Questions from a newbie about customers
I havent started dancing yet, I'm still looking for a good club to try out at. I'm just wondering (since I've heard a lot of horror stories) What should I realistically expect from the customers as far as behavior is concerned? I know it depends partly on the club and other factors (like myself) and that there will always be the occasional asshole. I just wanted to know from your experiences, what would you consider to be the norm? Are more guys nice and respectfull than not? Would you say that it's a few "bad apples" who try and ruin it for the others? Also, would you say that most clubs are ok with you refusing to dance for someone who is calling you names, touching you where it's not allowed and etc? and honestly.. have you had anything scary happen? I've been to a few clubs and had a few table/couch dances myself, but I've never gone to the V.I.P area. I know a guy who has been to most of the clubs in my area and he says that all of them have girls who will give a lot more than the rules allow. Am I being naive thinking that I can do this without being expected to give hand/blowjobs or let a guy jerk off in a private room or touch me all over my body? These are not things I'm comfortable with and it seems that when I tell people that they say "Then why would you consider stripping." I love to dance, and I love feeling sexy/sexual, and I'd be lying if i said the money wasnt a factor... I'm starting college again soon and I really need something part time that will keep me stable. What are your general feelings about starting out as far as customers go? What should I expect?
Re: Questions from a newbie about customers
[QUOTE=Pretty_Penny]Would you say that it's a few "bad apples" who try and ruin it for the others? Am I being naive thinking that I can do this without being expected to give hand/blowjobs or let a guy jerk off in a private room or touch me all over my body? QUOTE]
Just like the few "bad apple" customers... Those are the "bad apple" girls in this industry. Most girls make their $$ without stooping to that level.
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I know that most girls don't, I think it just runs rampant in my area (Tampa) I didnt mean to imply that all girls do (or that all Tampa girls do). I have a couple friends who used to dance, but none of them danced in this area and never got into it here because of that.
Re: Questions from a newbie about customers
Ye famed male perspective...
Like the rest of life, you are going to get a variety of customers coming into a SC. There will be some nice guys and there will be some ar*eholes - the good old law of averages at work. Hopefully, the ar*eholes will be a small minority.
I personally regard a private dance as a bit of fun and will just enjoy the view. There are a number of customers who will have baser motives. I think as some point you are going to have to expect wandering hands, crude comments, requests for "extras", etc.
You're also going to have to dance for guys with a personal hygience problem - B.O., bad breath etc., not to mention guys you find physically unattractive - overweight, bald, too old, etc.
Finally, expect to be asked for your phone number - a LOT!!!!
You are just going to have to learn how to deal with wandering hands, requests for "extras", etc. Saying no in a withering way is a good start - most experienced dancers have some pretty good put down lines for idiots of this nature.
With the personal hygience problems, etc., you are going to have to learn to "switch off" and let them fade into the background while you focus on something else. Dealing with such people is part of your job description.
With the phone numbers: it's part of the "date a dancer" syndrome. Many guys who come into SC's fantisise about a date with a stripper, many dancers use the "carrot" of getting their number as a way of getting private dances - and of course it always takes one more private dance before you give out your number.
Why do some men come into SC's with less than gentlemanly intentions? Several motives:
(a) Some think that because you take your clothes off that makes you a "tart". They will thus be surprised that getting your kit off is all that you do. You're being viewed as a stereotype and not as an individual.
(b) Some are just sexually frustrated, and going into a SC seems an easy option to them. Because at some point you are going to come and talk to him, then get naked, it seems to them that talking dirty or asking for a BJ is just an extension to what you do. It appears simpler for them than trying to chat up a girl in a bar.
(c) Some are "mileage hounds" - that is to say they come into SC's with the exception of pushing the limits to see how far they can get - it's a game to them.
And yeah, there are some girls who will accomodate guys who want to go further. There will always be a small percentage of girls who get a degree of fun out of what they do, other girls will need the money enough to compromise their principles, and some girls will not be physically attractive enough or too old to compete on even terms with the bulk of girls in a club.
Dancing is unfortunately a job where you will meet a higher than nomal percentage of di*kheads - you just have to be mentally preapred to deal with them when it happens. Most of the di*kheads will back off when put into their place by a determined dancer.
Phil.