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"Hunnie You Don't Belong Here" UGH!
So many times i'll start talking to a guy and 5 minutes into the convo i always get the same speech.. "Hunnie your not like the other girls here, your innocent and sweet.. you don't belong in a place like this" What the Hell is that?! We're all here doing the same thing, what gives them the right to tell me after knowing me for 5 minutes what i should and should not be doing?! it's so annoying!!
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it's like the old "you're too good for this, why do you work here?" line. i usually just say "if you think this place is so bad, why do you come here?"
i hate it that customers who know nothing about you or your life pass judgement and tell you that you're too good for the job you love. it makes me so mad!
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Ooooh that's a good one, i'll have to try it 2morrow night.. Thanks!! ;D
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or he could just be saying you don't look like the stripper type.... I wouldn't get defensive and think its rude. It may be a bad "line" and be used to spark more of a conversation.
I actually have a buddy of mine that won't ever get a dance from the "I think you are to good for this" girl. He feels bad because when he gets a lap dance he wants to get into it (maybe push the envelope slightly). With the "I think you are to good" girl comes around all he wants to do is talk but then feels bad because then you aren't making any money so he i just tell him to give her a $20.
Also if we say "you are too good for this" that doesn't mean that we think it's a bad place to be. We have dirty minds and strip clubs allow us to vent out a little
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Well, however it's meant, it comes out sounding like a majorly backhanded compliment and is quite insulting if you think about it. I don't have a good comeback, but usually I say something like, "But I do so well here," and that usually helps sell, since they figure if you do well there you must have something fun to offer.
I hear it every so often. I also hear "You're so classy; you're not like the other girls here." Guess what? That's followed by a proposition for OTC activity 98% of the time.
Anyhow, ladies, I have a news bulletin for everyone: Guys talk a lot of shit to strippers. Best to learn early and often to let it just float by.
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"No, I'm just too good for YOU! Goodbye! "
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^^ Too right!! LOL!
This is just a spin-off of Colleen's thread. But yeah, we all know what you mean.
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Typical CS (customer shit). The ones that lay this played out line down usually dont end up buying dances because they want to "show you more" by taking you out sometime...blah blah blah.
You may be coming off a bit too innocent and sweet....I say slut it up a bit but ya know dont cross the line. I got that alot when I was new...now I say "wouldnt you want to corrupt me then?" Most laugh...now its fun to think of crazy shit to say to them.
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Although it comes out all wrong, in the end is just essentially a form of compliment.
Why not smile and say thank you just like all the other dumb stuff that comes out of their mouths.
Chronicles of a strip club DJ:
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Customer: "You don't belong here, you're too sweet."
Lilith: "It's always the quiet ones, honey."
Customer: "You're too classy/too intelligent for a place like this."
Lilith: "Yeah, and I give good head too."
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I get this all the time, I think guys use it on all strippers to flatter them. I just say "Thank you." Take it as a compliment. The only time it bothers me is when they use it as an excuse to not buy dances. I hate that, that's when I would use the "I'm just too good for you" line.
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Ha!! Yes, I remember back when I danced I got this a lot. I don't think they men mean it in a mean way, so to come back with a flippant answer would seem not very good for business. I think they mean to say that you don't seem like the stereotypical 'harden-moneygrubbing-strungout-skank" that they expected to see at a strip club. Maybe they haven't been to very many *shrug* I've never had them say it to me in a mean way, so I don't take it like that.
I'm sorry to say that I fell right into this same narrow mind thinking when I went to Amsterdam in the redlight district. I expected the women in all the windows to be, well-read above, but if they were, it didn't show on the outside, they were seriously gorgeous! Anyway, back to the topic at hand......
In answer to that comment, I always smiled sweetly and and said "oh, I'm just working my way through medical school, cuz I really need the income". Some would feel sorry for me (oh, poor student that is struggling so hard, I better buy her some dances or just plain hand her money)
Or they would continue on the same conversation and ask me what speciality I'm going into. That was my favorite part because I would make up different lines of study many times in one night--erectile dysfunction, gynocoloy, and just whatever else amused me at the time. Sometimes they bought a dance, sometimes not, (but more often they ended up buying because then the conversation was there and they always remembered me throughout the night). If they didn't buy a dance, atleast I amused myself while trying to hustle which makes it fun. Hey, gotta add in a little fun or you'll never make it throught the night.
If I would see the same guy again weeks later (and forgot him) and he would ask how "such and such field was going" and being caught off guard, I wouldn't remember what specialty I had told him, I would have NO idea what he was talking about, but I would just say OHhhhhhhh, yes, I've changed that. My speciality is now about on sex therapy-would you like to help me out with my homework tonight??? That worked more times than not to lead straight into the back room for dances. (I never did 'extras'--just to be clear--not that there is anything wrong with that, but each person makes their own decisions for their boundaries).
Most, I'm sure, knew I was full of shit, but thought it was entertaining as, something different for conversation than the same old sstuff were used to hearing......I was just lucky that I never ran into a Dr. cuz that would have been very awkward!!!!
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Sometimes I get that, and it's usually just bullshit they say to any girl, or a copout excuse for not buying dances, or a misguided attempt to play the white night ::)
Either way, when some guy tells me I look to sweet/innocent/nice I reply with something like, "appearances are deceiving" or "yeah, my regulars say I only LOOK innocent" or "men say they love getting a naughty dance from an innocent-looking girl" wink wink.
