When the conversation lags
I think this had been covered before, but I can't find the thread. What do you do when you jsut run out of things to say? It happend to me all night tonight. Either the guys were giving me one-word answers or the answeres they were giving were things to which I could think of no reply. They were such boring conversations that I can't even remember one to use as an example!
How do you avoind jsut sitting there in silence looking dumb?
I kept thinking, "I shouild ask for this dance now, but how do I bring it up?"
Any suggestions?
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Make it funny. Say, "Well, gosh, I bet you're tired of me chewing your ear off. We'd better go do those dances now."
Are you in a new club yet? I hope it's going well.
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Yes. I am in a kind of cute little club in Indianna. So far it has been slow, but the girls are all telling me that this is NOT typical for the time of year.
Anyway, I guess I could make a joke out of it. How about "My body language is WAAAAAY better than my conversaton, so . . . . ." ?
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Originally Posted by colleen
I think this had been covered before, but I can't find the thread. What do you do when you jsut run out of things to say? It happend to me all night tonight. Either the guys were giving me one-word answers or the answeres they were giving were things to which I could think of no reply. They were such boring conversations that I can't even remember one to use as an example!
How do you avoind jsut sitting there in silence looking dumb?
I kept thinking, "I shouild ask for this dance now, but how do I bring it up?"
Any suggestions?
As far as things to say go, prepare a few topics you can speak on beforehand. For example, the American Grand Prix was this week end, so learn a few basic facts about it. Similarly, read the newspaper for any "male interest" stories that might just keep a conversation going.
Us guy's like the sound of our own voices, so one we've started droning on, listen carefully and lob in the odd question from time to time so show you are "interested".
You'll only need 2 - 3 topics because I guess you'll only be investing enough time in each potential customer to see if he's interested in a private dance.
As to changing the topic of conversation, just say that everyone should be appropriately qualified for the job they do, and if you move to the private dance area they can examine your credentials closely to see if you are indeed qualified.
One dancer I know well has a neat trick she uses to divert the conversation from general topics towards dances. She always has a long drink with lots of ice. At a suitable point in the conversation she claims to be too hot and holds the obviously cold glass against her cleavage to cool herself down. This directs the guy's eyes in the right direction, and after giving him a few seconds to stare, she suggests there's plenty more to see if he comes for a private dance.
Phil.
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When the conversation starts to lag, then you know it is time to ask for a dance. Remember, these guys are not going to pay you for your conversation (well........at least most of the time) You need to make your money. This used to always happen to me, so I would ask "what's the nicest thing that happened to you today." And when they reply with some answer, I say "well, let's see if I can top that now, how would you like that?" then I start dancing. It works most of the time. Good luck!
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Great strategeis. I am taking notes!
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I am more of the listener than a talker, so I usually keep the conversation on the customer. Most people like to talk about themselves, so let the guy impress you with his ahievements in life, hobbies and variety of places he has traveled to, while you stay mysterious yourself. Be interested and pay attention, make him feel like a king: rich, generous and powerful and he will not dissapoint you. With the shy, quiet guys it's more difficult. The best way to fill the silence is with body language. Look him in the eyes while touching his face and runing your fingers through his hair. Make a soft, dreamy face and whisper quietly in his ear. Little things like "I feel so comfortable with you...", "I wish we were somewhere private(meaning VIP room)......", "you excite me..", "I wish it would be just two of us...." work very well and many times will motivate the customer to take you to VIP room for some private time together.
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Just my opinion.
When the convo lags,time to do a money check.
If this guy has paid for your time,then thats when you should worry about new and exciting things to say,like,lets do dances.
If you get to the point the convo lags,and you aint makin money,suggest a dance or move on to the next guy who is holding your money till you get to him.
We dont make our money from you sitting with a customer till you both run out of things to say.
Every club is different of course and you will need to find the time line at your new club.Sometimes thats 5 mins,10 mins,or even 15 mins of sitting with a guy before you move on to the next guy.
If it takes you 30 mins of talking,to the point of running out of things to say,or to the point of a lapdance,I would trim your time line down a tad.
If your working a 4 hour shift,every 30 mins equals about 8 dances a night.
In some clubs 8 is great,in some its below par by a mile and would send many girls i know into a fit of rage on all who possess a penis,friend or foe.
I guess my point is that, if you get to the point of running out of things to say,the silence better be golden,or its time to move on.
Hope that new club kicks major for ya!!!!!!
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Let your finger do the walking through the pages.........with the money talking, let the bull do the waking. Yeah babe. Walk away, walk away. Renee!
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I assess his body language. If he seems bored and very much not into me (his eyes would be wondering, his weight would be shifting), I give up and say, "Wanna dance?" and hope for the best without expecting too much. If his attention is mostly on me, I actively lead the conversation to dances.
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say "Well, im having so much fun talking, but i think we would have so much more fun in vip"
Then.. "Are you ready babe?"
I always sell when the convo goes dry. Either they are not interested in wasting your time OR they are trying to figure out how to ask you for a dance.. I figure then its 50 /50.
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I hate to see girls just standing there with a customer saying nothing and staring into space. Either ask for the dance or excuse yourself so that someone else can ask for the dance. Once you run out of things to say (and in my opinion, the conversation should be kept to a minimum at first meeting until you know what type of spender you have) close the sale. When salespeople are don't with thier pitch, they ask for the sale. You Do the same. /:O