dump him ! he obviously cares more about his friends than he does about u.what a looser
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dump him ! he obviously cares more about his friends than he does about u.what a looser
lol daze, i'll work on not bein so freakin nice. And it's not that i wanted to "fit in" it's just that i'm always trying to please everyone. hmm...maybe you are right, in a way i am trying to fit in. Guess it goes back to childhood, we all went through those awkward phases, and i think part of that stuck with me.
i wish i could explain more about what went on that nite, but i can't seem to explain it so ya'll can understand that he was upset about what happened I should've told him what was goin on when it happened, but instead i kept quiet and i wish i wouldn't have. your right though, can't change the past..
How is your bf acting now hannah? Its been 2 days, so have you discussed it further? you said he was tip-toeing around you the next morning, is he still? has he talked to his friends about it?
God, i'm nosey!
Im sorry Hannah,but i dont think you get it.
The most horrible unforgivable offense this man made against you,and your relationship,was long before you got to the barn.
If your in a biker gang,and your man wants to pass you among his friends,Kewl.
If your a swinger and a man wants to pass you around to his friends,kewl.
But your not.
Just the fact that he would LET you dance for his friends says it all.
IMO,to him,your pussy that looks good when worn as arm candy,and his friends rate higher.
Just how much more proof do you need???
Wake up,or listen to the zillions of other strippers who fall into the same trap and themselves,need a wake up call.
When i said your lucky,I really belive you are.
Your relationship was put to the test.
His honor was put to the test.
How you rate in this mans life was put to the test.
He failed on every question.
why spend the next few years giving him makeup test??
He will fail those also.
I would say i wish he beat you,but then you and a zillion strippers could find a way to justify that also.
he was drunk.
He was swinging at the wall.
I hit him first.
yadda yadda yadda
Dam girl,wake the fuck up.
::::no need to respond to this post,im off this usless,depressing ass post.I see enough of this bullshit nightly::::
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Originally Posted by grinew127
Convinced yet? love ya! ;)
boyfriend has been acting fine, still seems a lil shy around me but other than that, we're pretending that saturday nite never happened.
as for abuse, I would NEVER put up with that. I've dealt with it in the past(not with a boyfriend but from a pathetic excuse for a parental figure) and i don't handle violence well.
Yes, tons of us dancers have crappy boyfriends, but honestly that was the first big problem we've run into. We honestly don't fight, we don't give each other reasons to fight. I cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship, and he could have easily said go to hell and that once a cheater, always a cheater. but he didn't.
and while i'm still furious that he even had the nerve to call me in the first place, i can forgive him. It'd have been different if i would've gone through with it and he didn't protect me from any of the guys.
i am still seriously considering our relationship, mainly b/c i'm bored and i know there has got to be something better out there than what i have now. looking forward to going out to vegas in sept...who knows, maybe i won't come back to Michigan.
lol yes lucy, i'm getting convinced. it's hard not to since you all are giving me very good reasons as to why i should dump his ass
4,327 1/2 strippers I've dated, and not once have I ever asked one to strip from my friends.
Actually, I do have a point: If this guys wants you to strip for his friends, then doesn't he think of you as no more than a trophy?
That's the deepest thought I've had since the winter of '88.
"for my friends", not "from my friends"
I was so damned excited about the 4,327 1/2 that I got excited and typo'd.
You're bored AND he asked you to dance for his friends....OMG it doesn't get any easier to leave does it?!?!?!?Quote:
Originally Posted by hannah83
yeah but the circumstances suck. we bought a house together.
stupid thing to do...
If you aren't convinced to dump him, try cutting him off for a while.
You really shouldnt pretend it didnt happen. :OWho cares if you guys get into a fight b/c it needs to be talked about or hes going to think how he acted was just a lil bump in the road thing. Uh-Uh hell no. He truly needs to know how you felt and what kind of bad position he put you in. Dont take that sh*t lying down to get trampled on. You are not a doormat.Quote:
Originally Posted by hannah83
:banghead:Quote:
Originally Posted by hannah83
arrrrrrrrghhhhhh!!!!!!!!
