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do you give every girl a number cecil? LOL
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made a promise not use their stage or real names.
i like that they trust me enough to let me know their real names.
safer to use numbers
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I was hoping youd see this as humor. I was imagining you being dr evil and saying things like "you wanna give me a dance no. 2?"
LOL
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yes that would be hilourous. i'll hafta try that.
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Sometimes when a woman asks me if you want to go for a dance i say "Sure"....i get up and i start to dance a bit.
Most of the time they laugh....either that ot they're being polite and say to themselves "Wow what a moron".
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I don't know what exact words you used but anything that sounds like "I didn't come to see you, I came to see another girl" when said to a fav. would be screwing up. If she's cool you may be able to sit down with her and work it out but I'd say you've got some 'splainin' to do......good luck.
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No girl likes to be told that there's someone else you'd rather see. (Stripper and civilian girls alike) Hopefully next time you can explain things to her and she'll understand. It wouldn't hurt to throw in an extra tip or a lil' present to smooth things over.;)
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I said "don't worry about me tonight number 1 I'm here to see number 2 tonight."
I would of said more but the damage was already done.
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Trust me dude, you said enough....
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Not to sound cold, but why are you worried about this, she'll get over it, especially if you keep spending on her, it is all about the money afterall. Perhaps you taking a break wouldn't be a bad idea, it might bring you some perspective.
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just because she's a stripper doesn't mean she's not a person or that I can't afford her some common courtesy. maybe treat her with*Gasp* respect.
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Respect is a two way street my friend. I'm guessing she's upset not because she likes and respects you so much and feels hurt by your actions, but rather she see's an end to the gravy train. You're kidding yourself if you think otherwise.
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if she thought i was a walking wallet. she wouldn't of reacted that way. she woulda be totally ok with it.
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Richard's got it right. Are you a RIL and don't know it? How "loyal" do you think any dancer would be to you if another guy walked in and starting spending $50.00 per dance. Take a break, get real and protect your emotions and heart.
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Originally Posted by Super Cecil
if she thought i was a walking wallet. she wouldn't of reacted that way. she woulda be totally ok with it.
Of course she would have reacted that way, money that typically gets spent on her was going to someone else (and she may think it will stay that way in the future), why wouldn't that upset her? All I'm saying is it's your time, it's your money, spend them both how you want, you can do that while still being courteous and respectful, if there are hurt feelings involved it's their issue, not yours.
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so i'm supposed to give up on her because i screwed up now?
as far as double standards that hasta be the biggest one ever
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What are you talking about?
Next time you go in, if you want to spend time/money with #1 spend time/money with #1, if you want to spend time/money on #2 spend time/money on #2.
Do you honestly think #1 will stay away from you the next time you're in the club? That wouldn't make much business sense would it?
You're making this much harder than you need to.
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i see your point. but like all relationships even business ones loyalty is usually rewarded.
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if she thought i was a walking wallet. she wouldn't of reacted that way. she woulda be totally ok with it.
Dude GET OUT NOW!!! Before it's too late! She reacted EXACTLY the way any dancer would act if she saw you come into the club and was already figuring out what she was going to do with the money you where going to spend on her...only you didn't
Respect has nothing to do with this. Dancing is her job and though you may respect her and she may like you, she is their to earn money and you represent money. If you want to make friends in SC's that's fine, I've been doing it for years. But you need to understand first and foremost why the ladies are their.
If you don't understand this you are destined to suffer from an eternal broken heart and a chronic empty wallet.
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I hate creating more drama for number 1 or 2. but it's clear that exactly what I did.
If it makes you feel any better, what you describe is not even knocking on the door of drama. Real SC drama is a snarling coked-out wolverine with its ass caught in a vise. Trust me on this one.
I'm sure they both forgot all about the events two stage sets later.
I really appreciate that you have great loyalty to your faves. But that loyalty is way too costly to you right now (and it is decidedly one-way). Introspection is not your friend in an SC and hand-wringing is your enemy.
Let yourself off the hook. Have a drink or two. Smile, tell jokes, be as generous as you possibly can. Buy dances from anybody you happen to like at that very moment. You'll be a happier man for it.
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Okay testosterone gang, break it up. I don't think you screwed up Cecil, she may have been hurt but it can fixed I'm sure. Next time you go in, just say you're sorry it came out wrong and you just needed to talk to #2 that night. Then spend time with her and it will smooth over. All right boys, back off. We do have respect for our regular custys and actually enjoy the fact they come in to see us.
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All right boys, back off. We do have respect for our regular custys and actually enjoy the fact they come in to see us.
So true. I'm afraid my cell phone is going to have a coronary one of these days. It lights up like a Christmas tree around 3:00 PM during dancer check-in. I actually feel a little sorry for it.
Anyway, I think most of the boys are trying to protect Cecil, not criticize him.
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Anyway, I think most of the boys are trying to protect Cecil, not criticize him.
True, please know I mean no ill will.
As for the respect issue, I find it kind of reminiscent of the star athlete who is involved in a contract dispute with his team, ask him what the hold-up is and he will say "it's not about the money, it's about respect", then ask him what it would take to show him more respect and he will undoubtably repsond "well, more money I guess", thus it really is about the money. So in the SC realm let's take the money away from the customer, doesn't that then also take away some of the respect that the dancers have for said customer? Just rambling.
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All right boys, back off. We do have respect for our regular custys and actually enjoy the fact they come in to see us.
Chloe, I never said that dancers don't appreciate regulars, look forward to their visits and yes, even like them. My concern for brother Cecil is that he has lost perspective on why dancers are at work in the first place and where he, and the rest of us, fit into that equation.