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how to tell a custy" I'm not going home with you" without sounding rude?
Unfortunatly, I get asked to go home with guys alot for some reason. I'm a clean dancer( absolutly no extras) and tell all of them it's against club rules to date a custy and I don't want to get fired, but they say well this girl does it and then I say well if she gets caught she will get fired and it goes down hill from there. I hate it cause I will be having a wonderful time talking and getting dances from what i think is a gentleman, but then it turns the other way around when the question is popped and gets umcomfortable. How should I say no without sounding rude?
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I've run into this problem. I figured out that, after you politely turn it down the first time and they continue to push it... There isn't really a polite way anymore. THEY'RE the ones being rude. You don't see someone out of the club and repeatedly ask them out after they keep turning you down.
Still, I know it's good to try to stay polite... to a certain extent. After telling them it would get me fired, I tell them it's just not safe. After that, I tell them I may consider it if they came in and got dances from me a few more times. Usually, the guys who push it are cheap anyways. Turning it around on them like that usually scares them away. :D
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lol i used to always say "you know, i really don't think my boyfriend would like that" or "honey, you've got about as much chance of leaving here with me as you do of walking out of here and seeing a parade of talking animals driving down the street"
some customers found my sarcasm funny, others didn't bother me again after that hah
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lol i used to always say "you know, i really don't think my boyfriend would like that"
Yep, that is a good way. I was asked 1 or more times every time I worked! (danced in Vegas so just about every other guy wants in his hotel room action). It got to be such a pain in the ass. I would say "I don't think my boyfriend would like me doing that, sorry not gonna happen". If guys repeatedly pressed the issue then I would tell them flat out, "if you want to have some good lap dances with me great, if you're going to keep asking for sex I'll walk away". And yes, they ARE the ones being rude not you. So don't worry to much about it. Be polite say no, and if they persist tell them you are there to entertain and you don't work outside the club.
I used to want to get a badge so when a guy asked me I could flash it and scare the shit outta them for soliciting. Never did it but wanted to. 8)
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I tell the jerks who ask me to go home with them that I am a dancer, not a prostitute. That usually shuts them up pretty fast , lol .
Those kind of customers are usally a waste of time in the longrun anyway because what they are really looking to buy sex, not dances.
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I always tell them that if they want to see me ouside they have to come in very often and buy dances so we can get to know each other and I can make sure he's not a psycho. They usually lose interest and go after someone who's easier to convince. I use to tell them we were'nt allowed to go out with customers, which was a lie, but there's always the girls that will and it ruins it.
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"Working Vice is my day job..."
"I have to take care of my daughter, since the father doesnt pay child support. And this is my 2nd job. I would love to party but i got too many responsibilities."
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lol tj!!!
If he is not spending i'll laugh at him if he asks the question...and usually walk away.
IF HE is spending i let him spend a little longer until i answer the question. My answer is , "im a dancer, not a prostitute." Then say if i was a prostitute i would be making a whole hell of a lot more.
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Yea seriously, we pay for your time, if we aren't doing that, don't be all about fantasy with us.
Show us the door.
However, this was asked once and I think Paris said she makes up some astronomically high number like 3k or something... I think I remember her saying that. But not safe to do in todays world I don't think.
::Mast::
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Oh and if they accuse anthor girl of going with custys don't tell everyone in the dressing room and label her and extras girl. There is a large chance he is lieing. Trust me.
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oh yeah I know I don't even ask which girl he's talking about if they don't name somebody. I just say" well I hope she doesn't get caught cause it's against the rules."
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"well, i would, sugar, but my brother might get upset. he waits up for me while he's cleaning his guns."
;D
as a slight tangent, i reccomend that all dancers, and all women for that matter, take self defense courses..... it's the best thing for men who don't understand that no means no.
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"I probably shouldn't tonight because this is my last tampon and no one else here uses the Super Plus kind, and I didn't bring my foot fungus cream but I'll come prepared tomorrow! So we have a date right!!!??? Oh my god I'm so excited, all of the men that I went home with last week grossed out at my cracked feet ~ you know because of the puss and everything ~ but I see that you are a better man than that and you don't care about that! :) Oh yeah and one more thing, you do like to take it up the azzz right? Because my boyfriend dumped me when I rammed my extra large vibrater in there so I'll bring that too, don't worry I'll wash it! :)
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Who cares if you sound rude?
