"Sitting on a Goldmine?" Split thread...
This is a split thread from the "stripping and prostitution" thread, 'cause I am NOT posting on that....
There was a time when I never imagined I'd really be an exotic dancer. At this time, I had a boyfriend with a huge pile of BAD porn tapes, an Internet porn addiction, and a hatred of women. Yeah, I picked a winner.
So I went into dancing, hating men from my exposure to my ex-boyfriend, never knowing a dancer, never having been in a strip bar, and started working. WHAT DID I LEARN? The answer to the question, "What does she have that I don't?" NOTHING! We're all sitting on the same thing. And most of us have to use it in one way or the other to get ahead in life. The sorority chick waiting for a big diamond on her ring finger. The wife/mother who keeps house and has sex with the same guy for room and board. Etc., etc., etc.......
American woman are very lucky when it comes to rights and protection of their sex under the law. I have lived in places where a man can beat his wife in the street and no one will stop him. There are countries where a woman can't show her face, and her parents can marry (sell) her off to someone she has never seen. In these places, a woman is denied the use of the power of her sex.
Those of you who come here angry at women who use their sexuality to surivive should think long and hard about what's keeping you from ending up right next to the stripper or prostitute you are hating on. Yeah, life is unfair. Men are dog d*cks. But some of us are deprived the luxury of having a man to feed and protect us, so we use what we have to survive. Could you do it if you had to? Is your meal ticket a sure bet?
"Free your mind, and your ass will follow."- George Clinton.
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i see what you are saying.. and great post btw!
Somen women dont dance because they need to. I like the money of course, but im not desperate for it.
Some women are sour because their man is going into the club and they are scared that they will LOOSE THEIR OWN MEAL TICKETS. What these women need to realise is that they can make it on their own and get an education!
Never in my life have i seen so many sugar daddys and desperate women around me. Women selling their bodies, trophy wives... since i moved to the south! Im not saying it doesnt happen up north now....!!! But this is rediculous...
and i know what im saying right now will start a storm, but honestly... Women rely too much on men!!! We are stronger then that!
Be with someone because YOU WANT TO, have sex because YOU WANT TO. Understand that you have other options.
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This is all so true. A lot of women marry and a lot of the reason they marry is the security. Take that away and it might not be such an appealing proposition to many. I've always said that an escort is no different than a woman who only wants to date men with money. One of my best friends is a house wife/stay at home mom. She has a degree but has never made much money at all. I think her marriage is pretty stable but I've often wondered what would happen to her if her husband just up and left. My guess is her parents, with her dad's income, would help her out. So she really wouldn't be relying on herself even then. I have a really funny story about a rich bored housewife and her ex lover I heard yesterday but I don't feel comfortable posting it on here. But there is a lot of sugar daddy'ing going around that's for sure.
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Wonderful post madmaxine....... Hopefully we'll get some well thought out responses and a variety of opinions instead of knee jerk reactions and bandwagon jumping.
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"Those of you who come here angry at women who use their sexuality to surivive should think long and hard about what's keeping you from ending up right next to the stripper or prostitute you are hating on."
100% Agreed
I used to work for a company a few years ago (non stripping related) where the owner really liked high heels. I have always worn heels so it wasn't a big deal to me. However the girl I worked with was feminist to the core and always wore long loose skirts with berkenstock (sp) sandals. She thought it was disgusting that the owner had a thing for heels. She asked me why I "conformed" to his wishes and expressed that he wasn't worth dressing up for, etc. She could not stand this guy because she thought he was a sexist pig. We talked about it and I was finally able to convince her that I did not dress up for him. It was for me and my family. I dress in a suit and heels so that I can make more money for my family. Not because that's what he likes and I just so want to impress him because he's such a great guy. No. I was indeed using my sexuality to get ahead in life. She was doing it too, though not exactly in the same way I was. She may have dressed dumpy but she always made it clear how sexually liberal she was and how much she loved sex, etc. She knew that had an affect on how the man would look at her even if she wouldn't admit it. So what's the difference? I began dancing about a year after that and it wasn't difficult because I had essentially been doing the same thing all along. Using my sexuality to get ahead.
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This is a really great post....unfortunately my mind is a blur right now and I can't think of an intelligent reply:p
I got into dancing for the travel and $$ opportunities. I never had to do this, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I've learned alot and made amazing, life-long friends.
I just feel sorry for the women who get into this to keep up their drug habit. They do the most atrocious things for the next "hit" or whatever. Thank God I've never had to deal with that personally.
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I am very thankful I have a body no to abuse but to use to get ahead. My mom will not pay for my apartment. Sure, I could work 3 jobs to pay for it all. But, why should I if I am good at sales? Ive done sales jobs and its pretty much the same stress just in a different way.
Stripping has let me know that I have control of my money and my future. I dont need to be a stripper...but I want things for myself I could never have working 3 jobs. I cant possibley live on my own here w/o it. There is no way at all working 60+ hours and going to school full time I could ever afford anything.
All of this is for survival for me. So, I dont have to live on 3 hours of sleep and top ramen.