Im trying,with every fiber of my djbeing,im trying!!!!!
I just cant stay off this thread!!!!!!!!!
(and NO,you cant leave my dj booth till im done preachin)
Are you fucking blind,retarded,or helen kellers offspring???
I dont have to ask,history already tells me,you pay 80% of the mortage and household expenses.
Fuckin MO-ron.
Cut your fuckin loses.
The house is yours,he is just hangin on to good pussy.
Just ask this,can he afford it without you???
ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!
Your so played.
TM, you said it hunny, like always. From what we have all suggested Hannah is just not trying to hear it. But honestly...what did you think we were gonna say?! LOL "oh Hannah you got yourself a real winner there" lol yea right!Quote:
Originally Posted by TigersMilk
I dont know. I'm at a point in my life where if people know they need to leave (Like Hannah) and really don't want to...I dont really give a dam. Gone right ahead...You like it I love it. But I just can't see myself continuing to post in your forum. I'm sorry sweetie, but you won't get any "support" outta me >:( Now dont try to argue and say that isn't what you are looking for..because you are. That is the basis for a forum.
So like I said, this is my last posting to you, on this issue. Have fun being 2nd best.
Im a bit worried abouy Big Greenie, think he might have a heart attack if you dont dump this guy soon! (lol)
Just had a thought. I really hope your not staying with this guy just coz you own a house together-if this is the case, sell it, split the cost and move on, its not worth your sanity or you self respect, even if you lose money on it.
Either way, I hope things work out for you babes.You sound like a nice girl. Im inclined to agree with Daze on this one. Dont try to please everyone,it never works out because you spread yourself too thin and end up pleasing no one. Always please yourself first, then at least one persons happy,
x
for kripes sakes!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
take me with you!!!!!!!
Please!!!!!!!
Get me off this useless thread!!!!!!!
I will carry your shit from the car to the dressing room for a month!!!!!!
just please make it stop!!!!!!!!!!
Im sanford baby!!!!!!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Polekitten
I swear Esta!!!!!!
Im commin to meetcha!!!!!!
Im gonna slug every fucking girl at work tomorrow just for principle!!!!!
Custies are gonna wonder....
why the dayshift girls so bruised up??????
Hanna, if you are planning to stay with this gem of a guy (and it sounds as though you are), may I suggest you take TigersMilk's advice and NOT pretend like this ugly little episode never happened. You should really let him know exactly how you felt when it happened and how you feel about it now and make sure he UNDERSTANDS why. Don't let time heal this wound too quickly!! You should really find out where his head is at and you should have no problem tossing an ultimatum at him: YOU or his friends (those that disrespected you).
Its hannah's fault dammit!!!!!!!!!!!
Im gonna start callin them Hannah bruises on the mic I swear!!!!!!
Im waaay to tired and have waaay to much to say on this subject that i have no energy to. Besides everything that was going through my head when i read you initial post, has been posted by everybody else.
However from what you wrote above its obvious that you DO know that he is not right for you... but you have obligations now (a house) and so i imagine you feel trapped but there are ways around this.Quote:
Originally Posted by hannah83
Honey yea so what, everybody makes mistakes and all relationships have there troubles BUT the fact of the matter is that by asking you to strip butt nekkid in a friggin BARN for is his boys and then allowing his friends to disrespect and humiliate you only demonstrates that he holds no respect for you. The way he is acting even now shows that he is a BOY and doesn't know how to deal with situations like a grown man.
why he didn't confront the dude that called you a bitch, i have no clue. Either he just simply didn't care, thought that there was nothing wrong with it or he is a pussy.
Move on... you deserve ONLY the best.... never 2nd best.
Seraya.
B r e a t h e BigGrn.....breathe........cmon do it with me...in out in out.....in with the good out with the bad.Quote:
Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
Get your mind outta the gutter}:D
Greenie are you still with us? Should someone call an ambulance?