"i'll take care of you..."
not sure if this has already been covered-- but i have come across a few guys that say something along these lines: after we talk for about a song or two and i can tell that he "likes" me, i try and sell a dance. he will say something like; not right now, but dont leave me! i'll take you in the back later and you can dance for me. don't worry, i know you are working and i'll take care of you". --or a variation of that. sometimes the guy wont but a dance for a few songs and i assume he is full of shit and excuse myself, but a few times the guy has followed through and took me in the back. needless to say, i dont want to miss out on a champ room. but there is only so much time i can waste. one time i left a customer after about 4 or 5 songs and he took another girl in the back-- so the time i spend with him was shot. what is the general rule of thumb here???
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If they say come back later once, then do it. Otherwise, dont waste your time on them. Its like a power trip for them. They think you are so money hungry that you will hang around with them. Its like a customer holding up a twenty to a girl on the stage, the girl going over to him, and then he switches it with a dollar.
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Sometimes they come through, other times you stay there for 30 minutes and they hand you $5. Use your instinct and know that you will win some/lose some. I'm more inclined to NOT take my chances although it has sometimes paid off well and other times ruined my entire night as I felt like an asshole for sitting around with one fuckoe.
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Like Katrine said, it's a win/lose situation. There was a dancer last week who, when I told I had just arrived and to come see me a little bit later, never came back by. I really wanted, and planned on buying a dance from her. She's a girl that I hang out with and tip every visit, so I didn't understand. I guess she just got busy and forgot. But I digress. Customers can be very hard to read. I would try for a sell the first round, then if he seemed like he was genuinely interested, maybe take a schmooze around the room then drop back by. I would give him 2 chances though. Other than that, you're wasing your time. Kind of like the Three Shakes rule for guys. ;D
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Talk to them for a little ask for a dance, then if they say no come back in 15 to 20 mins. Keep asking all night if you have to, just make sure if you say you will come back around, do it!
I have had guys say not right now, but maybe ina little while I will, and I ask again later and they do want a dance or two. But I have had guys also tell me that, and they didn't get a dance from anyone all night.
Good luck and hope it gets better!
Kitana
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I found out the hard way when I first stared that most of the time a " Don't worry I'll take care of you" is just code for "I'm a cheap bastard who wants to make you waste your time and work for little or nothing"
When I hear this now I just move on. If he is really interested and not intending to waste my time he'll stop me and pay upfront or buy some dances.
My motto for these types is : better safe than sorry.
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Hey, I find that when a guy says... I'll book you later... that normally means he will. So I go away and do stage, or other lap dances, and then drop by again. If he says... "No, stay here with me" I use the... I'll get in trouble if I stick around too long, and then get out of it that way.
Sometimes though, they are just stalling you and will waste your time. There is nothing better than the revenge of having a guy try to waste your time with... later.... later... and then when its towards the end of the night, he decides he wants to book you and your booked out until close with someone else... ooooh, such great revenge!!
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I think, other responders save AmericanDreams, her situation is different from the 'come back later' guys.
Basically, you have guys saying they don't want dances now, but they don't want you to leave either.
I would take that as a "come back later," regardless, just say "if you're not ready for dances yet, I'll come back in a little while." Also, if the issue is they don't like dances but like your company, work out a payment for your time, such as, I don't know, $50/half hour if they just want to sit and chat in the club - and carry a watch.
One club I worked at didn't have a champagne room, just dances. So this guy was like "I don't really like dances, but if you'd like to sit and chat, I'll take care of you." He hands me a twenty. Since the club is dead, I figure this is the best gig I'm likely to get. After about twenty minutes, I ask if he'd like me to stick around and he says yeah. No money is forthcoming, though. So another twenty minutes goes by, club picks up... I decided then I should be going. So, yeah, $20 for 40 minutes - sucky.
Whereas now I charge $150/half hour in champagne room whether I'm dancing or chatting the entire time.
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Yeah with the come back later ones, I will do just that. Sometimes they just aren't ready. Two come back laters is my limit though.
I would never recommend staying with a customer more than 5-10 mins without having made some money. I aim for $50-$100 an hour depending on the time of year and day of the week.
If the club allows watches I wear one that looks like a braclet , otherwise you can keep track by the song. Most songs in the average stripclub are approx 3 minutes long. So if a customer hasn't paid me anything or agreed to a dance by the begining of the 3rd song, I move on.
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Last Saturday I sat down with a guy and proceeded to chat him up for a minute. He told me that he wanted someone to sit and chat with him for a little while, and maybe dance a few songs. I informed him that he'd have to pay me $200 for a half hour if he wanted me to just sit around with him, and explained that time is money to me. "Don't worry, I'll take care of you." So we chat, I dance, the half hour goes by and when it's time for him to pay, he makes this huge production out of it. He bitched about how he thought I liked him for him, but he understands, we're all just greedy and don't actually like to get to know anyone." SINCE WHEN DID WE STEP OUT OF THE STRIP CLUB AND ENTER REALITY? I'm sorry that I do my job well and make you buy into the fantasy, but HELLO, that's all it is, a fantasy. I'm not there for my health, I'm there to make money. He tried to make me feel like a lowlife for charging him, as if he's just so amazing that I should just waste my time for free. Ha. I received the money, but I feel like I had to put up with way too much to get it. In the future, I'm steering clear of the "I'll take care of you" guys.
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Only way I see if they want me to stick around is if they buy me a drink...Ill stick around for 2 more songs and ask for a dance somewhere in btwn.
But, then again when I was new I had guys buy me a ton of drinks and no dance. Im thinking "getting fat and pennyless?!".
Usually now if they say this...Ill excuse myself and say Ill stop by later.
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Originally Posted by RachelleD
He bitched about how he thought I liked him for him, but he understands, we're all just greedy and don't actually like to get to know anyone."
I love this - mainly it's funny, not offensive. I actually smile nicely and thank them for understanding our colossal greed and say "You know how it is... we find your money VERY attractive."
In terms of guys "taking care of you" - if they really planned to do it they wouldn't need to tell you about it, they would just slip you the cash. There are exceptions - some guys who really do just need to "warm up" a little, but that is rarely the case. But, really, since y'll are both just putting it all on the table, you can just ask "How well?" when he makes the "I'll take care of you" comment. There are a surprising number of guys who really do think that one dance will make your night - they are not trying to be mean, they just think that that particular $20 means as much to you as it does to them.