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How do you fend off a very aggressive dancer?
How do you fend off a dancer?
Their is one at the one i go to on occasion. she will walk up to every guy in the place every fifteen minutes and will not stop till she gets someone to go back with her to the vip room. i've had her walk up to me no less the 7 times in a one hour period. the only reason i think she does is because she knows i'll take at least 1 back their during the course of the night. but i always go with my favorite if she's their. btw the 2 girls i've become a regular for never asked me.
i had enough courage to walk up and say "Can i borrow you?";D
i'm getting fairly frustraded.
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Re: How do you fend off a very aggressive dancer?
Tell her to leave you alone. Be an asshole to her if she doesnt leave you alone. I would tell a bouncer or management that she is making your evening hell. Let this girl know that she cant whine and shit and pester to get what she wants. Dancers like this give the nice ones bad images.
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Just tell her politely but firmly that you are not interested. You are there to see so-and-so. Also mention that if she doesn't stop bugging you, you are going to complain to the management.
The sad thing is that you might think it's annoying...and so do some other people. But, if she gets 1 guy into VIP for 1 hour, it's pretty much made her night. ;)
Just say NO!! heehee
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Well she is just doing her job so maybe try not to let it bug you so much. And like Jay said just continue to say no thankyou.
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I recently had a very unattractive dancer sit on my lap and repeatedly ask me to take her to VIP. After telling her politely (I hope) five jillion times that I was not interested, I finally, out of exasperation, asked her, "Who told you that you could sit on my lap?" Strangely enough, that did the trick. She got up, walked away, and never again bothered me all night
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Give her a more fertile target.
"That guy over there has been staring at you for the longest time." Aim at a crowd, and if she comes back say you were talking about another one.
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I'd say "tell her you're broke" but dancers talk amongst themselves, so that's out the window...
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How are you responding now? The reason I ask is that many guys use the "not right now," line when they mean "no." (BTW, don't do this.) It would explain why you are constantly on her rounds.
The "no, thank you" thing is good advice, but I can't do it that bluntly myself. I am intrinsically, profoundly unable to just say "no" to a beautiful woman. I need to give her an explanation if for no other reason than to keep my own head from exploding.
Anyway, tell her that you only buy from your faves, and never make exceptions. Thank her for asking. Smile. Be polite.
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I'm usually waiting on somebody special, so I say that. Most times it works, but yes we've all had that uber-aggressive dancer who won't give up. Just be nice but be upfront. Don't be ambiguous.
Lately, it seems like the aggression has been heightened. Here's a lovely exchange I've had of late...
Setup: I was waiting for a fave (of course I have very busy, very popular faves). A dancer I had seen in another club comes over - and yes, she's just my type but dammit, I'm trying to stay focused....
Her: Would you mind some company?
Me: (apologetically) No thank you. I'm waiting for _____.
10 minutes later...
Her: So, would you like a dance?
Me: No thanks. I'm hoping to see ____.
Her: (snippily) So, you want me to fuck off and leave you alone!
Me: (shocked) Um, uh, I would never say that!
Her: But that's what you meant! *stomps off*
O boy! A bad night for somebody!
And next time I saw her, she chided me for being "so mean" that night. Oh well...
Eh, just be nice as you can about it. It's not worth having a stroke over it.
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just tell her that you really appreciate her ambitious attempts but, it wouldn't be fair for her to waste her time any longer than she already has.
sorry, i've made up my mind sweet heart.
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If she gets really persistent, I recommend weirding her out by going bilingual on her.
http://www.elite.net/~runner/jennifers/no.htm
:no::no::no::no::no::no::no::no::no::no::no::no:
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"My doctor says he thinks he's got the combination right this time but, just to be on the safe side, after the last unfortunate incident, and even though the girl is going to be FINE once the cast comes off, I'm not doing any more lap dances until I'm sure my meds are working, kewl? OK hun, see ya next time!"
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Tell her that you don't do VIP's with anyone who asks for them, and that you prefer a less aggressive dancer. I don't agree with the being nice crap. Let her know where she stands, and that way she can quit wasteing her time on you and vice versa.
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Originally Posted by Super Cecil
How do you fend off a dancer?
