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Originally Posted by Amethyst
Hanna, if you are planning to stay with this gem of a guy (and it sounds as though you are), may I suggest you take TigersMilk's advice and NOT pretend like this ugly little episode never happened. You should really let him know exactly how you felt when it happened and how you feel about it now and make sure he UNDERSTANDS why. Don't let time heal this wound too quickly!! You should really find out where his head is at and you should have no problem tossing an ultimatum at him: YOU or his friends (those that disrespected you).
It must be a man thing and you stoooooo-pid females cant see it.....
If im not there,and one of MY friends see's mine,or the one who owns ME being disrespected(and im sure many saw it that wasnt "deaf"in one ear or blind in one eye)(fucking excuses),they had better stop the world and make it better.
If they cant,they better bring it to my attention so I can,real fuckin fast,and without hesitation.
If they dont,or they hesitate,they are not my friends,just people who i hang out with,and I wont know in 20 years.
be ready to go to the wall for me and mine,as I would for you and yours,or your NOT my friend.
Again,this Hannah chic is the luckiest chic in the world.
She was delt a moment of clarity.
I just hope she cashes in,unlike many strippers who dont.
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Originally Posted by Polekitten
Greenie are you still with us? Should someone call an ambulance?
Im sorry!!!!
5 daughters and I work with hundreds of girls the same age as some of them.
This stupid chit kills me on many levels!!!!!
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Im going to bed WRECKED over this thread!!!!
I swear im punching ALL the girls at work tomorrow!!!!!!
Strippers in Va will be wondering where the drive bye "slugging"came from????
Its me dammit!!!!!!!!!!
Fuck ya all,you stress me out with this petty bullshit!!!!!
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Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
Im going to bed WRECKED over this thread!!!!
I swear im punching ALL the girls at work tomorrow!!!!!!
Strippers in Va will be wondering where the drive bye "slugging"came from????
Its me dammit!!!!!!!!!!
Fuck ya all,you stress me out with this petty bullshit!!!!!
BigGrn you are hilarious Id like to see you in LA gridlock traffic. }:D:D
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whoa. sorry green. didn't mean to get ya all stressed out. but i'm gonna agree with you all and stop posting on this thread. what needed to be said has been said and from now on, it's up to me what happens next. there's no need to drag this subject out any further.
so thank you again for all the advice and opinions!!
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Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
It must be a man thing and you stoooooo-pid females cant see it.....
If im not there,and one of MY friends see's mine,or the one who owns ME being disrespected(and im sure many saw it that wasnt "deaf"in one ear or blind in one eye)(fucking excuses),they had better stop the world and make it better.
If they cant,they better bring it to my attention so I can,real fuckin fast,and without hesitation.
If they dont,or they hesitate,they are not my friends,just people who i hang out with,and I wont know in 20 years.
be ready to go to the wall for me and mine,as I would for you and yours,or your NOT my friend.
Again,this Hannah chic is the luckiest chic in the world.
She was delt a moment of clarity.
I just hope she cashes in,unlike many strippers who dont.
Look Green, if you are going to quote me, at least take the time to read the damn post before you start foaming at the mouth about how "stoo-pid" we all are, because it just makes you look like an ass. If you had read it and the posts before that you didn't author, you would know that she is not leaving this man (at least not anytime soon), so telling her do so is pointless.
Not that I need to defend myself to the likes of you, but for the record: Personally, I would have "curbed" his ass the same night, but that's just me talking (with years of experience under my lil belt).
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And further more..its not just "strippers" who stay with guys like this, but we all knew that....
We just happen to see it in this business because most of the women we deal with/talk to etc are strippers.
Who here has never stayed with a guy a little longer than they should have? Or woman for that matter? Or even a friend who wasn't truly being a good friend. Life is full of experiences. If nothing else Hannah will learn something from this. Whatever that something may be.
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Originally Posted by hannah83
whoa. sorry green. didn't mean to get ya all stressed out. !
Im sorry Hannah,im transferring more into this then you deserve.
I just see it so much and it drives me nuts when i see it.
I hope you work everything out for whats best for you.
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What I don't get is his friends not respecting you. It leads me to think that he must not respect you when your not there. You can never know what is said or done behind your back, but I just don't think he shows his friends that he respects you. If he did, they would have respected you. Its kinda like one of those mother in law things. You respect her to her face and with your S.O., but when you get with your buds you rant on how much she annoys you and you can't stand her, blah blah blah. They you see the mother in law and smile and "love" her.
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Are you still with this guy? I missed this thread when it was around originally, but ick.
Did he demand apologies from his friends?
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Hannah --
As a strip club junkie who's had alot of in-club and private experience, I can tell you there were a couple of mistakes here.