If they don't buy right away just move along. No need to waste time or energy on this type of bullshit.
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"Hunnie your not like the other girls here, your innocent and sweet.. you don't belong in a place like this" = I wanna sleep with you.
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yuck. when i hear stuff like the title of this thread, or the thread below it, "you're too pretty to be doing this", things like that, it makes me want to roll my eyes and walk away. great restraint and good acting skills are necessary to stay in the game and remember you're working. it is hard to conceal my normal attitude from arising at work...
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billie jean....is not my luvah....
I dunno, I have to say that you're reactions to this may be a little dramatic/over the top.
I've said the "Wow you don't seem to fit in here" but I've never meant it as "not a stripper" but sometimes, you have one dancer that can rock a pole and belongs in a better club making better money. Sometimes if I am not in the best mood, and the dancer makes me feel better I start saying things that I would to any human being responsible for that, dancer or not.
Fact is, ya'll perform a needed service, whether it be legally helping the old guy handle the loss of his wife, or that 21 year old hoping to get married in a few days, or that one regular who wants to blow his money on a nice set of hips. These comments are the breaks.
There are sooo many reasons people may say that shit, and I'm sure no matter what you all smile and nod and say thanks, but let me lay down a few possibilities for "You're too classy" or "You're too good"
1. he wants OTC activity and is trying to butter ya up.
2. he has a big event tomorrow no one to go with and would like to turn heads, non sexual.
3. he's being nice and saying what he thinks.
4. you ACTUALLY may BE classy
5. you may be that someone's atf
6. He may have just gotten back from some dancer who offered him extras and he's weirded out...or...he took them and wants some from you.
7. He liked the conversation
8. He may be depressed. And wants to try out his confidence.
And these are probably the people who ask your real name too.
I see how you could be offended by 1 or 2 or 6, and hell, ALL OF THEM CAN BE OFFENDING depending upon the context of which the person sold you the line. What matters most is how to use it to make a bigger bank roll. I've used both, but have gone broke on the girl I've told it too. However, taking offense to these comments seems TO ME like a big catch 22. Either you don't want to be reminded that you're too classy for this or too good, or really you all want custies like Mr_Punk who come in and never look above your neck and refers to you as 'Lady over there' <no offense to mr_punk but his personality supports my theory he's the customer who wants 0 stripper shit, and just wants to see tits and ass and kitten. I mean he will NEVER tell you "you're too good for this">
Anyways take it for what it is, I don't mean to offend anyone, I'm just not afraid to say that I've told a couple strippers these lines and I by no way meant that in a derogatory way but thats because she had the conversation to back up the comment. I also emptied my wallet on said person because I like the traits said dancer must have to have me make those remarks, adds to the fantasy/turn on, but its not like I have it on the back of my business card either :/ It is what it is.
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I get that all the time too. I've got the sweet innocent look and I play it up big, and I tell everybody who asks that I'm a preschool teacher (they LOVE that). They always ask what I'm doing there and I just give them a big smile and answer, "Having the time of my life, what about you?" Reminds them that it *IS* all about fun, after all!
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i get that all the time... i used to work at a dive place when i started where the majority of the girls were somewhat washed up, where as i took care of myself and stood out... guys used to always ask me why i wasn't working here or there.. i know very well that i could be but i knew there was less competition for me at the place i was working yet... plus i wasn't quite ready to move on to an upscale place, such as the one im working at now.... i always kind of took it as a compliment if guys would say that...
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just enjoy it even if you don't appreciate it, it's obvious that the guy is not trying to insult anybody.
It's the money you want and you are feeding us lines all the time anyway so just keep em coming
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The atmosphere and overall sensual ambiance of the strip club, allows the customers to feel at ease. What I mean by this, is that they feel more comfortable approaching such beautiful women, who they otherwise probably wouldn't normally just walk right up to you and start blabbing. This adds to the fantasy of some to think..."Hmm I wonder what i'd be like to get inside her head, or be with her for just a moment", than thats where the enticement comes into play. The customer, seeing as how you are physically "vulnerable".. i.e naked, are not deterred but feel more comfortable in conversating because they don't have to put any types of defensive behavior into play. Some customers may sometimes feel that you are more approachable, and don't "look" the part of a dancer, if they don't frequent or may simply have insecurities about themselves. They want to feel good, and knowing that you are a provider of comfort, makes them feel more apt to shell out money, if they can relate in some how.
OR they are just jerks that want to get thier spot blown..and don't give a shit what they have to say to get it done.
Sorry for the speech..but thats how i feel anyway. :) peace and love dear ladies.
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I just tell them that every man wants a lady in the drawing room and a whore in the bedroom...Then I tell them I need help fine tuning my whorish tendecies since I've got the lady part down... and ask if they would like to help. ALWAYS gets dances (feels so good taking their money after a beginning like that, too).
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I usually get that alot. They they say "what else do you do other than this"? My reply..... " Oh some girls that work here with me live in my home and we have web cams throughout the house, you wan't the web sit?
There eyes bug out of their head!!!!!
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i went to a strip club this one time, i wasn't dancing or anything. and some idiot said that to me. what are you doing in a place like this? i said "just picking up chicks" }:D
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wouldn't a guy rather get a dance from a beautiful girl rather than a shabby looking dancer???? from the looks of you in your profile a guy would have to be an idiot to not wanna dance from you..... something would seriously have to be wrong with the guy.....