my wife died last time I was here
Ok how do you deal with a customer who starts crying? I went up to this guy and was chatting and I asked him f he's been here before and he nodded then started to cry and said the last time he was here his wife died at home while he was at the strip club........whoa I didn't know how to react I felt super uncomfortable....what do you think I shouuld have done?.........I'll tell you later what I did end up doing...
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WTF? That would set off my bullshit meter, but then I'm suspicious by nature. What did you do?
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Originally Posted by XoStellaOx
Ok how do you deal with a customer who starts crying? I went up to this guy and was chatting and I asked him f he's been here before and he nodded then started to cry and said the last time he was here his wife died at home while he was at the strip club........whoa I didn't know how to react I felt super uncomfortable....what do you think I shouuld have done?.........I'll tell you later what I did end up doing...
Um, provided he wasn't messing with your head, he shouldn't have even been there. If a death is that raw he needs to stay home. Why freak everyone else out.
That's provided he wasn't looking for a pity-fuck or something like that (cus that's what it sounds like to me).
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Uh...I don't have the slightest idea how I would handle that...
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yeah...the guy was probably trying to find a pity fuck.
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so uhh still waiting.....what did you do?
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Omg.. I would of not walked away, but ran.. ran away very fast. Not to mention if he WAS telling the truth that whole issue has seriously dangerous overtones that I would not even want to touch.
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no he wasn't trying to find a pity fuck.....he just looked very sad like he didn't want to be there....why he was I have no idea.......anyways I sat there silent for a sec after he told me and then when he started to cry I put my hand on his shoulder and said I'll be ok.........I soon left him alone.........was not about to pursuade him to buy a dance no way!
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I had a regular who died.. very sad.
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I have no idea why this was posted in Customer Conversation :O
FBR
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btw it was posted in customer conversation because It was something that was said while i was talking to a customer!!!!!!!!!! where else would I have put the post
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i ust to dance with alot of army guys and i would here alot of sad stories some were real and some were looking for pity attention i am a very sentive girl so i could bank on this. I would have offerd the custumer a hug and chatted him up some and then made my money. but thats me.
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I would have offerd the custumer a hug and chatted him up some and then made my money. but thats me.
That's very caring. In 2-3 minutes you would have made a big difference in his life.
There's a time in dying when oxygen deprivation makes the patient say strange things that can be painful to hear. Maybe the nurse told him to take a break and he went to a club for normal human interaction.
After losing his spouse, he was probably very lonely and again looking for human interaction. I doubt that he walked in intending to cry, but sometimes the sadness just overwhelms you.
I used to have lunch at a club with a dancer who provided color commentary for me. She pointed out a guy whose wife had died several months before. At first he sat alone in the corner. When dancers came to chat him up, he sometimes cried. Over time he made friends, and the club became the social core of his life. From there he was able to rebuild his real world life.
Sometimes a dancer has problems, too. I once met a new dancer who had severe post partum depression. I spent my fun time connecting her with mental health and social services, but she made it.
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Ive had a guy tell me about how his friend/wife/buddy died and started to get all sad. When it happened it was at the end of the dance. I was nice and listened for a second then started to tell him that it was great that sometimes you have to spill it to someone. Then told him to go home and rest and relax or go out with the guys. He was all thanks for listening to me n such and didnt mean to tell me blah blah blah but thanked me for being so nice.
The time only took about 2 more songs with him.
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Tall tales & truth- occasionally they're telling the truth about deaths and illness......you can figure it out from corroborating details (I love catching f*ckers who try to say they're Special Forces soldiers when they're not...not getting that one past me, dude!)
But anyway, strippers love widowers, so I can see custies making up stories for attention.
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I've met a few customers in this situation. They are in the club to be distracted, and that is what I do. If they felt like just wallowing in greif they probalby would not have come out to the club. So I do something shocking or silly to make them "snap out of it". That is why he is there.
You could end up with a customer for a while. Eventually they learn how to have fun with out having to be so distracted, but they will spend a lot of time and money in the strip club in the mean time.
If it were me, when the customer told you about how he just lost his wife, I would have offered my condolences, but also would have immeadately jumped into what a great place this is for relaxing/decompressing etc. Then I would have said something like "She has a great body!" referring to the girl on stage, "I'd love for her to lick me all over!" His mind will jump to that visual, and he will be completely distracted and feeling better. That is why he came in, and that is what we do as strippers.
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^^ Paris, I think you've got the right approach
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Yes, Paris is right.
I did meet a man who had lost his wife and her mother in one year and had 3 girls to raise on his own....he seemed to be truthful, so we talked and I tried to give good advice. He was appreciative and tipped me for my time.