... i've had her walk up to me no less the 7 times in a one hour period. the only reason i think she does is because she knows i'll take at least 1 back their during the course of the night. ...
Have you ever taken her? If so, then she may have a reason to think it's worth it to keep approaching you.
I find it's best to just be polite. Some lines that work for me:
"No thanks, I think I'm all set."
"No thanks, I actually come in to hang out with ______ "
NEVER try to just blow her off with a "maybe later". It's just gives her a reason to keep coming back.
If I'm not interested in a dance from a dancer, than I don't make eye contact with her as she's walking the floor, and I don't stare at her or "check her out." If you're not interested, try not to give her a reason to think that you are.
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I've found that a 2x4 upside the head works pretty well.
Actually, as annoying as it is, I kinda admire a girl who is willing to work that hard. I'd rather see that than all the girls off in a corner talking to each other and ignoring the customers, which is pretty common. Sometimes I'll even buy a dance to reward her work ethic if she's decent looking. But usually I'll say, "no thanks, I'm waiting for someone else" which is always true, although I may not know at the time who I'm waiting for.
Only 2 kinds of girls really annoy me in a club: those who never come around to say hello, and those who come over and immediately ask for a tip without doing anything. A girl who is trying hard to do her job, even if she's more aggressive than I like, is OK with me.
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Well if all else fails be rude
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Originally Posted by tragic-beauty
Well if all else fails be rude
And become a story up in "stripping general".::)
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The great thing about my club is that the dancers generally know that when someone says "No, thanks," they usually know to move on. The only exception to this is when it's a very slow night and they can practically smell the "Jacksons" in my wallet. But the ladies are generally good sports about it and sometimes I will reward someone's persistence with a few dances if she's looks like someone I would dance with anyways. Another way to fend off an unwanted dancer is to say that you specifically came in that night because your favorite is working. A good salesperson knows to move on if she isn't selling.
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I usually go to clubs where I have a favorite so I don't run into this problem very often. But if I look back over all the times I was someplace where I didn't know anyone, there were probably more instances when I hoped some girl would come my way and didn't than there were instances of someone being too aggressive. I don't mind an aggressive girl, in fact I kinda expect that in a strip club, as long as she's polite about it. It's the rude ones who are annoying, but that makes it easy to be rude right back.
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a bitch slapping ? So you advocate assualting a dancer who you don't care for huh ?
Wow, I bet you get kicked out of alot of clubs don't you, ML.
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There are a few real aggressive dancers at my club that do anything from constant harrasment to grabbing your hand and physically trying to drag you into a booth. It seems that the only way they will leave customers alone is if they are firm but polite in their refusal (the ones that are rude will get talked about negatively in the dressing room and may not be approached by anyone). The ones that claim they are waiting for someone better actually be waiting for someone, because the aggressive ones will go and find her and bring her to you. On the other hand, two of the real aggressive ones are top earners at my club since most guys have a hard time saying no to such hard ball tactics. Since it works, they won't change it anytime soon.
NikkiWest
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Whatever you decide to say back to her,be very polite and nice,she's just trying to make a living.If she's acting rude herself,than politely say that you're expecting someone else to join you.
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I pushed a couple of customers hard yesterday, and it worked. I imagined that I was that little kid that wanted a pony all over again, and used those cutesie type of tactics to get the men to buy. After politely asking, smoochzing, a little whining, I threatened to leave and not return- and the last part did the trick! I thought I was going to have to hold my breath until I turned blue to get them to buy ;D .
I don't usually use hardball sales tactics, but yesterday was very slim pickings in the club. The one guy who had a couple of bucks was being monopolized by a dancer who had no idea that he was rich, and she never asks for dances. I was half tempted to butt into their conversation and get the guy back into VIP right in front of her- but I didn't particularly feel like getting my butt beat last night.
My suggestion for dealing with an overly agressive dancer is turn an annoyance into something fun. Try playing little games like see how many times she asks you for a dance, and keep track. Also try declining a dance in a different and creative way every time,("I can't it is against my religion to buy dances on Wednesdays").
Just be careful that you don't get so caught up in the creative rejections that when the girl that you really do want a dance from gets dismissed out of habit :O .