I feel like if you treat me like a prostitute, I'm entitled to treat you like a pathetic john.
I relish in being rude to these guys because I get offended when they ask me to go home with them, especially if they are being cheap in the club. it's so disrespectful to come into my place of business and act like what I'm doing isn't sufficient.
Sometimes I feel nice and then I will say it's too risky. "I know it's only 1 guy out of 1000 that is psycho, but that's the one I worry about"....that way they don't take it personally, but they understand why you consider seeing them unsafe.
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I like what someone else suggested a few threads ago. Ask for an STD test first. That ought to put them off, or at least make it so you can string them along for another week or so. If they actually bring it in say "Oh yours was clean? Mine wasn't" lol or some shit like that
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" I'd need to see your STD test results first "
love it !!!!
I'm with Emily on this one. Any customer who asks to take us home is being rude and disrespectful to begin with so why care about being polite after that ?
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I just giggle and say maybe until he isn't spending anymore. Then I say, that will be $xxx, thank you for your time. Once I become very business-like, they tend not to push it. If they still do, I just say, "let me take a raincheck, maybe next time." Of I say that I'm going to have to ask permission to leave early, tell the manager, and have them thrown out. The last option is only for major sucky assholes.
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//Mad ducks in for a sec
Look, i just gotta say it... Some guys just shouldn't be coddled. Telling some dude off because he's being an ass isn't rude, and treating you like a prostitute is being an ass.
If someone is just plain ignorant of the way things work in a SC and is sincerely asking you out (as opposed to asking for a trick), that's a different story. That guy isn't meaning any harm, he's just got the wool pulled firmly over his eyes, so it might be kinda mean to be rude to him. But, believe me, i won't think you're a bitch for verbally castrating the other type of guy...
//and Mad ducks back out...
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" I'd need to see your STD test results first "
or say you are waiting for yours....
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Originally Posted by SW Siren
" I'd need to see your STD test results first "
Doesnt work, you'll run into assholes like me who have their ENTIRE medical record in the car. But I've never asked a dancer to come home with me, I'm too shy.
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Guys ask this it seems because believe it or not some girls do meet them outside of the club. It may be just dinner, or it may be a private dance recital. Maybe no sex. Lets face it men are men and if some hottie has turned us on and maybe some drinking and good conversation why does it seem outrageous that they wouldn't be an adult and ask for the cookie. I think some dancers may be less mature than others or maybe unable to deal with a natural progression in what is a sexual process, no matter what is provided in the club. Just tell guys the truth, like you would in any situation, I am not interested. Lets face it if your going to fuck a guy you generally know it within an hour, in the club or out.
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Well, it is all a part of the sales pitch. We want to get you at hot, that is, at the club.
If you get hot, you would want to buy more and more dances from us, and possibly VIP room action. We want you to have a good time at the club. That's the whole purpose.
As far as being a natural progression in a sexual proceess, well, is the bucket half empty or half full. It is your call, if you say half empty, yes, half full, it is still yes.
As far as I am concerned I don't really give a damn.
This natural progession begins and ends at the club door.
Regardless of whether one knows whether one has met one's soulmate at the club, one should take a reality check. "Thank you, sir. Have a nice evening".
In other words, thank you. Now, get lost.
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all i say is that "i don't meet outside the club"
However many times they ask I will keep saying it. I don't care what other girls are meetin g you at the motel to fuck you, I don't meet outside the club. Seriously when most guys say that other girls are doing it, why don't they just ask those girls? Most of the time they are lying.
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Ok, go out with them, let them work out all the logistics, the hotels, motels, dinners, other arrangements, and get things ready. Comes the big night. You don't show up.
Hey, what's to keep you from reneging on the whole deal? Nothing!
Really, I don't see the problem. You can say, yes, yes, yes, I will see you, I will see you.
And not do it.
Oh me, Oh my, you want to come home with me after work? OOOhhh, can't do that, coz, you see, I had this wild party last night, and had all kinds of junks just thrown around like condoms, blood stained Kleenex tissues, and some dumbass took a krap all over the room.
Now, you don't want to see my place like that?
And we can't do it at your place, now can't we? You sure your wife won't mind?
Well, good, we will make a three some then, see you in a couple of hours. Love ya!