When is the best time to let a customer know what your boundaries are? Before you begin dancing for them or when they try something your not comfortable with? :-\
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When is the best time to let a customer know what your boundaries are? Before you begin dancing for them or when they try something your not comfortable with? :-\
I think that the best thing to do is briefly run down the off-limit areas while you are undressing for the dance. Men need to know what the boundaries are, and if you don't tell them, they will test you. By that time, your boundaries have already been crossed and you are uncomfortable. Make it cute and sweet. I usually say "do you know what the rules are" and they'll usually say "no," no matter if they do or not because they want to see if you're going to let them do more than the last girl. Then I'll smile, say "ok, well, not touching the kitty, no licking any bodyparts (this usually makes them laugh).. etc...."
I find that if I dont tell them MY rules upfront, it usually makes for a very uncomfortable situation during the dance. I think that men sometimes get upset or offended when you correct their behavior during a dance - and telling them rules before you start keeps that situation from arising.
Once in a while, someone will get cranky when I tell them they can't LICK me or whatever, but if they can't comply, I have no desire to dance for them in the first place. That just leads to a bad dance, then a bad mood, and ultimately a bad night.
Beware! If you are new you will get a lot more hassle in this area.....well, at least I did. I got a lot of well, SHE lets me touch her __________. I always just said that new girls are watched like hawks, and he wouldn't want to get me fired on my first night/week whatever. I think explaining the rules beforehand is definitely the best idea. They usually don't get offended if you do it with a little smile.
The way I do it is,when the guy goes to touch the "forbidden" zones,I quickly intercept and tell him he's a bad boy and that he has to be good.You do this in a cute joking way,of course.
I agree 100% with TampaDancer. That's what I've always done. ;)
Thanks for the help girls. Now all I have to do is hope everyone follows the rules so I don't end up in any uncomfortable situations.
I've only had one dancer go over her "rules" with me. The rest either didn't care, or knew that I was harmless. She just led me to my seat, let me sit down, took her clothes off, sat on my lap, and with a smile said "normally, there's no touching my boobs or kitty, and no licking. Since you're a female, the rules are different for you. No touching my kitty unless I put your hand there." She didn't have to go through all that, but I thought the way she went about it was nice. Just let the customer relax in their seat, finish fooling with whatever, wait util their attention is totally focused on you, and go through the rules. Try to be as humerous as possible.
I just hold their hands
that way they are touching anything they're not supposed to.
Get your $$$$ 1st.