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I touch you, you don't touch me
In some of the bars that I work at, they have a rule that you can touch them, they can't touch you (at all). I am having problems telling them to get their hands off without mentioning that there is a camera (which makes most of the guys uncomfortable) or without sounding like I am taking out all of the fun of it. How do you go about it?
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You can try this:
"No, baby, YOU stay still, and I move. I thought guys liked it that way."
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What Jenny said.
Another variation: As you move his hands to the side, "now you're just gonna have to relax and let ME do all the work.'
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Another variation on what Bridgette said is to make them sit on their hands. When you make them do this, tell them "These stay here...let me take care of the rest" and you're set. If they take their hands out from under their legs, you remind them that you told them not to move their hands and put them back. They'll get the idea pretty quick.
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I tell the guy that it will cost them $1,000 (or sometimes more) if they try to touch me. Fortunately, no one has taken me up on that offer. I really don't know what I'd do if they'd say yes. /:O The point is to try to make it something that you know, based on each particular customer, is out of reach. ::)
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Same goes for some of these dancers I've seen. Was at the club the other night supporting my g/f and having a good time with my buddy. I didn't get dances because I wasn't going to waste money she was making, but I tipped almost every girl that came up on the side stage next to where we were seated. I was standing there with one girl, hands flat down on the stage, enjoying the dance when she bends over and rubs her ass in my face. I didn't bite, lick, anything and then she turns around and smacks me across the chops. Not hard mind you, but still....don't know whether she was trying to get some S&M action going or whether she thought I had touched her but I didn't appreciate it.
Now, the other lovely lady that told me she liked my hair and smacked me on the ass because of it.....that wasn't so bad!
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This is the only rule I will tolerate these days... I work in Melbourne because of it.
How I combat this supposed negative is to either offer a length explanation which incorporates descriptions of what I do in the dance... of "how I can do SO much more". Remind them it is more intimate, personal... and that even I get a little turned on in the dance.. due to the no touching... it is only one negative when there are a hellava lot more positives.
Or... the short version is.. "There is only one NO: No touching me.. however.. there are alot more yeses...."
Thanks to coming from a touching environment (where the customer can touch the dancer and vice versa)... I know the negatives to touching. The only positive is that it seems an easier sell... the negative is that no dancer really enjoys the touching (unless the guy is one of those rare customers who actually knows how to touch a woman and do so within the rules).. we're too busy watching the custys damn hands to concentrate on the dance. Plus then there's all the minor little rules that one has to abide by due to the touching compared to the no touching.
;D No touching me anymore! I'm much better off physically and psychologically for it.
(Let's just say that these days, I much prefer no touching.)
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I pull the dominatrix mentality on guys like that.
"You're in my house.You're gonna play by my rules!"
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Yeah, I would feel quite uncomfortable about them touching me too. I haven't started dancing yet, however, living in Queensland Australia I haven't a choice. And I have no idea how I am going to handle the 'touching' policy. Apparently, it's controlled touch. Perhaps someone can inform me of that...pleasssse! It scares me!
I think if the guy feels as though you are putting on a big show just for him and if he keeps his hands to himself...it's you doing all the work and him relaxing and getting comfortable.
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I just say, "no, no. Bad boy." and then I place his hands back down on the couch.
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"Lemme tell you a little secret. The more you behave, the more I get to misbehave. See what I mean?"
Custy nods eagerly.
"Good. We don't want to give the bouncers any reason to watch us closely, now, do we."
Custy nods eagerly again and obediently puts his hands down at his sides.
"Now let me take care of this dance for you, baby."
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well, probably not correct, but if the club allows it, guys will expect it
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Originally Posted by melanie05
I tell the guy that it will cost them $1,000 (or sometimes more) if they try to touch me. Fortunately, no one has taken me up on that offer. I really don't know what I'd do if they'd say yes. /:O The point is to try to make it something that you know, based on each particular customer, is out of reach. ::)
Putting a price on touching is "prostitution," even if you don't intend to let them touch you. If the police catch you saying this, uh-oh. Also, no price can be put on your dignity.
I make a game of it. If they touch my back or arms, they sit on their hands. If they touch anywhere else, the dance is over. There is no such thing as accidental touching. If they touch my breasts, they did so with with intent. They knew exactly what they are doing and that what they were doing was both wrong and illegal.
Some idiot asked to finger me. I nearly spit in his face. This tidbit is off-topic, but I really needed to vent. Sorry.
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You can gaze, stare, and make eye contact. If this eye contact lingers, it may lead to something. If they are interested, they will either smile or make some gesture. At that point, you either start moving to them, or they start moving to you. If not, they will look someplace else. This is easier than verbally saying no.
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I very much like the "I touch, you sit and be in Awe" concept.
I guess I'll never get why other men will just reach out and touch the Dancer, knowing that it isn't allowed... (and Definatly Not welcome) It speaks volumes about the individual stupidity and disrespect of more Males than I care to admit sharing a Y chromosome with... :/
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This one works for me:
"Oh, I like to be in control, So let me have all the fun"
They normally listen, if not I grab the hands and put them on the back of the couch. Most guys thankfully are so afraid to get kicked out they listen!
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somtimes it helps me to grab their hands and pin them up against the wall in a sexy dominatrix kind of way, it makes them feel like they are being seduced and you are in control.
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I know I'd be mad paying for a LD from showgirlchloe. Takes her three weeks to get her panties off it seems...
I had a dancer relay to me that in those situations she pins their hands back against the wall then dances for them, so I asked 'How do you give a good dance then?' and....she...showed me....and I was impressed. Lot more head activity and circling, but...it was pretty interesting!
::MAST::
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I seem to have this problem with the foriegner custys..........I simply explain the "I touch you, you don't touch me" rule, and yet they still continue to touch me so I just keep explaining it and sending HINTS to them, take their hands off of me, etc........i've actually lost dances because of it, but hell i wouldn't wanna dance for them anyways if they don't seem to understand what i'm saying.............IDIOTS!!!!!
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On a slow night a group of dancers had gathered to whine about a handsy customer. I thought I would give him a taste of his own medicine, so I went over to dance for him, and while I had him distracted, used my wrap / scraf to pin his hands to the chair. :D The giggles of all the other girls turned him 3 shades of red, and I felt like I got their revenge through humiliation, and two dances besides. : )
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well...i've found i make the most $$ by playing the part of a playful, girlish, barely-legal Italian dancer. (i am italian actually, and can speak it, but i speak perfect English with a regular American accent OTC...i just do the italian thing b/c i get literally twice the $$).
so, when guys try to touch me, i generally act shocked for a second, then giggle, slap his hands down and say some version of "non toccarme!" They usually think it's cute. Sometimes I even keep them occupied this way for the whole dance...they try to touch again, i react in much the same way, they think it's cute so they laugh and do it again...it becomes a game...and then they usually will buy another dance and actually let me dance that one without trying to touch me all the time. :)
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you dance in austin and no one has ever touched you? and "fortunately" no one has ever offered you a grand for little contact?
say whaaaa?
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Yeah, try pulling the dominatrix out. The lines above mentioned are really good, use them. Make them sound like you have the power and they're your subserviant one. They might get into that.