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It was his fault in the first place.
He shouldn't has asked you. That's just dumb of him.
The rest of the guys being dicks. Well, you should attribute that to it being a bachelor party and them being drunk. Bachelor parties aren't meant for men to be nice to women. It's the exact opposite...which is why your boyfriend shouldn't have asked you in the first place.
Guys are dicks during bachelor parties. That's why they have so much fun at them.
Sorry you're havin a bad night. Props to you for trying to help him out.
In his defense, he probably didn't think it through completely.
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yeah i know, i've done TONS of bachelor parties, but i've never felt like that before. I've never had guys be so rude. especially since they are our friends! You'd think they would be nice...
my boyfriend has been apologizing ever since we got in the car to come home. (which took longer than expected b/c someone threw my keys into the grass ::mutters:: immature assholes.)
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Ewww, gross! I can't believe your bf wanted you to get naked for his friends... in a mosquito filled barn no less! What the hell was he doing when the jackass started calling you a bitch? I apologize if this sounds harsh but dump the bf. You deserve someone who's smarter than that...
BTW, this is another case of you get what you pay for.
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Maybe this is none of my buisiness, but this so-called BF, is actually no BF.
This is my opinion.
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>:(
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Originally Posted by EffeZX
Maybe this is none of my buisiness, but this so-called BF, is actually no BF.
This is my opinion.
Exactly...what a jerk!
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Originally Posted by hannah83
Yep...they were holding it in a barn. With florescent lights and cement floors, and a TON of mosquitos. :-\
I'd smack the shit outta my best man if he held my backelor party in a barn. >:(
Sounds like a really weird situation. Terrible planning. It's not that hard to get strippers to dance at a bachelor party.
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1. Your boyfriend should have left the party with you when the guys started getting rude to you for not dancing. How would the bachelor like it if another guest started insulting his finance loudly and publicly.
2. You were right to not dance for them. I understand that you wanted to help out and all, but everyone should have respected your decision to change your mind as you were a party guest, not a hired entertainer.
3. The guys should have to wallow in their own penny pinching misery. There is a good reason why they were able to locate a dancer at 1/4th of the going rate. It wasn't your fault that they just figured that last month's centerfold was on special just for their party.
You are outed now, and you can't put that genie back in the bottle. I'm sorry it was so bad for you, but short of moving again, you are going to be known as "the stripper girl" in this circle of friends. I'm sending big hugs and good vibes in your direction :grouphug: :hug: :goodvibes :goodvibes :goodvibes
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I'd smack the shit outta my best man if he held my backelor party in a barn. >:(
LMAO!!! Don't forget about the discount stripper!
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I would never do this. How come nice guys never get the girls?
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First of all, I admire you for trying to "help out". However, I have to say I find it a bit naive to think that inane drunken bachelor party fuckheads (in a BARN, no less) wouldn't be rude to you. And also, fuck your BF. Seriously. Mainly for asking you to dance for his friends in the first place, and secondly for not kicking the obnoxious "why is the bitch still here" guys teeth down his throat immediately. Are you wrong for being offended? Not at all. I'm sorry for the position you are in now, as it sounds like a small-town type of thing. I reccomend having a hardcore discussion with your man, posthaste. If he doesn't understand why you're upset, then perhaps you need to rethink a few things. (I apologize if I sound overtly negative, it's not intended. Best of luck to you.)
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I would drop that pathetic excuse for a boyfriend like yesterday's dirty panties, for all the reasons everyone has already posted. He shouldn't have asked you to dance at the party, he should've defended you and LEFT with you when the asshole insulted you, and he should've known better than to let the other guy bring some unknown girl(s) for half the price. All these things prove he's a dipshit who doesn't deserve you. So what if he's been apologizing? If he couldn't do better than that now, he won't be worth the hassle in future.
I agree you're outed and nothing you can do about it. Since this is apparently a small town you'll most likely be outed all over town in short order. Incidences like this have a way of spreading through small towns like wildfire. I'm very sorry sweetie!
:hug: for you
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Just becuse it was a bacholoer party is very very far from and exuse to treat you badly. Futher more you never have get anywhere if you don't want to. Don't feel bad about n ot wanting to dance. I think these men should be ashamed of themselvs and send you and apolgy letter. (yes i realize they will never send a letter but that is the right thing to do.) but thats just my opione
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1-Dump the boyfriend
the end
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k well as for the boyfriend, we've been together for almost 2 years and that was the first time he ever messed up badly. Not going to make excuses for him b/c i'm still upset at him but keep in mind that he was drunk. I haven't seen him that drunk in a long time. That and he is deaf in one ear so it's hard for him to hear when he's talking to someone. When i got in the car to drive him home, I told him about what that guy said and he was really pissed and wanted to know why i didn't tell him about it.
This morning he's been tiptoeing around me, i think he knows that i'm still very upset.
it would be nice to get a letter/call from them apologizing, but that won't happen. And yes, you were right, I was naive for thinking that they wouldn't be rude b/c they were my friends. I won't make that mistake again.
