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Gratuitous touching by fellow strippers
you all know the scenario
it's happened a million times
you are doing a dance for some guy, trying to keep a watchful eye on his roaming fingers when suddenly a mysterious hand spanks your ass.
you turn around pissed about to rip some guys head off...
it's your fellow stripper flashing you a smile.
there are so many aspects to the gratuitous touch of a co-worker.
much like football players running around patting each other on the butt.
but, when is it ok??
do you think it gives guys the wrong idea about the rules??
is there a limit to the level of touching?
do you have to know the girl very well to do it?
even as a bi-sexual woman i don't like it when another girl comes up and starts molesting me.
how do we handle these issues?
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Well if its any of the other dancers than its o.k. but here where i live the managers and male staff think its o.k. to touch you or just get TOO comfortable with you and I hate it. I guess thats why I've never gotten the courage to travel by myself. My own hometown has got me freaked out. Once I got walked out of the club by this manager and ugh he tried to kiss me with TONGUE blah!!! I know that they see me naked all the time and dancing provacatively for a customer but I really do think all MALE staff should stay keep their hands to themselves and stay professional.
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I think that if you are comfortable enough with a couple of the djs or managers then its ok. I was in alaska, even though it only happened once in a blue moon, a mgr would just kinda pat the ass if you had made a lot of money. The thing I hate is when other dancers come up and all out slap your ass. Its ok for a pat, but not an all out slap. Bleh.
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I voted no touching please even though I don't mind some dancer to dancer contact at times.
The reason I voted no is because none of the options had an "ask first" included. I think it should be the same no matter what gender a person is, we should all ask BEFORE touching someone else. Especially in a exual or intimate manner.
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My vote is for no touching at all, although sometimes a friendly, light smack is alright. It really depends! Where I work, this is a normal occurance and the girls are friendly but sometimes I think it just goes too far or gets out of hand - sometimes even interfering. I'm all for a friendly work environment but not necessarily at work to flirt with co-workers (as much as I luv ya'll;) )
On a whole - there's a time and place for everything and moderation for all is a good, general rule. IMHO :)
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I don't mind it at all. To me it's just another way to add to the "fantasy" atmosphere.
Plus I just kinda dig hot chicks touching me. ;)
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I'm all in for touching! Some days and some people I don't like to touch me but I've gotten over that mostly from being in this industry for so long......
I remember the first double dance I did was with a creepy older dancer and it was hard for me to get through. I guess I've learned just to let things go now..........
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It doesn't bother me at all if me and the girl are cool.
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I think the girls touching in a playful way is kewl and sparks tipping,so im ok with it on that aspect.I will say that sometimes legal limits are crossed and thats when the doorguys need to do thier job and stop it,just like if it were a man or custy touching a dancer.
Sorry to some of the ladies but even if they tip more,ya cant kiss kitty on stage in most states,no matter how much they are tossing on stage.
As for a DJ,MGR,or doorguy slappin the ass of an entertainer,its hard to say.
For MOST of the female entertainers i have worked with,slapping them on the ass under any situation would be about the same disrespect as if a coworker in any other business,so im 100% against it.
But i know of many entertainers who include staff in thier floor show,this includes a slap on the ass sometimes.
If an entertainer needs a male "prop" for the show,I like the idea of her being able to use someone she knows ,trust ,wont cross any lines,and wont want to hold hands under the pale moonlight after closing.Its all part of the show and the entertainer can use the staff as free game when it comes to human props imo.
If you work with a dj or manager who slaps you on the ass,and its NOT part of the show,and he ISNT your boyfriend/fuckbuddy/hubby,thats sexual harrassment and you need to expose it or find a new club,no doubt about it.
If your working as a professional entertainer,and are surrounded by people who are NOT working as professionals,chances are that a club change would do ya good anyways.
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Originally Posted by Sirona
I don't mind it at all. To me it's just another way to add to the "fantasy" atmosphere.
Plus I just kinda dig hot chicks touching me. ;)
LOL! I agree, on both points! And as someone else said, it does tend to spark the tipping a little more. As a matter of fact. my GF has worked at the same places I do and we make it a point to go by each other if we happen to be free and make sexy comments and, yes, swat each other on the ass while we're dancing. I've had guys make comments like, "That's hot," so I think it does go just that little extra step to enhancing the fantasy.
