for the fun of it, I take off the kid gloves. What respect or even buttering-up does a person deserve when they show that kind of attitude? It makes me even more determined to find smtg nice to say abt the girl being shit-talked.