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When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
Sometimes, the customer is just looking for a $20 fuck. Then there are those who really don't know what SCs are all about and can be taught the meaning of life.
My problem is that I go into a lengthy explanation. What do you say when this question approaches you with sincerity?
I'm teaching myself to give the brief answer of:
"A sensual experience that you can not have outside of here or with anyone else."
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
for someone who doesnt know the point:
" hmm, well, you tell me why you came in. to look at the new carpet?"
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Lizette
"A sensual experience that you can not have outside of here or with anyone else."
This is as good an answer as I have heard. You have to convey the special nature of your sensuality, especially if you are working where there are those who will knuckle under to what the guys expect of them, and do what any woman can do. Always keep in mind what makes you different, and capitalize on it.
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Depends on my mood:
bitchy mood gets: "Well why are you here?"
good mood gets: "To have a different kind of erotioc experience w/ a woman"
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I'm over explaining it: "well, I didn't realize that the short bus makes a drop-off at the titty bar!"
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^ :rotfl:
Fucking A, Kat...I love you!! LOL
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I say, "What's the point of a massage?"
ie; it's not a necessity but you lie there passively and pay someone to make you feel good.
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I love your answere, Lizette. I am going to remember that one!
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Katrine
"well, I didn't realize that the short bus makes a drop-off at the titty bar!"
That. Is fucking beautiful.
You could always use this SS line:
"If you don't know the point of a lap dance, you've clearly never had one with me."
;)
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Lizette
"A sensual experience that you can not have outside of here or with anyone else."
That is a great answer. Makes them curious enough to give it a shot, while not over-promising. ;D
As for some of the other answers here... *cough* While they may make you feel better, anything that makes a customer feel stupid will, more often than not, cause them to try a dance with someone else or somewhere else.
Yes, even if they are stupid. LOL
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Nicolina
"If you don't know the point of a lap dance, you've clearly never had one with me."
;)
Another good one. Easy to add on "C'mon. Let me show you." and then drag them off by the hand as you explain the fees and rules. :)
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
Lapdance is a higher form of a striptease.
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The most fun he will ever have with his clothes ON :P
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Archangel
That is a great answer. Makes them curious enough to give it a shot, while not over-promising. ;D
As for some of the other answers here... *cough* While they may make you feel better, anything that makes a customer feel stupid will, more often than not, cause them to try a dance with someone else or somewhere else.
Yes, even if they are stupid. LOL
I know that sweets. It was said half in jest. But after 7 years of this, I've learned that when a customer's opening line to ME is asking what the point of a lapdance is, I'm going to have to spend several minutes begging him for a dance when there are better prospects in the next chair or in a few minutes......burnout is a bitch. /:O
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by daveinsa
The most fun he will ever have with his clothes ON :P
I am writing this one down.
;D
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Originally Posted by Katrine
I know that sweets. It was said half in jest. But after 7 years of this, I've learned that when a customer's opening line to ME is asking what the point of a lapdance is, I'm going to have to spend several minutes begging him for a dance when there are better prospects in the next chair or in a few minutes......burnout is a bitch. /:O
Yep they are time wasters, just there to get a kick from talking to you without spending and pissing you off.
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A lot of the problem when you get guys like this is that the club does not have proper momentum.
What I mean by momentum is a jivey DJ who is pushing dances and stage tips, and an atmosphere where girls are constantly going from table to table asking for dances, and where during a halfway busy time guys all around are getting dances, to the point where many customers feel obligated to buy dances because most of the other guys are getting them.
Lots of clubs nowadays have little to no momentum at all and guys don't get their adrenalin flowing enough to spend money.
I agree with Katrine in that type of club. Go on to the next guy. If there is no one else to work, get him to talk about himself, and see if you can build rapport with him to the point where maybe you can squeeze a dance or 2 out of him. If you can't, leave him alone.Many times guys like this don't feel the types of dances available offer enough contact, and they want more than a dance. They could care less about how sensual you are if you can't get them off.
You're asking some good questions Lizette. At some point you may want to experiment with some other clubs to see if there are other places that may have a flow that you like better.
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Originally Posted by Tina
A lot of the problem when you get guys like this is that the club does not have proper momentum.
What I mean by momentum is a jivey DJ who is pushing dances and stage tips, and an atmosphere where girls are constantly going from table to table asking for dances, and where during a halfway busy time guys all around are getting dances, to the point where many customers feel obligated to buy dances because most of the other guys are getting them.
Best sh!t Ive heard all day!!!! So true!!! (Im writing this w/ my cat snoring on me!) Sometimes this type of question pops up when the club is dead. I do see more guys buy dances b/c the atmosphere is built up and people are having fun all around. Thats why I like nights sometimes.
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a lap dance is up close and personal.
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Katrine
I know that sweets. It was said half in jest. But after 7 years of this, I've learned that when a customer's opening line to ME is asking what the point of a lapdance is, I'm going to have to spend several minutes begging him for a dance when there are better prospects in the next chair or in a few minutes......burnout is a bitch. /:O
I've never looked at it that way. I see your point and have to agree when I look at it from your frame of reference. :O
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A way for you to have sexy, sensual, harmless adult fun ;D
One on one fun
A way for you to have a great sexy time with a beautiful woman ;D
Generally, whenever I am asked this question with sincerity (sp?) I usually say that the point is that you will have even more sexy, intimate personal fun than just watching the stage.
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
Good responses, though usually if he's asking he's mentally following it with "when I can get a blowjob for the same amount / when I can't touch / when I can see more from stage / when I totally respect you and you're job but I think they're stupid / when I really do have two girlfriends and that is hotter / -insert excuse-" [all used as actual reasons!]
There are a few guys that actually mean to say "tell me why I should get one, because: I don't understand what they are / what they're like at this club / I really want to be convinced."
Have a short and snappy answer, like the ones aforementioned, for the latter group - and then they'll either reveal themselves as part of the first group, or they're ready to sell to. :)
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If you are a student you can tell them they are "supporting the arts" or whatever. LOL
As someone who is new to all this... it is interesting to note that a lapdance without extras really is a frustrating tease which is better than no contact with a woman yes, but it very frustrating not to be able to get off or even kiss. I find myself thinking I would pay $40 for a lousy 5 second mouth kiss but no... LOL
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Re: When they ask, "What's the point of a lap dance?"
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Originally Posted by Malak
I find myself thinking I would pay $40 for a lousy 5 second mouth kiss but no... LOL
$40!!??? Thats it!! Geebus!!
JK
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Bravo, Lizette. Loved your line. I think some men need to be reminded that the distinct advantage of a SC (for performer and customer alike) is that it's a contained, rule-bound, safe environment. A regular bar, by comparison, is loaded with uncertainty, worry, and, yes, possibly unpleasant outcomes. SCs let everyone drop their guard to some extent 'cause the parameters are understood. As other posts on SW make abundantly clear, trouble nearly always follows when these lines are crossed. (Not that guys won't keep trying to cross the lines; not that dancers won't deflect these overtures--that's part of the experience, I suppose.)
Question: Why don't SCs give away little primers for young men on their first outing? Maybe something they can read in the bathroom or, better, while they're fumbling at the club's ATM after a bunch of drinks.