First -- it'll save alot of last minute cancellations if you can get a deposit up front; a number of agencies doing outcall in NYC do it. Your boyfriend's friend wouldn't have kept looking had a financial committment been established.
Second -- I'm not sure who actually did the asking when it came to checking out the less-than-visually-appealing substitute. Whether it was your boyfriend who did the asking or one of your boyfriend's friends, it still falls on your boyfriend -- the invite should never have reached your ears. It's just plain inappropriate for your boyfriend to invite you to a drunken bachelor party in the middle of nowhere, under whatever guise (checking out the other dancer, substituting, etc). There are only 2 types at bachelor parties -- the partiers and the dancers.
Third -- and I'm sorry about this, but you should have known better. Using "I just wanted to check out the other dancer" as an excuse just doesn't cut it -- by accepting the invitation, under whatever guise, you are also partly to blame. Look inside yourself -- what did you really think would happen?
Hannah, having been a participant at a number of bachelor parties, I can tell you the combination of booze and boobies really brings out the jackasses sometimes, and the craptacular way in which you were treated was completely inexcusable. But all respect starts with self-respect -- so I hope that in the future, should this situation repeat in any way, that you'll be the wiser for what your boyfriend put you through and have the self-confidence to politely refuse that sort of invitation.
Good luck
Dan
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Are you kidding me ?? Is this thread a joke or from a film, because it seems so unreal that someone would ask his girlfriend to strip for his friend. That's just crazy and I can't understand it. What I don't understand is soemone that would stay in a relationship like that. But whatever everyone already said everything I would have to say about that, i'm just stating how much in a shock I am that this story is true.
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A true boyfriend would never put his girlfriend in that predicament,ever.
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wow. this thread is really old. And not trying to sound like a bitch, but i really don't feel like rehashing this all over again. Yes, I am still with my boyfriend and he has apologized many times for that night. No, we have not talked to those so-called friends since that night. And i honestly never want to see them again.
I know i am partly to blame for going there in the first place, but I just took it as a lesson learned.
I haven't done anymore bachelor parties and i probably won't. But like i said earlier, I don't feel like discussing this anymore. No sense in starting another fight with my boyfriend about something that happened so long ago.
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Dontchaloveit.... when the 1 post newbie digs up some random b.s.
I wish that Pryce would make it so the newbies could only post to current threads. It's like digging up bodies and doing a post mortem.
THIS AIN'T MIAMI CSI.
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"Similar Threads" is the culprit. Get rid of it.
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Originally Posted by Sitri
Dontchaloveit.... when the 1 post newbie digs up some random b.s.
I wish that Pryce would make it so the newbies could only post to current threads. It's like digging up bodies and doing a post mortem.
THIS AIN'T MIAMI CSI.
No,it's Vegas CSI,LOL!!!
:P
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Sorry, but I just read this whole thread, and I'm really curious for some reason, did you guys go to the wedding or not?
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Ok, I would never let my BF or his friends speak to me in that way. He should have had more respect for you than to ask you to dance for his friends. If they came into your place of business and saw you naked thats one thing but you as the entertainer for them to try to grope, etc. Thats just not very respectful no matter how open a relationship you have.
You did the right thing by not entertaining them. I mean lets say that the group wasn't your "friends", it sounds like the environment would have been one that I would have refused to perform in. I would have walked out anyway.
Screw those guys, you did the right thing and they should apologies to you and your man for acting that way around you. Then your man should grovel for making such a big mistake and then you should still think twice about forgiving him.
But then again, I'm bitchy. But I have a guy that also feels the same way I do, he has worked in the industry for 16 years and has some pretty strong opinions about these things.
-E
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Originally Posted by lunchbox
Sorry, but I just read this whole thread, and I'm really curious for some reason, did you guys go to the wedding or not?
lol no, didn't go to the wedding. haven't spoken to them since that night either.
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Rule Number One,,, you can't trust drinking people.
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I wish your BF had Socked that guy right in the face! How disrespectful for one of your own friends to act that way, and doubly disrespectful for your man to allow it. But never underestimate the power of those stage shoes... One good whack and that guy would have sobered up!
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The real moral of this story . . . . don't hire ugly strippers
Think of how different this story would have turned out if 4 SMOKIN HOT babes had showed up in the first place :-)
I'd bet the BF would have ended up with one . . .
To say the least, not a cool guy and I would bet they never see a 20 year wedding anniversary; actions and words like that don't just come out once. My wife always tells me that "drunks usually speak the real truth of their hearts"
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PLEASE STOP POSTING ON THIS ISSUE!!!!
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I'm a guy and I just have to say that if I were there I would have thought your BF was a total a-- h--- for treating you like he did. He has no self-respect. but you do. You deserve much better. Get rid of the creep.