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Any dancers like 2 way contact?
I've only been here at SW a short time, but in that time I have been surprised at the apparent conflict between non-contact dancers, contact dancers, non-contact custies, contact custies, not to even mention the dreaded "extras" discussion.
My question to the dancers is do any of you actually enjoy, or not mind getting touched by a custy?
In my early days of SC'ing, I never bought a dance cause 1) I was cheap, and 2) I am shy and did not know what to do. Then as time went on, I started getting a few dances, where I would dare to touch the dancers legs. Then some dancers encouraged my to touch more, never breasts or coochie, but just about all over. In our town, it is medium contact at best. I try to be very gentle and soothing, almost massaging, especially to the calves and ass, which I figure must get really sore. A couple weeks ago I rubbed a dancers ass much more vigurously than I would normally have, and she seemed to really dig it, said so, not sure if it was SS or not, but did not complain.
I can understand that grabbing when a dancer walks by is uncalled for, and trying to touch out of bounds is totally not cool, but a nice touch would seem to have to be nice once in a while.
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I don't mind getting touched by a custy if he doesn't try bull like sticking his fingers in my or sucking on my boob. >_o Goddess I hate that.
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It depends, if it is one of my regulars that I have had a chance to get to kniw I don't mind. B ut if this is our first dance together and you can't keep your tongue or hands to yourself it will probably be our last dance. You guys are paying us to "entertain" you, just sit back and relax and enjoy the ride, you don't have to try to make us feel good.
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i prefer that they just let me do the dance honestly. very rarely if ever have i "wanted" a guy to touch me. i don't mind the legs, back etc. but i wouldn't say i like it or want them to do it.
my 2cents.
ok--maybe if i was attracted to the guy i would "like" it, but even then i still have to worry about management/other dancers seeing it, and also i have a man at home and i feel gross when i come home to him with other guys germs all over me. :)
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Hygiene - just think of the last person that licked that very same spot. Ew.. It is also quite disgusting for some guy, that you have just met to try and stick his tongue in your ear.
Fingers will stay unbroken and on your hands if you keep them to yourself - just because you saw that on a porno doesn't mean that your dancer of choice likes it too.
Do not try and adjust my clothes, such as pulling my t-bar or G string up the crack of my ass - it's already where it should be and I'll thank you ever so kindly to leave it alone.
I know what I am doing, do not get a death grip on my hips and try to make me hunch, grind, push into your lap. Not only is this painful but it makes me uncomfortable and we wont be doing a second dance.
GENTLY! Do not try and "make biscuits" with my boobs, even if they are well done augmented breasts they still have feeling in them and that hurts when you squeeze them to hard. NO NIPPLE PINCHING - this fucking hurts. I can not stress this enough.
( Unless of course you know she likes it, then pinch away )
Are we well acquainted? Do we know each other well? If not, at least ask - all she can do is tell you no, or that she doesn't like it. Asking first will save you from getting an elbow in your face, seven inch heel in your groin and a host of other distasteful and naughty things we ladies have to do to bad, bad boys from time to time.
Skin to skin touch is sexy and nice, when it's wanted and returned in the same manner.:) Also , you have to remember this is our JOB - We are pleased when we get paid and tipped generously.
Miss R
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Oh don't get me wrong, the touching on my part is for my enjoyment. I was getting grilled one time by a woman who did not see why I'd would want to touch another woman besides my wife. I thought about it for awhile and ame back with:
Suppose you are walking through a new department store and you see a fur coat on the isle, your gonna pass your hand over it as you walk by, eventhough you have no intent on buying it, it still feels nice to touch it. Well, that went over okay, until she pointed out that she can do that for free and it costs me much more than free. :)
I love the way various parts of a woman feel, almost as much as I like to look at them, the small of the back, the stomach, the spot just inside the hip bones, and of course a nice ass feels good too. Heck, I'll even just shut my eyes and let my hands see for me.
Ah fuck it, I'm leaving work early today!
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I was getting grilled one time by a woman who did not see why I'd would want to touch another woman besides my wife.
Wow. She's certainly lacking in imagination.
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Pssst.. CO, thats called.. bitchy. :P
Miss R. :)
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I used to hate it. When I moved from NY to FL I wasnt used to being touched at all. All of the clubs I had worked in up in NY were NO TOUCHIE. So for a while I was creeped out. Now? If the guy is obviously clean and the touching is gentle, a nice touch on the back is nice, or the sides... legs... kinda.
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"I threw up in my mouth a little.." LOL. No touching please. I'm nauseated by custie groping. You can only grab me if the bouncer can grab you and toss you out.
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I'm going to make myself sound like a prude but I dislike being touched. I've turned into the bitter, numb stripper though.