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Dump him, dump him, dump him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are too good for him. No woman should ever be made to feel scared, insecure or "a piece of meat" as you did that night, esp when her supposed boyfriend is sitting right next to her. Sounds like he wants you for a trophy and nothing else, why else would he ask you to parade around infront or his friends in next to nothing? I say dump him, then spread rumours round town that hes a cross dresser! Seriously though, Im so sorry you were put in that situation. Move onward and upward, x
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lol polekitten, the thought did cross my mind. but i don't really want to break up with him. Yes, what he did was wrong but i think he knows that. He gave me a 2nd chance when i messed up a year ago...i think it's only fair i do the same.
the cross dresser rumor is very tempting though.
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Ok, what I don't get is why would you even THINK that dancing in front of your dude's friends would work? /:O Something like that, I woulnd't have even considered.
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So i stay but kept getting rude comments from this guy. Keeps yelling things like "Where are the strippers???" and he came up to me and said "well you obviously failed at taking your clothes off, why are you still here?" And if that didn't hurt, he would say loudly "why's the bitch still here?"
See with the above quote, I would have to dump my b/f. I'm sorry but that was a major b$%#@ move. He is sitting around and letting this guy disrespect you like that. No offense but, Is your dude a punk, or does he not really consider you as being his girl? I could never imagine a dude that cares about me, not stand up for me. ESPECIALLY when a dude is carrying on, AND calling me a BITCH!! Yea right.
Edit: Ok, just read that you 2 have been together for 2yrs. A lil FYI Hannah...F#@% 2YRS OK?! Two years is not anything. Especially when knowing that you have a man who won't even stand up for you! It's all about R-E-S-P-E-C-T and right about now, you dont have any!
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Well, everyone seems to be telling you to get rid of him. I know you may not think it's that simple and are bargaining with yourself and trying to justify it by saying it was a one time thing etc...but if you look back to these last two years...certainly you must be able to think of other times where he just had a blatant disrespect for you and your feelings? Things like this don't just happen after two years...this is horrible...nothing less.
I am so sorry (I think a lot of us have had bfs like this)
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I can see backing out of dancing for his friends. It's too strange.
BUT, i can't see his friends throwing disrespect at you....Especially in front of him, their friend. It would have been nice if he said "cool it guys, this is my woman!" Or something along those lines.
Man..i would be mad as hell. Dumping him? I don't know. But you need to have a talk with him about the lack or respect that seemed to be going around that night towards you first.
Then fuck (you know FORGET ) his lame ass sorry ass friends. I think they owe you an apology!!!! All of them.
Pamela
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First of all, I admire you for trying to "help out". However, I have to say I find it a bit naive to think that inane drunken bachelor party fuckheads (in a BARN, no less) wouldn't be rude to you. And also, fuck your BF. Seriously. Mainly for asking you to dance for his friends in the first place, and secondly for not kicking the obnoxious "why is the bitch still here" guys teeth down his throat immediately. Are you wrong for being offended? Not at all. I'm sorry for the position you are in now, as it sounds like a small-town type of thing. I reccomend having a hardcore discussion with your man, posthaste. If he doesn't understand why you're upset, then perhaps you need to rethink a few things. (I apologize if I sound overtly negative, it's not intended. Best of luck to you.)
Yes exactly I would of kicked that guys ass for saying shit like that the people couldnt of been good friends because they did not respect you for what you did I mean whooping it up is cool but the cruel remarks are uncalled for ! When I read the story I knew the results were going to be bad when you decided to step in - good intentions but a bad choice . I guess its like a bf hanging in a strip club it just in most cases doesnt work ! But your heart was in it and for that I give you cudos ..
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Then fuck (you know FORGET ) his lame ass sorry ass friends. I think they owe you an apology!!!! All of them.
Pamela
Ok, I vote to be the first to Issue Pamela a warning for her post ;) Just kidding lady :hug:
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ive been a dancer for 10 years. and in that time ive had 2 bf. these blokes were carefully chosen because of their views on dancers. they didnt want me to get naked infront of other men but the knew if they told me what to do i would do i would show them the door. they loved me and respected me as my own person.for him to even like the fact that you are a dancer seams to me a little strange, but to suggest you take your clothes off for his friends just makes me sick.
it looks to me you are but a symbol on his arm. let me guess,he pumps alot of iron and drives a suped up car and as he drives by he shouts out the window "hay guys check out my stripper girlfriend"
strange how men always go deaf when they lack respect for a woman. u dont need us to tell you what to do,you know what to do!
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like cinnamon said, why would you think that dancing for his friends would be a good idea? Guys want to be turned on by a stripper and enjoy at least the fantasy that she might want them. With you, unless you have an open relationship and they all know it, that fantasy is not possible. It'd be like loaning your mom to someone for a day so they have some one to mother them.
Honestly, you sound like you're making excuses for him. I'd seriously reconsider your relationship in light of this. Unless you are in an open relationship, his asking you to dance for his friends is...weird...I could see maybe one friend while you're all three drunk, but a group of guys at a bachelor party? That's f-ed up.