BTW, I checked swatting on the butt. I'd be afraid that having a girl walk in and touch my chest would kind of intrude on the customer's fantasy, unless he/she specifically asked the other dancer to.
I guess, though, if it was a dancer or someone else that I wasn't fond of or din't know very well, I might have some sort of visceral reaction to it. I dunno. :-\
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I don't mind the gentle friendly touching. but the other day some dancer who I am sort of friendly with slapped my ass REALLY hard just as I was going on stage!! I mean I was going the little stairs! I was pissed!! I turned around and said "What the fuck? I'm going on stage and now I have your fucking hand print on my ass!" She was pissed that I was pissed, but that girl has a BAD habit of slapping girls REAL hard on their asses... Maybe now, she'll think about her actions twice before doing them...
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lol^^^^^^^^^^^
same thing happened to me but, as an involuntary reaction i slapped the girl in the face.
oops
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I didn’t vote cuz…. It totally depends on the girl, the motive and … what kind of touching.
I‘ve touched boobs, and had mine touched while entertaining groups of men. That’s cool with me IF the girl is clean.
But really “IF the girl is clean“… I don’t even know what that means sometimes, you just never know so keep AWAY from my privates and needless to say no mouth!
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Oh i thought it was "By customers." Co-workers. NONE. I don't really want other dancers touching me. But that is me. Now customers that is a different story.
PS i had a couple dancers touch all over my hair, that was ok, but i think they knew i was not into them. Female dancers just don't do it for me, i have had a few ld's from the ones who touched my hair, and found it just strange. Now female friends...OH YES, it's fun! However no raunchy stuff. Lol.
Felt like i should have been a man at that point.
Just my .02
Pamela
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i'm fairly touchie with the other dancers, well... the ones I like that is. They're all used to me and my wacky hands. Some like the fact that I used to be a Dominatrix and ask me to spank them or pull their hair, etc... some just like the flirty grabby stuff. I know who does and who doesnt dig it, and I respect that. A lot of times the guys dig it a lot too. The drunk and/or stupid will ask why they cant do that too, but most just like to watch.
My biggest reason for it is that it almost always gets a smile or a laugh out of the other dancers. I live to keep my pals happy. They're practically family to me.
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most of the time I really don't mind. With the girls I'm close with, we give each other pats on the ass, the occasional little boob squeeze or nipple tweak and it's cool. With girls I don't know, well, obviously I would never touch them and wouldn't want them touching me.
There was this one girl that I was sort of friends with at a club I used to work at, and she used to do this thing that would drive me insane! If I was sitting with a customer, chatting and trying to sell him a dance and she wasn't with anyone, she would sometimes come up to me and grab my boobs or undo my top as a way of inserting herself into the conversation, and putting the attention on her, it totally fucked up my hustle and pissed me off!!!
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i don't think it gives the customer the wrong idea, but that just bugs me when a dancer smacks me on the ass, when it happens i usually give a really dirty look.
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Usually touching only happens between girls that know each other a little or during a double dance. It really doesn't bother me at all :)
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It depends on the girl, and how far (and how fast) she is trying to take this touching. I so far, haven't had a problem.
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Originally Posted by screaminpeachez
lol^^^^^^^^^^^
same thing happened to me but, as an involuntary reaction i slapped the girl in the face.
oops
Girl, you crack me up! ;D ;D ;D
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but what about during lesbian shows??
im always unsure of how fare is ok without freaking out a girl i do or dont know so well???
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OMG I love it!! But I am pretty bisexual :)
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i like to be asked before I'm touched by another dancer. If it goes over my line then I'll say something to them.
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i did some cage-dancing recently with other dancers and found myself being groped like never before. I wasn't really bothered by it and I kind of knew some of the girls involved but all in all it wasn't too raunchy so i'm okay with it.
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It definetly depends on the girl... I agree though with Octobergirl, it usually is with a girl I know (and probably like to play with ;) ). For the record though I LOVE men, but I do like to play with women here and there. There are a few girls in my club that I wouldn't want to touch, or have them touch me. YUCK!!!! But I feel lucky that there are more than enough that look yummy!! Usually the playtime begins when the alcohol kicks in!
I LOVE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN!!!! What is better than that? Harmless fun...