Hi, first off, I'm really glad that I found this site
Well, here is my situation. I work as a psychologist in a hospital setting....grief counseling, evaluate some people who come into the trauma center, rehab counseling.... So I've always considered myself good at reading people, at times seeing through them. I work some pretty odd hours, and so my love life does suffer....pretty much don't have the time to go out and meet people.
I always swore I wouldn't go to strip clubs, always thought they degrade women, and the thought of having a woman spend time with me just because I pay has never been very appealing to me.
But there is a small club along the route between my apartment and the hospital, and after a few rough nights, thought I would stop in for a drink...and of course I was curious. Unable to leave work behind, I became fascinated with the interaction between dancers and customers....and started coming more often simply to observe the men who frequent this club.....and while at it have somewhat offered my services to some of the girls......some really need them...and have shared my observations of the men and given them tips on what kind of approach to use with which men....
This is the thing though, recently, a girl started working there and she's definitely one of the most beautiful women I've seen in my life, and personality wise she's pretty nice, she's shared quite a bit about herself with me. She's planning on getting out of stripping within the next year as she's studying to be a medical assistant.... I've really started to have feelings for her....and this is clouding my judgment. I suspect she uses cocaine....I'm not sure, but there are little signs, and there is definitely a lot of instability in her life. And at times I know she's telling me things because she thinks they're what I want to hear....
I do spend money on her....not a lot though, about $80 a week, and this is mostly for drinks and just for her time sitting with me because I know that I'm taking time away from her work while I'm there...so I think its only fair. I've received some dances from her, and they've always been with "extras"...and she's given me free dances quite a few times.
A lot of times, when she talks to me she blushes, gets a little nervous, gets affectionate, and blushes when I touch her....
The problem is that while she shows signs of liking me, at the same time she lies about certain things, I sense that she's keeping something from me, despite being so beautiful she has self esteem issues, and I just have this fear that maybe this is a scam to just keep me as a customer....at times her words sound as if they came out of a stripper's handbook on how to make a customer feel special, but at the same time there is everything else. She doesn't behave the same way with other customers....and she has refused to give guys lap dances and instead chose to just sit with me for free....
So my question is, how common is this kind of behavior in a strip club? and Does anyone have similar stories? Any advice????
I'm going to see her tonite and will try to get to the bottom of things....in a very tactful way of course.....
