Maintain "business-like attitude"
How do I maintain a business-like attitude while still coming across as being carefree and as though I am having fun? I seem to do better when I am carefree and not really paying attention the amount of money I am making. However, when I am like this, I am not as aggressive as I would like to be, either. My question is: how do I find a happy medium?
When I am very aggressive and in a business-like state of mind, the customers can tell...no matter how flirty I am. I believe that this turns them off. On the other hand, when I am in a casual, carefree, fun mood, I do not "work." I sit with guys for more than 3 songs, do not "cut to the chase", do not use selling techniques...I basically come across as more of a "pal." This is not good for me OR for the other girls. I do not make as much money, and the other girls who don't sit for as long (even though many do at my specific club) appear to be "rude" while, in fact, they are only doing their job.
Thanks for any replies :)
Re: Maintain "business-like attitude"
lol well i wish someone with experience would answer her because I need to know too ~ :)
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I'm naturally what you call a "guys girl", so I immediately end up as a pal to the guys, and quite honestly, I will stay for 15-20 minutes in a lap (3-4 songs) as LONG as they've offered to buy me a drink and we're waiting on the drink or I'm drinking it.
If they order you a drink, it may be because they feel obligated to at least do that.
As soon as you've said "Cheers" and "Thank you for the drink", pause for a little bit and wink, smile, or play with their ear/hair/knee/something and then say "How about a dance next song" or "Whew, this liquid courage sure works fast - I'm ready to dance" (Then you can claim you needed courage since they're SOOO good looking). If it doesn't work, you can either continue to sip your drink while scoping out the room, or if you decide to move on you can say "How about a little tip for my time" or even "Hey, can I have a dollar to tip my friend on stage" (even if she's not your friend) - this will then give you a nice place to go and get the rest of the club to pay more attention to you. Another way to leave is "Hey, thank you for the drink - next time you come in, my name is _____".
You can also do most of the above things without the drink, but it works as something to kill the akwardness if they say "No" :)
(And I just today told myself from now on every time a customer says no, I am going to ask why - politely. Just so I know if it's money, or me, or something I did.. or glitter, or whatever!)
-Luna
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Oh, please don't ask them why! Guys hate that so much; it puts them on the spot and at risk of feeling like they've insulted you.
Just keep your mind on the time; you can be carefree and fun, but once that song has finished, you've got to ask. Move on if they say no; if they miss you, they'll come and get you later. It's fun to hang out and shoot the shit but it's more fun to get paid for doing so.
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100% agree with Susan. Keep your head up, thank them, wish them well, and WALK AWAY!!! Its not your business why they don't want you, and chances are you don't want to hear the real reason why anyway.....WHY ruin your good mood with the truth?
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I have to ditto Katrine and Susan on this also. Ask yourself, what good is actually knowing why they aren't interested? What is that going to serve you? If they do tell you, it's either going to be something that won't improve anything you do or it will be a lie anyway, so what's the point? Not only that, but it makes you look like someone who's whining and nobody enjoys the company of someone like that. Your best bet is to just setup your sales pitch to where they DON'T say no. Problem solved.
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NEVER ASK "WHY"!!!
To a customer, this a big indicator of low self-esteem.
As you are carefree and such, how about incorporating "I am a dance machine" into conversation. When I am at work, I have fun. All I want to do is give dances. I flirt without being skanky. I smile a lot.
Anyway, if you are sitting with a customer and you are enjoying yourselves, odds are that he is WAITING for you to pop the question. So do it! He is dying to see you naked. And pay.