Re: How do you fend off a very aggressive dancer?
I remember one time I walked in the door of a club and a girl immediately grabbed me by the arm, saying something like, "Quick, if we go in back right now we can do anything we want, there's no one watching the cameras." She was attractive and kind of playful in the way she said it, so I thought, what the heck and away we went. I hadn't even gotten to a seat or had a chance to take my coat off and we were in one of the private rooms in back. I thought for sure she was just giving me a line but turns out she wasn't. That turned out to be one of my more memorable visits to a club. Sometimes being aggressive works, for both of us.
Re: How do you fend off a very aggressive dancer?
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Originally Posted by Super Cecil
How do you fend off a dancer?
Mind you, I am a fairly direct person and not in the least shy.
I find that a polite, but firm, "No thank you.", is sufficent in most cases.
When the second pass comes about it becomes a sincerly polite, "I truly don't want to waste your time. I am not interested in any dances from you tonight please." [emphasizing tonight to indicate its nothing personal and leaving the door open for another evening, while letting it be known you really don't care to be asked again by her this evening].
IF a third time becomes a necessity then she has to realize she is crossing a line and inviting you to do the same. At that time, I stay polite and say, "I truly don't want to offend you but please tell me what part of 'not tonight please' did you not understand?" I can't think of a case, personally, where it had to go past that, but if it had and there was a fourth encounter of the same kind its time to mention it to management. Don't try to take care of it yourself. Never take it past the 'polite' stage, that is someone else's job.