Nothing shocks me anymore.
I've had guys pull their cocks out, hold me down, pull my hair, bite me, choke me.
Whether I like it or not it's gonna happen though.
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I don't mind being touched.
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I don't mind it, so long as it is standard in the club and in the context of a lapdance as opposed to some guy trying to grope me for free. I think you might be hard pressed to find a dancer who really can't wait to feel customer hands on her though. What I really don't like is the guys who are like "Tell me what you like" and "I want you to enjoy it" - that just makes me want to go "STOP PRESSURING ME!"
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One dancer I know likes contact, but it's a very personal thing. We're friends OTC, and despite being distinctly attracted to each other we've always behaved ourselves. (She's married and although she's very unhappy in her relationship we've come to a tacit agreement that her being unfaithful is something she'd be very uncomfortable with.)
However, she likes high contact lap dances. The rationale behind this is that a private dance is a fantasy experience unrelated to how we behave with each other OTC. We frankly both find the lap dances fun, but we both also understand that the lap dances are a "one-off" not to be repeated in the real world.
Beyond that, pretty well every dancer I know is not particularly enthusiastic about "intimate" contact, (breast, bum, etc); not least because most of the custys wanting said contact are not men the dancers find personally attractive.
Phil.
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Fully agreed with Crow and Jenny, while I'm not exactly "I looove being touched, I do this job so I can satisfy my desire to be touched all the time" if it is normal for the club, I'm cool - for the most part. Leave the nipples alone, and if you apparently cannot keep saliva in your mouth at least keep it away from my hair.
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It's annoying. But if my club were a touching club and part of the job, I suppose I wouldn't mind. NEVER would I want to be licked, though--GROSS! I keep rubbing alcohol in my locker, just in case someone one thinks it's a dandy idea to lick my face like a dog!
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...lol @ the dandy idea !!!
i cant take it. no licking and no boob squeezing no panties-sneaking...i feel violated
i love stage and air dances,,, :-[
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Some contact from the customer is part of the job. That helps sell multiple dances. But I am not talking about between the legs touching and trying to draw milk out of our titties.
If the guys aren't GENTLE, then I gracefully move their hands.
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Ugh. I absolutely hate it. To me, dancing for the customer is for him to see me visually. For him to think I "like him". To keep him company & to listen to him or to have a conversation with him. Not for him to grope me like we were dating eachother. I would never let the customer do that in real life, yet just bc he's paying me, it's okay? That makes me feel I'm at the borderline of being a prostitute. In the beginning, I would tolerate it, but it gave me the chills. Now, I can not stand it & will not tolerate it. I hate it the MOST when guys kiss me on the shoulder. That's intimate & should be reserved for your special someone. It makes me sick that they think it's okay. I am not a customer's girlfriend or date. Customers that keep their hands to themselves...that's the best & I dance the best for them as well.
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don't males get off more on visuals anyway?
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I like being touched by a good looking, generous, good smelling customer. But only a little. Nothing dirty.
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Even when and where permitted, not all touching is created equal. I could live without the grabbing, pressing, pulling, scratching, squishing, pinching, mashing and any action that leaves an imprint, draws blood or deposits saliva. I would prefer light touching, brushing, caressing and any tenderness that's minus squeezing and friction. If a custy is really fishing to send a shiver up my back during a dance where two-way contact is permissable, it's more likely to happen with the gentle skimming borne of adoration than the death grip borne of entitlement, but don't get your hopes up. Being touched is not something I am enamored with; it's something I accept as part of what makes the customer hapless .. er .. I mean happy.
-Ev
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Originally Posted by evan_essence
Even when and where permitted, not all touching is created equal. I could live without the grabbing, pressing, pulling, scratching, squishing, pinching, mashing and any action that leaves an imprint, draws blood or deposits saliva. I would prefer light touching, brushing, caressing and any tenderness that's minus squeezing and friction. If a custy is really fishing to send a shiver up my back during a dance where two-way contact is permissable, it's more likely to happen with the gentle skimming borne of adoration than the death grip borne of entitlement, but don't get your hopes up. Being touched is not something I am enamored with; it's something I accept as part of what makes the customer hapless .. er .. I mean happy.
-Ev
Wow. Beautifully stated.
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Sorry to intrude, but I hate it when a dancer approaches me for a PD, and places her hand near my crotch. THAT is not a turn on, it's annoying... to me. So, I think I know how it might feels wearing the other shoe. Though I could never walk in a pair of 5' inch heel shoes ;)
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Since I've gone back into dancing, I know have really toned legs compared to before and when a guy rubs them and make a postive comment then it kind makes my day, I don't mind being touched.... always exceptions though.... :)