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hey, trinigal.. oh my god.. i'm in the so so so same situation aof you!! i'm from Canada too.. i.m about to go to Florida, miami for dancing.. to raise money for school... i'm afraid to death.. but it's also a good challenge for me...
thank for this site... it's help me very much!!!
good luck
:)
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I'm probably bumping an ancient thread but...
Thank you so much for telling about your first night, that was really helpful. I'll definitely be a bit more faithful to the gym while I'm waiting to get started with stripping.
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Yeah the leg thing sucks, but I noticed that after a couple months of dancing, my legs are the best they've ever looked. and I've got tons of definition i never had before, even when i was a cross country runner!
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Hi. I'm Ximena, from Peru. I started strippeng three weeks ago, for three nights straight. After that and an unfortunate event called the earthquake, I have not been able to do any more. First, there was some damage in the club that needed to be repaired, but we couldn't hire anyone to do it for the mourning days, which paralised the country. After that, the club was trying to wake up from this nightmare bit by bit. Everything repaired, and half the dancers missing, wither they had lost family or, like me, had gone off to the south to do charity work, the club opened for one night. Bad idea. You'll see, after something like this the last thing on men's minds is to go to a strip club. The manager decided to temporarily close down, I should be going back to work in a week or two.
But as for the three night that I got to work, yes I know it feels like crap after your first night. I came home and slept until the following night, and I din't make so much money the second night because everything hurt so much that i felt uncomfortable and the customer CAN tell, but they think that you just don't consider them important so they won't spend money on you.
It's better, from what I learned from Adela, who has the locker next to mine, to give it a two or three day rest between nights during your first week.
Now as for amateur night, i really don't know. We don't have those here, and I don't work as an independent contractor. I am on a payrole and receive a salary each month, for showing up 4 days a week for at least six hours. I get to choose the days, of course. Plus my salary is all the money i make from selling dances and champagne room. I think it's a better deal, because being on a payrole means i get to have sick leave and insurance and things like that. But I wouldn't trust the other girl if I were you. Sometimes other girls get jealous of what you earn and in three days i've seen more catfights than in 3 years. Better to speak with the manager.
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I know its a older post but Im thankful for it! I imagined the first night might be exhausting but you gave great detail of how hard its going to be glad Im practicing now, even though Im still going to be sore! Hehe I just hope to have a great start as you did :)
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Totally feel you on the first night experience. After speaking with a close friend who is also a dancer it's normal to feel like you've been kicked around the next day after a night of working. My first night was a few days ago, and that was a strange and insightful experience. An honest reflection of how things went -- I recognized a lot of weaknesses in myself. I didn't know my boundaries and was running around telling customers that I was new thinking that would be of an advantage to me. It wasn't -- they just kept asking me personal questions and touching me instead of paying me. I didn't know any witty responses to say to customers. I was naive and allowing things said and done to me that I shouldn't and normally wouldn't. I was giving my power away to undeserving people (I want to get psycho analytical and argue that as a woman this is how I have been socialized to behave, but I digress). The amount I made was really low, and I could have made more if I carried myself differently. I quit the next day because I'm currently in school that is just as emotionally and mentally demanding, and to imagine myself putting my all into both was imagining my own demise. I failed a lot my first time. I came home feeling dirty and shaking and weak and paranoid (the weed I smoked on the way home definitely exaggerated these feelings), BUT I DID NOT FEEL DEFEATED. I feel stronger from those failures than I did coming in, and more motivated to go back to prove to myself that I can and will do better. Part of me now wishes I didn't quit cos of school, but I know my energy level, and I'm a person that needs to focus on one thing at a time and needs a lot of time to recharge after a lot of mental and emotional exertion. I do intend to go back because I KNOW I can do this. I have support from coworkers and the house mom who even said to me the night I auditioned and my first night that I am good. It was interesting to learn that is way more than just being pretty and being borderline naked for hours for men. It can either be an empowering experience or a disempowering one...
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paintgoddess
Hey girls. so i finally worked my first night. Made $309 in six hours. It was easier to sell dances than i thought. Thanks to SW I knew to ask "do you wanna keep going for another?" right at the end of a lapdance. That in and of itself I feel doubled my earnings because most of the guys were repeat buyers!
