they are fine with me
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they are fine with me
Here's what I've found works best for me as a customer...
1. Wear jeans or pants, preferably with a belt, and a sexy but not skanky top.
2. Keep your makeup nice, but not strippery. No glitter, no stage makeup - you're not the performer here.
3. Tip just slightly more than the guys. Tip even those women you don't want to buy dances from - it's only a couple of bucks, and you'll look generous and show that you are participating on your own.
4. If your boyfriend is with you, don't ask if he can watch the lap dance. If she doesn't volunteer it, he is NOT entitled to a free show. Exceptions can be made if you tip at least half the dance price for his viewing, and do it up front with an explanation and ASK IF IT'S OKAY.
5. Do not touch, at all, unless invited to. This goes double for breasts, and quadruple for kitty.
6. Above all, SMILE, SMILE, SMILE. At everyone.
The main thing is to not act like you're entitled to more action or the standards are lower for you because you're a woman. The reverse is true. We should hold ourselves to a HIGHER standard. It sucks because I don't get as much mileage as the guy next to me, but I get more attention and the dancers aren't scrambling to get away from me. So it all works out in the end.
This is in my limited experience, anyway. It's worth exactly what you paid for it.
I used to go to clubs fairly frequently with my bf and male friends, sometimes in larger groups. I think it probably scares some dancers off, but others are totally fine with girls in the group. Now that I'm a dancer I understand why. It's just a little intimidating. You don't know whether that woman is a friend or gf who is really cool, or is a gf or wife who is there to "keep an eye on" her man.
I danced for my first female last night. I gave her the same dance as I gave her husband directly afterwards. She was very polite, didn't try to touch at all, as opposed to most guys.
I did notice when I was the customer, that some girls seemed reluctant to dance for/take tips from girls. Some also seemed to "do less" like just dance in front of you rather than touching you a little. That's fine, I'm mainly there to look and appreciate, not to get boobs in my face, but you kind of make a mental note of which girls are more enthusiastic.
I always talk to the women customers, and offer dances, but I'm less likely to just go up and sit on their laps, as maybe they are just there with friends and would be uncomfortable with a woman sitting on their lap.
I was at Spearmint Rhino last night for an HOUR. In that time I was the one stage tipping and giving any tips at all for that matter while the boyfriend sat there(hes not fond of SCs) But regardless, my boyfriend had 3 dancers come up to him and ask him for a dance, while totally ignoring me!!! I was practically on his lap because I admit we were a little tipsy and I wanted to sit on his lap. But even with me that close, I was still not even aknowledged, let alone asked if I wanted a dance. And dammit, I would have bought on too!
I lot of girls here have said that they dont dance for women.
How do you go about turning them down if they specifically ask for you?
And what do you say to the guys that want to watch you dance for their woman, if you dont do "free shows"?
I always seem to come across as rude, even when I try REALLY hard to say - "no you BOTH pay, or its a 1-1 dance" or "I dont dance for women" and Ive had a few dramas.
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Originally Posted by sexy_celeste
Wow. "I don't dance for women". I hope that you mean select, intoxicated or obnoxious ones, and not ALL female customers. Kinda sad to rule out an entire group of people NOT to dance for.
^^ I agree.
I haven't ever had any bad female custies, but I have had some HORRID male custies, so I would NEVER rule out dancing for a woman. IMO they actually enjoy the sensual part of the dance whereas men seem to be more in their own world and thinking sexually. A woman seems to appreciate the whole thing verses thinking about getting their rocks off.
When a custy asks if they can watch me give their partner a dance I say sure and let them know that I charge for them as well. (I have been known to reduce the fee for them to what the club charges me, and then saying it's my gift to them) Would you let someone come watch you give a dance with someone they didn't know for free? NO.
Am I in the minority? I LOVE dancing for girls. I guess I have some unexplored bisexual urges... ;D I've had nothing but good experiences with the women I've actually given a dance to. Now, when a big group that includes women comes in, they're usually a lost cause. It's just another social occasion for them. They rarely seem to tip or buy dances, and mostly seem to talk amongst themselves. I get the feeling that the women in these groups aren't particularly excited about being there, but are proving to the guys and each other that they are hip enough to do it. The guys are afraid to buy dances because they don't want the women to think they're pervs. A fun time is had by all. These groups make me feel like a freakshow, or an exotic backdrop to their party. Blech.
Normally the girls that come in as costumers are generally the snoody type. They sit there with their noses in the air, and have made some of the girls angry with comments they've said. I don't mind it if they're going to have fun, go to the stage, or at the very least show respect.
yeah, see, i definately would not be snotty. i'm interested in being a dancer, but more than that, i love beautiful women, and love the idea that i could acutally pay them to pretend to like me! :) i can't wait to get my first lap dance. ;D unfortunately, need to get a job and make some $$$ before that happens... *(~syghs~)*
Venusofwillendorf, come see me and I'll dance for you for free.
An appreciative female audience is worth more than money to me! :D
;D if only i could get to cali, yekhefah.....
Flights leave every day. ;)
ok darling. when i get that sugar daddy i've been looking for to buy me a plane ticket, i'll let you know. :)
i have been to several strip clubs. i always go with my boyfriend. i have such a great time. i have always been treated well by the strippers. i tip well and love the lap dances.
i think i am more worried about being respectful than most of the guys there.
Women customers are great so long as their behaviour is respectful, same rules apply as if they are a guy and I like them because it gets boring just dancing for guys all the time, I get to explore different styles of shows, where with the guys it's a bit routine with the women it's more sensual and more of a show, I get a lot of women customers, I seem to be a favorite with them, some are bi, some part of a couple, some order shows for their friends or relatives and some just like the show.
A lot of dancers are intimidated by women customers and avoid them, some women customers are just plain obnoxious, as for what the other customers think, doing a show for a woman adds to your credability as a professional and creates interest from onlookers in your show, some guys though can feel like their sacred man space has been invaded.
I like it when women come of their own volition to have fun, or with their guys for the sake of FUN. I've danced for women before, and they always enjoyed it. What I hate is women who come with their guys to keep them from enjoying themselves. But this doesn't apply to you. I think if you're there to have fun, are respectful, and let the girls know your intentions, you'll be fine.
I really like dancing for girls. It's usually pretty easy money. Just get the guy they're with to buy the dances and you've got free advertising if you're dancing out on the floor. Nothing gets guys' attention like girl-on-girl dances. If the girl seems into it all the better. If the girl is really enthusiastic and having fun I might even say to her "Alright sweetie, help me make some money!" in a fun way. This makes her feel like she's dancing too, like it's a group effort. This especially works with the girls who are wanna-be strippers. The guy they're with will usually buy more, and when I'm done it's usually pretty easy to get dances from the guys who were watching.
I really hate girls when a) they start giving dances or get on stage. You don't work here, honey and you are taking our money! or b) they are rude, think they can get away with more because they are female, or they make comments.
But usually I find them to be an undervalued asset since most girls ignore them. More dances for me!