Nothing... and I mean NOTHING could have prepared me for how tired I was at the end of the night. My big toe on my left foot and the one next to it are numb. I didnt realize i'd have to go up on stage so much. My legs felt like they were going to give out when i gave multiple dances, esp after coming straight down off of the stage. I know it will get better.... but tell my body that. I woke up with chills from the exhaustion and felt like i had a hangover. BUT i did not drink a drop last night, except for water. From reading on here, I made my decision to be one of those dancers that does not drink alcohol on the job. I've heard someone on here say that after such and such many years of dancing they felt like their body had gone through a meat grinder. That holds all new meaning to me after the first night. THe audition is no sweat compared to surviving a night physically. I regret that i quit working out two months before dancing for the endurance alone. somehow i thought i could walk in and be super stripper because i wanted it so badly, but i was stuck within the limits of what my body could do. Just trying to give a realistic picture of the first night. Please tell me it gets better. it felt like hell.
I've already felt like i've gotten lied to. They say I"m supposed to show up for Amateur Night tomorrow night. I dont want to go. When i was hired as an independent contractor, they told me that i did not have a set schedule, and to show up when i wanted to work. It was suggested that i work 4 nights a week. So... i figured that them telling us we had to show up amateur night was more like a "suggestion" than a mandatory thing that if you dont do it you'll be fired. The terms of my contract also state that either I or the people I work for can terminate the contract at any time for any reason without notice. Then i asked another dancer when we were on our way out to our cars if that was a suggestion or mandatory... and she said oh no... you DO have to be here. We all have to be here. Great. THey say you cant trust anyone in this business. So who do i believe? I just feel so lost. I dont know if i can physically endure tonight without injury to my body. It was nearly too much last night, but I got through on adrenaline if nothing else.
The money is strange. I made my portion of the rent last night. Its sitting here on my desk in a perfect wad, and I dont care about it. i'm too tired. it doesnt mean anything to me right now. i did NOT expect this. It strange what happens to you psychologically throughout the night--desire for money vs. your will and your body. My body won. You wont know it until you do it. strange.:-\
I really need some encouragement.
I hope this helps with giving a realistic picture of what to expect.
Good luck and $ to all of you ladies, and especially all of the recent first-nighters.
Maybe I'm weird, but i didnt feel this way at all. i had fun and felt comfortable and not as nervous as i thought i would. i def felt the burn after the first few songs of a set on stage or during a dance, but i just pushed through it and in private dances changed positions if it got too uncomfy. so all you girls out there, you never know til you try!!! and I hope things get easier for you girly
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I just started at a club about a week ago (have danced three shifts since starting). I danced for about 6 months 5 years or so ago, but back then I was strung out on drugs and was just looking to make a quick buck for the next fix. I am now clean and have been for some time, long enough to feel comfortable dancing sober. I let the men buy me red bulls when they want to buy me drinks ;). Some people think this may be pushing my limits on sobriety, but drugs are EVERYWHERE, not just strip clubs, and I truly enjoy dancing, entertaining, and meeting new people (especially ones that pay me frequently).
I wasn't too sore because I have been working out and doing yoga like a maniac the past few months, but I also don't know any pole work yet (hopefully going into the club in the morning before they open to the public sometime soon to practice). I did realize the shoes I wore my first night were super cute but my feet were KILLING me the next day. I bought new shoes (on clearance, only $20!) and they made all the difference. Last night I felt like I could have kept going another 6 hours in them if need be. I had no idea footwear would make THAT big a difference.
I made decent money, but nothing to write home about. The DJ there is very friendly and he told me my dancing looks great and I have amazing potential, and I've been told from several people (not just at the club) that I have a good body, but my hustle is off. I'm so thankful I found this board, I'll be using the tips for hustling like crazy and hopefully when I go back in on Friday night by earnings will be doubled! Thanks ladies! The internet is so wonderful to be able to connect strippers to each other, because obviously stripper to stripper interaction in the club can be very catty and just isn't my goal for being there!
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Im going to dance at a club for the first time ever after chatting with the owner and applying through an adult job listing site. Im very nervous as to what to expect in terms of getting along with the dancers and not making a total fool out of myself as i can't do anything fancy when it comes to pole dancing just a few basics. I guess my question is are there any etiquette rules i should know about that you wouldn't know from promo modeling or camming? The owner has invited me down for the weekend to check it out/ perform if i want to. Ive been thinking about breaking into dancing for years and Im so sick of online work I think Im ready for a change.
Sincerely,
Ugly Duckling of Dancing - Hoping to be a Seductive Swan :P